do you think Autistic people are virgins for life?

Question

it sure sounds like it, I'm 19, which I just turned last January, first year of college is almost over, I've never had a girlfriend, never been out on a date, I'm still a virgin(obviously), all I've done is kiss a girl, like tongue-to-tongue, which was through playing truth or dare. I only have 2 friends which I mainly hang out with, all the rest of them are like acquaintences, like I just talk to them on the phone but don't hang out cause they never call me, I always have to the one calling them. Who knows?, maybe they are just pretending to like me. My social life is pathetic, I go to a community college, I don't party because the friends which I hang out with don't know where & when parties are at, we never get invited, there are times we do but it ends up backfiring & then ruins our nights & weekends. I have Asperger Syndrome, which I hate with a passion, I wish my parents never had me. I haven't gone on fun trips like to Cabo, Palm Springs, Havasu, etc., like most teens do.

Answer 1

First off, you should see your life as a blessing. You were born for a reason and you shouldn't take it for granted. I understand it's hard to live with any kind of illness that keeps you somewhat isolated, but you have to learn to live with it. Complaining and being angry about it won't change the fact that it's there, so why bother? I know this is really hard to do, but you can, it just takes a lot of practice.

There are plenty of teens that aren't lucky enough to travel outside the city they live in, you aren't alone. Do something with your life that makes you feel like you don't have Asperger Syndrome. You can do anything you want. You have so much potential, and you don't even realize it!

People will always judge others, so forget those things.

You shoud read a book called "How to Win Friends & Influence People" This should help you out in the friends department. Eventually, girls will notice. Maybe they'll notice before the potential friends do, you never know.

If you don't know where parties are at, make your own. Bring your friends. Make it awesome and invite others as well. If they don't come, it doesn't matter. As long as you have fun, that's what counts.

Volunteer somewhere. You have to figure out what you're good at, and wondering when you'll have a girlfriend or even real friends won't help you know any of it. Go out and enjoy life. You've only have one. Be strong, I know you can do it.

Answer 2

No, just find more people like you that you can relate to. People are pretty ignorant about things like Asperger's. If you look I am sure you can find groups for people w/autism and the various spectrum disorders who will understand and be a true friend to you. friendships shouldn't be one sided and if you are making all the calls then it isn't a friendship. My son has an autism spectrum disorder that has been compared to Asperger's Syndrome, and I know how people can be, I don't know how you feel, but I know how people are. There really is no such thing as normal and there is nothing wrong with you. Don't base your happiness on being accepted by everyone especially the college party crowd. Good luck sweetie

Answer 3

I'm on the spectrum too, and you know what? 14 hours ago, I hung out with a girl.

And as a note, if you think all Aspies die virgins.....

I had to get tested for HIV 3 months ago. And I don't do needle drugs. And I'm on the spectrum. I tested negative.

You need to start small. Going to big parties probably will destroy you because it's too much stimulation and too many people. Go to small parties and try to hook up with people on individual levels. And don't assume because everybody acts rambunctious, you have to do the same too. Be yourself and don't try to act out. You will get the flow one of these days, my man. In fact, try to find a young Aspie support group in your area. They'll help you learn how to socialize.


*Added* Thomas, this guy has a hard time socializing because of his disorder. He just can't "hop to Hawaii" and socialize and come into it like a duck to water. Quit being such an ignorant pompous know it all ***. You know nothing of the disorder so shut up and do this kid a favor.

Answer 4

If you wanna go to Hawaii "like most teens do", then go. Who's stopping you? Go get soem fake IDs, go drink at clubs, hit on girls for fun even if it doesn't go anywhere, and take random trips for spring break. It's called living your life and being in college. It's not hard. Really. Try it and quit feeling sorry for yourself, or else you'll end up spending your life feeling sorry for yourself instead of living it.

Answer 5

MY autistic friend has a new girl every month man. He's a beast with women. He's just open. He talks, laughs, makes jokes, just talks. He's not shy. That's all ya gotta do man. Go to a random party and meet some people.

Answer 6

be yourself, believe me, theres a girl out there who wont want anything less, and that's the one you want to impress anyway. all the spring breakers and rich kids that seem to have this great time really aren't. you will have more fum by yourself than you would with them. they subject themselves to public scrutiny and shame on a daily basis for entertainment, you feel left out now, but in a few years, you will be glad you werent there. wait until you see how they turn out in 10 years. i promise youll be doing better, and probably have better looking and behaving girls around you. hang in there dude.

Answer 7

Yes

Answer 8

YES. 10 year old question but the answer still remains the same.