teens and sex?

Question

i am 14 and so are my 2 friends that are going out. i just found out today while we where at the movies my friends g/f(who is also my friend) was giving him a hand job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am so disturbed by this. and then when the b/f left the g/f said that they have been doing that for a while!!!!!!!!!!! and she told me that hes going get condoms from his older bro just in case!!!!!!!!!!!! i am just so ******* disturbed by this. what should i do? i mean these two ppl are like my best friends. i have talked to them but i no they dont listen what should i do???

oh and people please don't think i am jealous. never in my entire life time will i want to get a girl to give me a hand job or anything nasty like that.

Answer 1

Tricky..

The way I see it you are on a divide.
This couple are in the experimental phrase of life. They are young and exploring the human body which is natural. Mind you in a cinema, I agree pretty desperate.

As for the condoms no way.
They are breaking the law in a process they will both regret. They should not consider sex at such a young age. It is a very emotional process that will break the two of them. Possibly even cause damage them if they do it wrong.

You are right to be worried.

I would talk to them. Let them experiment and have fun but encourage them to keep it at that. Sex is a no and he should be mature enough and man enough to agree they should wait.
Yes men I am being slightly biased but he is giving us a bad name.

Once again talk to them and don't be affraid to bring a parent in if you feel it is vital.

All the best

moose

Answer 2

YOUR TOO YOUNG KEEP YOUR HEAD IN THE BOOKS AND DO WELL IN SCHOOL. YOU WILL HAVE PLENTY OF TIME TO EXPERIMENT WHEN YOU ARE OLDER AND WISER! TELL THEM CONDOMS CAN BREAK AND DO THEY WANT TO BE PREGNANT. REALLY SEX IS SOMETHING THAT SHOULD BE DONE WHEN YOU MARRY THE ONE YOU LOVE OR ATLEAST WITH THE PERSON THAT YOU THINK YOUR GOING TO MARRY.

You should just tell them that they will never get the first time back and if it is just for fun and not love they will regret there decision in the future because they have lost something that is very meaningful to many women to save for the first one they marry.

Anyways it sounds like you have a good moral head on your shoulders so if your friends want to mess up there lives there really isn't much you can do about it. Just stay in school,
study hard and when they screw up and get pregnant well you will be just able to say well I told you guy's this was going to happen.

God Bless your a good friend but that doesn't mean they will listen to you!

Answer 3

I would advise them not to. Its much to risky at their age. I would kind of be disturbed too, but more so that they were doing it in the movie theater. A little weird... They were doing it inside the theater right? But anyway, I would tell them the risks involved (chance of STDs, possible impregnating, moral issues). What I mean by moral issues is not necessarily how old they are or if they are married, but if it is out of love or lust. If they are really your friends, they will at least respect what you have to say. I'm not guaranteeing that they will listen to you, but they should at least not get all jumpy and defensive. You said that they dont listen, so make sure you calmly, politely, and respectfully explain to them. Tell them that you are really concerned and only want to help them. Hopefully they will listen, but if not, dont shove it down their throats. That will only tear their relationship with you apart.

Answer 4

If they don't listen when you talk to them , Maybe you can have a grown up open a discussion on sex before marriage. Any kind of sex. I have listened to my son' and their friends discuss what kind of girl they want to settle down with and my daughters and their friends and in both cases the answer was the same.
The easy girls would be okay for a one night stand now except the diseases you might get from her . But I want unused goods in the girl I marry and my daughters said the same.
Both your friends need somebody to sit down with them and tell them the facts of life. BOTH SIDES OF IT THE POSITIVE AND THE NEGETIVE.

Answer 5

You need to tell an adult- preferably your mother and then your mother can talk to the mothers of the other kids. This really is dangerous behavior for kids your age. Your friends will be mad at you, but this is just like if they were doing drugs- you should tell an adult. This is a serious matter. Really it needs to be dealt with by adults. And you don't have sex of any form until you are married.

Answer 6

You have to be confident that you at least tried to knock some sense into them.

It's their own fault they are doing reckless behavior without sense of the consequences, not yours.

There's nothing you can do really. Some people will not listen to reason even if it is for their best interests. They just have to learn the hard way when one/both of them get STDs or she gets pregnant.

Answer 7

While it's going to happen in private whether you want it to or not, in public it's kinda sick. I had that happen too me once ( I was watching the movie and this couple next to me were doing that.) so i got up and left. But being your friends I'd talk to the girl and ask her if she could refrain from doing that in public. Do it in a nice way though

Answer 8

its their choice but maybe talk to them both and see if they both actually want this or if they just think the other one does so they are going along with it. if they both feel they're ready there is nothing you can do or should do let them live their lives but if it ends horribly you have to be there for them both and not say i told you so it could go well or you could need to be both of their shoulder s to cry on. just try not to interfere too much or you could end up losing them both as friends

Answer 9

i think of it somewhat is their determination. 15 years previous & youthful are slightly iffy, yet youngsters older than that would make their very own judgements. in the event that they actually think of they love the guy, have been with him for a on an identical time as, and use risk-free practices, that is okay. in spite of the reality that waiting till their older isn't a bad judgements the two.

Answer 10

Hehe! You're at the age where you are aware of your own sexuality and are immensely curious about it. The purchase of condoms is a smart move. Just be careful !