I'm courting this gal presently. Unfortunately based on the stats, she dumped every guy who intends to court her from the time she was hurt by another guy. Her friend told me she had a "past". I'm assessing my feeling if change but i feel i still care for her. How can I accept her?
2007-03-29 17:55:39 · 40 answers · asked by dreamer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her friend is not much of a friend. She sounds like she will dump you also so you don't really need to worry about her virginity. Unless you are both in love and committed to each other her virginity or lack thereof is her business, not yours. If her "friend" didn't tell you exactly what her past is, you should ask the girl directly.
If she does sleep around, stay away from her. You will end up being hurt and you can catch things from people like that.
2007-03-29 18:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three things come to mind.
First, it is reasonable to expect fidelity if the two of you are committed.
Secondly, not being a virgin is not that big a deal to a lot of people.
Thirdly, if she will and does accept you as you are, and she stays with you, she is probably a wonderful person who has had bad luck with men before.
Conclusion: You have nothing to loose by keeing an open mind, and short of setting yourself up for hurt, an open heart.
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-03-29 18:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question and explanation don't really seem to go together. If she is not ready to make a commitment to someone and that is what you want, you should probably move along. When you love someone you accept things about them, but you don't change your standards. If you are looking for someone that shares the same values as you (staying a virgin) then you need to keep looking for that person. It is never a good thing to settle.
2007-03-29 18:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, is it 1950 again, and no-one told me?
Get a life! The best pianos have all been played before... Who the Hell are you to judge this girl? Some Islamic court? What makes you the arbiter of morality and decency? Perhaps you'd like to stone her to death, maybe that would satisfy you?
You could also work on your English - your syntax is poor, and your construction leaves much to be desired.
2007-03-29 18:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think a non-virgin girl overall is more mentally and emotionally stable than a virgin..especially an older one.I am not willing to state why i think it is, but i have expirianced that girls who are tripped out on still being a virgin seem to me a bit off center. where girls who have a had a few physical relationships, seemed to be a little more level headed...as far as the "past" thing..we all have one..so what..the both of you need to get over the past and begin a new begining. you need to quit worring about virginity...she needs to learn to not carry that baggage around..to let it go and try again.
2007-03-29 18:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by KARL L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned about this because you are a Christian, then this might not be the girl for you. I'm assuming you are a virgin and a Christian and are waiting to have sex. If this is true and you pursue this lady things will most likely get out of hand. I suggest you talk to her about this, but remember temptation is difficult and if you have a relationship with her you could jump into things you are not ready for at this time.
2007-03-29 18:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already said that is her 'past', so why should you so scared and bothered by that? And that you have said that she has been hurt by a guy before, and the reason why she dumped every guy is because she dont want history to repeat. If you care for her, you dont have to bother about that because all that matter is her heart not her body.
2007-03-29 18:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by cSs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once beaten twice shy. she is afraid of being hurt again so she hides in the shell, that shell is dumping every guy who tries to get close to her. You can only accept her if you can manage to get her out of her shell then you will be able to know her better coz from what you saying you don't know her that much thats why you basing all this on what her friend says. the best thing to do is get to know her.
Good luck
Tony
2007-03-29 20:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by anthony k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this time in the world, almost no girl will be a virgin by the time they mature. I'm sure she's trying to put the past behind her. If you really care for her, don't let that stop you.
2007-03-29 18:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by psygrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We the viginity thing is who cares... so she was not the ugliest, nurdiest girl who no other guys wanted to be near crying herself to sleep each night as all alone and nobody wanted her.
The fact you want girls to have lived like that shows you dont deserve anyone.
Clealry you like hurting girls and lonliness and rejection hurts.
Its more the hurt by the nasty guy which may be the problem. It may make any relationship difficult as you may remeind her of the one who hurt her and it will be hard to get her over that and see you wont hurt her.
Ie think like somone who was raped or abused but not that bad.
how to do that is another question.
Now funny I thought people dated as the liked each other, they found each other fun and loved looking at each other and checking out each others love bits and wanted to touch kiss and make out all the time.
Whats virginity got to do with that
2007-03-29 23:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋