i am in Law school, adnrecently ended up goin home with a classmate, that i dotn really know, because he is really shy. I was looking gorgeous that night, adn I guess that he was attracted to me and we spent all night toether adn we seem to have a lot in common. Well, I havent spoken to him since [there are 3 small sections of first years students adn we are in different sections...and it is very kindergartenish, when it comes to co-mingling] anyway, i rarely see him, adn i try my best to avoid him, because i am embarrassed. I dotn know what he thinks and I would liek to try to develop something with him, but we were drinking and I dotn know if its because of the alcohol that somethign happened..(i was not drunk, i was tipsy, but i knew what i was doing) I just dotn know if he was....i dont know what to do... I dotn want him to think that I expect something...and im not sure if he thinks im cheap now....please help
2007-03-29 13:31:36 · 18 answers · asked by on_a_need2know_basis 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI..I can spell, actually am quite good at writing..i just suck a$$ at typing
2007-03-29 13:43:06 · update #1
you should talk to him. i'm really shy too, and in a situation like that, i'd be wondering if you were coming on to me because of the alcohol or would you have wanted to be with me anyway. i cant speak for him, but i'd feel that it was just the alcohol talking but i'd love it if i found out otherwise. my shy personality would get in the way of me approaching you about it though. could be the same for him. theres nothing wrong with you approaching him to let him know how you feel though. you both might be happy you did. good luck
2007-03-29 15:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by some guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes that we later regret, and sometimes we can learn from them. So, stop fretting. It is normal for him to want to pursue the relationship, but since you don't then that ends it right there!
For whatever reason that motivated you to go to law school is crucial and you have to try to focus on that. Leave him to find someone else and involve yourself more with your studies.
You asked that you not be judged. But, remember that we are ALL judged at some time or another. It is up to you by what actions you want to be judged, though. Think about it.
2007-03-29 20:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a law student, you will realize that a open talk with the cards on the table can build a strong case, or land it flat on the floor.
I suggest you quit being a kinder garden person, and open you mouth and talk. Explain how you feel, and be honest. Hiding from him is not the best thing to do!
2007-03-29 20:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bigdog 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you needed some liquid courage to sleep with him...........
You seem confused. You stated that you try to avoid him, but want to develop something too. Then you don't know if he thinks you are cheap..............
What do you want out of this? A pow-wow and discuss that night of sex, or some kind of a relationship?
If you are interested in the guy, then approach him and ask him out for coffee. Talk about your classes and the mountain of assignments that need to be turned in. But don't ask him anything of "that night" or you'll embarrass both of you.
2007-03-29 20:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Made A Mistake It Was Reckless but I'm not judging you.....
Obviously you like this guy Good You realize it. I bet He likes you to contrary to belief i doubt he would have had sex with you had he not liked you
And if your avoiding him (you stated he was shy) your killing his EGO because hes going to think the sex was bad not good for guys they are sensitive creatures you gotta approach them with care invite him for coffee after class and tell him casually over coffee how much you liked him and how you were so insecure because you liked him so much that kinda avoid him then tell him you want to continue to get to know him but that you'd what to take it slower this time
2007-03-29 20:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by mzcokeacolababy07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not kindergardenish that you are acting this way, its more high schoolish. in kindergardern you didnt care who the other person was and what they looked like, you just wanted to play with them and they were automatically your best friend. so in a sense, stop being in high school and be more like a 5 year old. just walk up to him and stop avioding him. hes shy so ask him to the movies or for a walk around campus. its not hard, 5 year olds can do it
2007-03-29 20:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by sufreshman14 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just talk to him. You don't have to go right up to him and be like hey I have feelings for you. Just go maybe chill out with him for a little bit and see if he makes a move or something. good luck.
2007-03-30 08:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by joe d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him, if he is willing, go on a date without any drinking so no worry of it being a factor. on that date perhaps there will be a spark between the two of you. after all you did say the two of you have much in common
2007-03-29 20:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by j-blueman07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is jus to sit down with him and talk...u guys may have different sections but have lunch together or somethin, u must have his phone number or some way to get in touch so jus set a date and talk everythin through, explain yourself that night and tell him that u want to get to kno him gud luck
2007-03-29 20:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by 123 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is most likely thinking the same thing you are:
What was that all about?
What is she thinking?
Was that a one night stand?
And you are giving credit to his thoughts by avoiding him. You are validating his belief that you are not interested and that it was just a fling. Only thing to do is say something to him like...hey how's it going? So......what was your take on the other night?
2007-03-29 20:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by Tadow 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋