What do you do when your life is turned upside down?

Question

The pros - i have freinds (not a total loser or geek on the computer)
Cons-
When your best freind took your ex girlfreind.
When you same best freind owes you 50$ and he doesnt have the money to give back even after 3 months.
When you find out your mom favors your youngest daughter and your dad favors the older daughter and you are left in a shallow hole?
When this girl you dont like threatens to kill herself if i dont love her back? (she carved my name into her arm...)
When your grades have been at a standoff and will only decrease?
When its 9 o clock at night and i need to study 3 vocab lists and do 3 hours make up work?

I am not suicidal...i just want some comfort...

Answer 1

Life can be tough but you will grow from this. That old saying "If it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger" applies here.

Concentrate on your school work. Change your friends. Stop loaning money. The middle child is often isolated like that but don't let it work on your self esteem. For now focus on your studies.

Do you have a school counselor you can talk to? You really do need to vent some of your frustrations. This is also a good forum for venting. Good luck.

Answer 2

Wow. Not to sound mean but you have got some problems. I will go over each of them just because I've been through hard times and I know how good it feels to have someone to console you.
1. If your best friend took your girlfriend he was not a good friend to begin with, so just be glad you found out what kind of person he was. As for the girl, I'm sure you're much better off.
2. About the money. .Friends do that all the time. It's just life. It does; however, change your perspective of your friend. Just learn to let simple things go.
3. I'm sure you're parents love you just the same as your sisters. Maybe they see you're going through a difficult time and they don't know how to treat you, or talk to you. Just make the effort to be with them and you'll feel better.
4. Okay, I have had this happen to me no joke. But you can't be responsible for someone else's feeling. If you're catering to her obsession it will only get worse. So try not to have any contact with her for a while.
5. Your grades are slipping because your depressed and basically just don't give a F***. Just focus on your life getting better, and your grades will too.
6. See number 5

Hope I helped.

Answer 3

Hi, well when things are upside down in my life I just give my head a shake and tell myself not to give up. Things are tough sometimes and some people are very hard to understand but all you can do is give support to others ya know and try not to think to negatively about things. Just don't let everything keep piling up.

You need to try to address things by talking to people and ask why they seem to treat you in such different ways before you get upset about it because they could be doing that but not even realizing it.

You have alot on your mind and the girl that's talking suicide just let her know that it would be better if your friends and you have too much on your plate right now and tell her that if she is going to kill her self because you don't love her that you will be more than happy to get her some help to deal with that but you can't handle that stress and worry.

And ya know when someone owes me money, I just let them know hey! listen that money I lent you I need back. Like you have to start standing your ground with people seems like your one of those guys with a big heart that people take your kindness for a weakness, put a stop to that otherwise people will walk all over you, now and forever.

Well take care and good luck.

Answer 4

Possible answers for comfort:
1. Pray
2. Go to bed on time.
3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.
4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.
5. Delegate tasks to capable others.
6. Simplify and unclutter your life.
7. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)
8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.
9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.
10. Take one day at a time.
11. Separate worries from concerns. If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety. If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.
12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases.
13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.
14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.
15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.
16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.
17. Get enough rest.
18. Eat right.
19. Get organized so everything has its place.
20. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.
21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.
22. Every day, find time to be alone.
23. Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go to bed to try and pray.
24. Make friends with Godly people.
25. Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand.
26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good "Thank you, Jesus."
27. Laugh.
28. Laugh some more!
29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.
30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).
31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).
32. Sit on your ego.
33. Talk less; listen more.
34. Slow down.
35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.
36 Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before. GOD HAS A WAY OF TURNING THINGS AROUND FOR YOU. "If God is for us, who can be against us?" (Romans 8:31)

Answer 5

I went through the same thing a month ago. Your're not alone, what I figured out was that the worlds not going to change for me. My whole life was turned around. I just started being who I wanted to be. I wasn't bending for the world eighther. If it makes you feel any better [ my best friend started spreading rumors about me that where not true. My grades where falling my ex tried to kiss me! in the cafeteria! And then my friend embarased me in front of the whole school!!!!my parents will never trust me again! And I have a science report due in an hour.]

Answer 6

It sounds like you're at that age when stuff happens. I suggest you write it all down and work thru them one by one, taking care of the important things first (like getting your grades up) and letting the things go like some sick bimbo carving her name into her arm (that is definitely not your problem nor your concern). You should never lend money to anyone unless you can afford to do so and then never concern yourself over them paying it back to you. Just never lend it if you can't spare it, knowing full well they may never pay you back. Then be happy if they ever do repay you. If your girlfriend was an "ex" then why should you care who takes her? Sounds like you're just a worrier about a bunch of things that don't concern you or shouldn't matter. Your life isn't turned upside down, but their life is turned upside down. Don't get involved. Only be concerned about what's going on for you...get your studies done so you can have what you want in life, joy and happiness.

Answer 7

But you have friends. They can support and comfort you if they're true friends. Try talking stuff out with them. Trust me. Talking about things and venting makes you feel a LOT better! As for your "best friend" taking your girlfriend, obviously they weren't really your best friend otherwise they wouldn't have done that to you. I'm sure your parents still love you no matter what. Being the middle child is very tough. I know that from experience. About the girl... Personally, I think she needs psychological help!!! She can't force you to love her... it doesn't work like that. Maybe talk to her calmly and tell her that she can't force you to love her. She's giving you an ultimatum. Its like...if you dont love her, then she's going to cut herself. Either way...don't blame yourself for what shes doing to her own body. Be more optimistic. You don't know for sure that your grades are going to drop. As for the homework....thats what coffee is for! I hope I helped a little bit!!

Answer 8

Stop sweating the small stuff. The only thing you mentioned that needs your immediate attention is your schoolwork.
Everything else that you brought up here won't amount to a hill of beans a year from now, but if you don't make it in school you may be dealing with the consequenses of that for the rest of your life.
Take it from a guy who knows!

Answer 9

Adapt the "Who cares" approach. It actually works. My best friend took my ex girlfriend. Who cares, she was slowing me down anyway. My friend owes me money. Who cares, I will just ask HIM for money (in small amounts so that in the end it adds up). My parents don't favor me. Who cares, I don't favor them either, besides I'm moving out. This crazy girl is threatening to kill herself if I don't love her. Who cares, I'll turn her in to the counselor. I have a lot of HW. Who cares, my grades won't get better anyway.

Answer 10

This may sound selfish but forget about these jerks and study your vocab lists. If this person wanted to kill her self she would have done it by now. Keep your parents away from your kids until they can learn to love both children equal. as for the boyfreind, girlfriend situation toss this siutuation to the curb and move on.