My girlfriend is not fat, but she's definately not skinny. I've always thought that I loved my girlfriend, but shouldn't I be physically attracted to her as well? Is it normal to wish she was more attractive and thinner?
2007-03-29 15:47:49 · 39 answers · asked by kirishsirik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is normal to think that, but you have to ask yourself why you were attracted to her int he first place
2007-03-29 15:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been dating a while, chances are she is suddenly looking fatter than you thought when you first started dating. I would say, if it is bothering you to the point that it's all you think of, there is something wrong with your relationship. In which case, you could 1) talk to her about it or 2) end the relationship and find yourself some skinny, malnutritioned bag of bones you will feel more attracted to. On the bright side, there are probably a lot of things she is noticing about your looks that aren't so darn great either. But she likely overlooks them because you have other positive qualities that make her want to stay in the relationship.
2007-03-29 15:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like the relationship is about to end...physical attraction, contrary to popular belief, is actually very important. I was in your shoes 2 years ago. The truth is that you probably don't like her as much as you once did, and now her looks have become an issue due to that. If you loved her personality to death-you would find her attractive. I'm sorry to say this but I doubt you will ever get past it-maybe it's time to move on.
PS-If you do break up with her, don't tell her it's because of the way she looks!
2007-03-29 15:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we all have an idea of what we want physically---young guys are always going to put an emphasis on this stuff---but later you realize that a woman has other attributes that REALLY matter and that is what really is important. There is nothing normal as you put it---there are millions of people in the world--too many to set a measure of normalacy on. Enjoy the girl that you have--relax and have fun---good luck
2007-03-29 15:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be physically attracted to the other person if it is to work. I tried giving a guy that I didn't find attractive a chance and he was just fine but I never fell in love with him because I wasn't attracted to him.
2007-03-29 15:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to want to change a few physical attributes about your significant other, as long as you realize that in reality, what you see is what you get. If it's really bothering you to the point where you're not attracted to her, it make me wonder how you got together at all. Maybe you do love her and maybe you don't. Love has nothing to do with beauty.
2007-03-29 15:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess... but just remember cute and beautiful last. if you want her to be like the "hot" girls, then you are being superficial and need to get over it. my boyfriend is the same way, hes not fat but he is not skinny. sometimes i wish he had nice abs and pecks (about the only things he doesnt have) but we cant all be perfect and i adore him anyway. plus he has a cute face lol.
a little wishful thinking never hurt anyone, but if you're not attracted to her at all then somethin is wrong.
2007-03-29 15:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
attraction is different from love.
I assume that you love her. And who can explain love?
Are you attracted to someone else who has the thinner and more attractive look?
On a Humanist perspective, development of human potentials (based on social norms) is the main goal of everything. In this perspective it is just normal.
However, society and even religion dictates us (specially conservatives) that we ought to love "purely" (how do we define it?) disregarding external aspects of beauty.
i hope it helps..
2007-03-29 16:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by apex12rodriguez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be attracted to her and sooner or later she will sense that you are not attracted to her and it will hurt her feelings. Different people prefer different body types and it doesn't necessarily make you a pig. Just don't hurt her feelings because she doesn't live up to your physical expectations because that would make you a bit of a pig. Your feelings are not uncommon just choose wisely and considerately what you should do about them.
2007-03-29 16:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, its normal as long as it doesn't get in the way of your relationship. If she has a healthy lifestyle and is happy with herself, it is probably something that you just need to deal with and move on. If she is trying to become healthier herself, then the two of you could do activities such as cycling, hiking, or skiing together. Ultimately, if you love her, this will be trivial, but the grass is always greener...
2007-03-29 15:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by caoimhe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the natural male mind right there. But if you still love her then it shouldnt be a problem. Why not you both go jogging or something. Then she wont feel like you are calling her fat and endorphines(or however you spell them) make you feel even better.
2007-03-29 15:51:30 · answer #11 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋