Should hate trouble us all?

Question

David Caruso, CSI Miami, just said, "Hate should trouble us all."

Have you ever hated anyone?

How did you overcome such a despicable and ignorant emotion?


(Cofesssion: When I was younger, I hated my boss.)

Dear "wolfeb" - Wow! I am so sorry for your agony with your father-in-law. If I were God, I think I would have forgiven you for feeling the "H" word.

Dear "wofeb" - real life is a hard tack bisquit at times.

Dear "Kate S" - You know he did. Good observation.

Dear "CD" - I am sorry I hurt you with my question.

Dear "CD" - Thanks. My misunderstanding.

Answer 1

No, to hate is to waste energy that could be used toward something positive.

I used to think I hated my parents because they wouldn't let me do things that I wanted to do. I know better than that now but I couldn't see that when I was a child. I guess I overcame my hate for them as I grew older and wiser. I love them now because I understand where they were coming from.

Now, I really can't say that I "hate" anyone. I dislike alot of things that people do but don't feel that's the same as hate.

Answer 2

My father-in-law lived with us for 11 years, and he made my life miserable with his lies, rotten attitude, and accusations. He went so far as to tell other people that we never fed him, which could have gotten us into big trouble if anyone had actually believed him. (No, he was not senile or suffering from dementia or Alzheimer's. He was just a spoiled 80 year old brat accustomed to getting his own way.)

Did I hate him at times? You betcha I did. Was it wrong to hate him? Big time.

Basically, I gritted my teeth and prayed for forgiveness as soon as I started feeling that way. I hung in there and asked God for the self-control not to ax murder the old coot.

Honesty does compell me to admit that the situation started to turn around a couple of years before his death. . .all because I finally blew a fuse. He'd been nasty to everyone for days, I was sick, and he was acting like a pure D horse's patoot one night -- threw his food at me and threatened to hit me.

I always thought seeing red was just a figure of speech. Nope, it really does happen. I verbally reamed him up one side and down the other, then told him that if he couldn't treat me any better, he could find a new place to live. As in tomorrow, if not sooner.

Was I right to do that? Heck no. Did it work? Uh. . .yeah, it did.

I'm not sure what the moral of the story is, other than the fact that after that night, the bottled up hate seemed to vanish on my part. He started to behave better and treat me with respect.

I *do* have to wonder what would have happened if I'd been that honest with my anger right from the very start. Maybe that's the key to dealing with hate -- get it out in the open before it festers and destroys.

Edit:

Uncle Wayne, thanks for the kind words, but that wasn't meant as a "pity party for poor Wolfeblayde." More of a cautionary tale about what happens when you stuff your feelings into a big black emotional bag. In retrospect, I realize that's not how God wants us to deal with them.

And yes, life is a hard tack bisquit at times -- hard to chew and even harder to swallow.

Answer 3

Question: Did David Caruso say that while removing his sunglasses? http://www.poetv.com/video.php?vid=8733

(Watch it. You'll laugh. It's fantastic.)

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Now that I've gotten that out of the way (HAD to be asked first!), yes, I have hated people. I am quick to anger, and out of the seven deadly sins, that's the one I fall prey to the most. I am a naturally aggressive person, and tend to make friends and enemies both very quickly, and very intensely.

I don't know if I have overcome what hatred I've had, but I do my best to try not to let it affect how I treat people whom I dislike, and I try not to let the dislike rise to hate. We're not all going to like everyone out there, but I do my best to remind myself that they're human just like I am, and that I should be the one to make amends if I do feel dislike swelling into hate.

I also remind myself that my belief leans towards the idea that hatred is based on exaggeration and projections of how I THINK the other person is acting, not how they actually are acting. I try to see them truly, and I find that I get less angry when I view them in that light.

Answer 4

Well everyone should be troubled by hate, if someone does not feel troubled by it...keep away from me. But it would be nice if hate could be eradicated.

I have felt a form of hate toward some people, though more like they've just made me mad. I don't think I've ever permanently extremely HATED anyone.

Answer 5

Hate is a terrible disease for our souls. Sometimes we do not realize that we hate a person. We put it off as just disliking the person. As simple as it seems, hate keeps us from receiving extra graces and blessings from our Jesus. Of course, there is also anger, impatience, ingratitude etc.

How we can overcome them, is to go to confession regularly. Eventually it just fades away.

I really hated my cousin and it took me years to overcome this hatred. My aunt, her husband and children, my son and myself, we all live in the same house. It is really terrible if you look at their laziness, sloppiness and lack of interest in any kind of housework. This was what caused the hatred to develop inside of me.

But I found that until this Lent I am finally overcoming this hatred with the help of my Jesus. Praise the Lord. For He is so good and Wonderful.

Answer 6

I learned to hate very young in life and only recently discovered that I had never really ever forgiven any one. My way of dealing with it was to get away from the person and cut that person off both physically and mentally. Killing them in my heart. I've been saved 6 years now and have only just recently began to have victory over my un-forgiveness. You have to forgive on purpose.

Answer 7

I have hated someone. I think what really changed my emotions is when I found out he had committed suicide. It is a despicable emotion, and it can follow with heavy feelings of guilt. Certainly no way to live your life.

*The mother of a friend of mine recommended that when you feel as though you hate someone/thing, you should stop yourself and say you are actually "negatively inclined" to said object/person. That has stuck with me since I was 9 years old. :)

Answer 8

Things don't really get to me that much. I may dislike someone, and if I really dislike them, I may think of them as a _____. But I don't get to the point of hating people. There isn't much a person could do to make me hate them. I look at the bigger picture of life, and don't focus or give attention to the things/people that bother me. There is something to like in most people.

Answer 9

I question hate--there are time I dislike with great intensity
Hate is more emotional than a planed out thought. A person who hates needs forgiveness. It's like a cancer

Answer 10

Hate can be a good thing........ For example I hate injustice, hunger, cruelty, the crime of rape


It really how you channel your hate..... If you are a victim of a crime, you might become a victimizer your self as a result. Or you can channel to help other victims of that crime.

The worst kinda hate is when you dehumanize the enemy.... like: "the jews are not human so its ok to kill them."