Baby Daddy Drama.............?

Question

Here's my problem..... I am no longer with my daughters father, and he hasn't really been helping me to support our child. Especially knowing that I didn't have a job. As of last week Monday I just started working. Anyways, his way of helping me out is buying a case of diapers and giving me $20-$30 every 16th and 31st. Well, it makes it even worse because I live on my own (through section 8) and I have no way of paying my bills. He tells me that he can't give me much because he's gotta pay for his car or he's gotta pay his family and his girlfriend back cause they paid for his car. He's a bus driver for a tour company and he makes $7.50 an hour. We haven't been together since last year in November. Everyone's advicing me to take him to child support but I'm tryin' not to stress him out or
put him through so much. But it's hurting me as well. being broke and not being able to buy my daughter the things she needs. PLEASE HELP ME............ I need advice.........

Answer 1

I can't believe you said you don't want to stress him out or put him through so much. Girl, look what you're going through! That is his child too. Make him support her!
Good Luck!

Answer 2

You don't say how old either of you are. You are better off without this loser. You don't want him hanging around. But you are worried over not stressing him out? You have more problems than you are aware of and many more than anyone on this site can help you with.
This jerk leaves you with a baby knowing you don't have a job and you worry about him? He has another girlfriend too?

You have to report child support to your section 8 manager. It will increase your rent amount. You are (probably) better off if he does not pay you support. Just forget him and go on to the next passage in your life. $7.50 an hour at full time is only over $15,000 per year income and that is gross pay BEFORE any deductions. Hell, I spend more than that shopping.
Get an education and make something of yourself and be proud that you don't need him. You can do better than him.

Answer 3

By all means, listen to your friends. The courts will make him take responsibility for his actions, and make him pay child support. His "need" to pay back his family or new girlfriend will be taken into evaluation by the judge and/or attorney, but given the fact that he does not owe a bank or other financial institution, I doubt it will persuade the courts that much. Keep in mind that the amount the courts set will not be a lot as he is not getting paid a lot. You can also seek assistance through local charities to help you pay bills. Start by contacting your city hall and inquiring where to seek assistance for the basic needs, like your gas/electric bill.

Also, don't count on any court to "make" him pay. My niece's father hasn't paid her a dime in over 18 months (and his support was set at 650 bucks a month). He has yet to have a court appearance or arrest warrant issued for him.

Finally, to help defer the cost of an attorney for yourself, see if you can get an attorney through the courts. Sometimes they don't enforce aspects like visitation and will seek financial support only. But there usually is only a minimal charge, if they charge you at all.

Please understand that your health is important. Stressing yourself out is not good for you or your baby. If he's "stressed out" or put through so much, tell him to go to his family or his new girlfriend to help relieve his tension. He's obviously not concerned about your well being or the well being of the child that you both share.

Answer 4

You need to move on with your life, get an education so you can get a decent job. I know its not easy. I've been there and done it ( and worked a full time job)! But, thats the only way you will truly ever raise yourself out of the situation you are in now. You can pursue child support if you want, but you're not going to get much from a guy that only makes 7.50 an hour anyway. Check with Community Colleges in your area. I'm sure you will qualify for financial aid. Whatever you do, don't get involved with any of these online scam schools. Their degrees aren't worth as much as toilet paper. Best of luck to you!

Answer 5

I would understand if he had another family to support .A car is not as important as ur daughter. Get him for child support. My husband has to pay child support and i hate it but that is his child and i believe he should share the financial responsibility with his ex baby mama . He should be lucky to have had some one like u .My husband ex baby mama goes to court every 2yrs to ask for more money even though she don't need it ,she is just evil and she knows she has the power to take his money .So get child support it is not ur daughters fault her daddy has a new car, Or find a man who will take care of u and ur daughter? There is alot of good men out there.Good luck!

Answer 6

ok, look. just as much as you don't want to, child support his a$$. think of your kids. if he don't help much, that will. they just take out a percentage from his check and give it to you.

or you can get government aid and he is the one that has to pay it back. kinda like child support but this covers hospital, clinic, and government transportation for your kid(s).

i'd go with child support. remember, think of your kids.

Answer 7

You really do need to follow your friends advice, only problem is he doesn't make very much. You picked very poorly when choosing who to make babies with.

Take him to court, his problems are just that...his. You have a child to raise and it takes money. Don't make any more kids, it will just make things worse.

Good luck with this one.

Answer 8

Put your daughters in day care and go to school to be a nurse so your kids won't have to worry about money.

Answer 9

I s he worried about you or his girl? Dont worry about him. He needs to help you take care of his little girl ! No excuses!! Take him for child suuport! It is his daughter too!

Answer 10

there is no drama here you need to do what is right for your
girls, he need to step up and pay chidl support, he has money
for what he want, stop look at stressing him out, take him to
court like yesterday. your girls need his help. it just that simple.