Do guys get intimidated of dating girls who are more successful?

Question

than they are?

Answer 1

Well in a way yes. It is in men's genes to be successful and take care of their ladies. When a lady does not need him it makes him feel bad. In fact, usually successful women have a tough time staying with men. Because it is ingrained in them too to depend on a man to some extent. It sounds very sexist but it is certainly true and we evolved this way. Also recently I was listening to a radio show discussing women business owners and their relationships and almost all of them said that it is tougher to stay with a man, and that they were divorced.

I personally would like a woman less "successful" than me. I say successful in quotes because I do not consider money success. I make a lot of money and I would like it if my wife can support the children and do other things that are considered not cool for women to do anymore. I consider a woman who is a good mother a very successful person. In addition, it seems that these women are more often happier than the others.

Answer 2

I know guys are intimidated by a girl whose father is well known and successful, so I would think yes, a guy would feel intimidated by girls who are successful, however these days guys are looking for an equal (to pay the bills) and some guys do make great salaries these days so if you take that dating to a few steps further you might need a prenup, and that scares the heck out of guys. I would suggest your dumming down your profession if you want to go out and date. You can tell them later when things get serious, or, never tell them.

Answer 3

I'd expect there to be a good percentage of men who would find that rather intimidating. Society has continued to put it in our heads that a man has to be a provider for a woman. In his mind he might think he isn't doing what he's supposed to be doing when he has a lower income or a low blue collar job compared to his significant other. You're always going to find a guy who is intimidated by woman whether its how successful she is, if she is taller than him, more popular, etc. Hopefully you can find a guy that just likes you for you and maybe even allow you to spoil him every now and again without feeling guilty about it.

Answer 4

Im sure some do. I certainly don't care. I've mostly dated women who will never be successful and I hate it. Regardless, the issue is pretty much moot because one thing that is never mentioned is that highly successful women, if they are going to be with a man, are going to be with one just as successful or even more successful. Its the women who have the problem with a considerable "success gap", not the men.

Answer 5

I don't like to use the word "intimidated" in that context. It irritates me because (to put it politely) it sounds so narcissistic. That's about as nicely as I can figure out how to say it.

It's more a matter of personal taste in regards to what a man want's to get out of a relationship.

Personally, I find a woman to be particularly attractive when I am a bigger force in her life than her career is. In short, she would take pleasure in taking care of me and actually have time to do it. I married a woman who was a full-time wife and mother for the first 7 years of our marriage. I worked two jobs at the time, simultaneously, to pay the bills. She still takes really good care of me, even though she works now and the kids are getting older. That's the way I like it.

I'm at the point in my life now, though, that I really wouldn't care if she were more successful than me or not. But then, we are both in our 40's-it's time to start smelling the roses anyway as we prepare for an ultimate retirement from the corporate world.

A man who is looking to date and/or marry a bill-payor or who is looking for a wife who can purchase more "stuff" would likely prefer a woman of higher financial means or a more high-powered career than he because he wouldn't have to work as hard himself to accomplish the same purpose.

The word "intimidate" implies a feeling of inadequacy. It's not at all about feeling inadequate, I don't think for most of us, but rather personal preference.

Answer 6

Men like to be the supporter, not the needy. Just make sure you let the man you are dating know you appreciate him and be specific. AND that money is not an issue and tell him what is important to you. My husband does not make what I do, but what he does is more important to society. I have had to remind him of that. Sure, I make more money, but he makes the difference.

Answer 7

that is very stupid.
one's success shouldn't matter in a relationship!
it's the love they have for each other

Answer 8

I think most guys do at least they talk like it. I find it a turn on myself the more succesful the more it turns me on.

Answer 9

Only if they aren't mature men.

Answer 10

Mostly... yes!