OK, she broke up with this guy only because he was playing truth or dare with his friends and her friends too in the dare he had to make out with one of her friends she getting low grades because of him but she really likes him what sould my daughter do?
2007-03-29 13:13:27 · 17 answers · asked by laurenwickwire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she should learn how to spell and use punctuation because you're hopeless at it.
2007-03-29 13:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your daughter is just upset because her best friend kissed her boyfriend. I would get jealous too, if my husband did that, dare, or not. Give her time to recover from this. As far as her grades, if any boy caused my daughter to have low grades, I would not allow her to see him until she improved. For love should build up, not break down. Love should not mess up ones life, but be supportive, and helpful. Does he help her to try harder to improve in school? Teen agers have alot of problems to deal with these days, having a boy/girl friend just causes many of them to be distracted, or stressed while in school. Let your daughter get help from a tutor, and let her decide what she needs to do with this relationship. Just give her motherly advice, and concern. Like you have been. Your daughter needs to enjoy her youth, for kids become adults to fast, and many of them have not transitioned properly. She might also not be emotionally able to handle the pressure of teen dating. These are just suggesstions, so I hope you don't get offended by them. :>)
2007-03-29 13:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, as a mom, you really should have better gramatical structure in your sentences =_= but, that aside, i think your daughter might be overreacting to the whole making out thing. i mean, it DOES suck that friends would do something like that, but you should talk to her and tell her not to think so much about it. since they've already broken up, ask your daughter if she really likes the guy, and if she likes him enough to give him another chance. if she does, then everyone'll be happy and her grades could get higher. if she doesn't want him back, but still likes him, tell her to focus on school so that her mind is distracted from him. the less she thinks about him, the better she'll feel
2007-03-29 13:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by miisty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay clear of this guy! If he is willing to make out with your friends...he is no good! Even if it was Truth or Dare, he should have refused if he had a girlfriend. Especially a girlfriend with the same social circle!
2007-03-29 13:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by tangerine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, who she is dating now will not affect her in the long run- it is not definite but most likely she will ultimately end up with a different man. However, her grades will affect her long term. It is hard to tell a girl with a crush not to see a guy anymore, so I wouldn't do that or she will resist and resent you. Instead, tell her that her grades are more important right now, and that she can still see him as long as she finds a good balance in her life between her studies and social life. The cheating thing is up to her. He is wrong for doing it and I would not want my daughter to date someone who cheated on her, but I would not prohibit her from doing so because it's kind of something she would need to learn from and deal with on her own. Remember, wisdom cannot be learned from others, but instead acquired through time by one's own self. Good luck to you and your daughter! I hope she finds a better fish in the sea and that her studies improve.
2007-03-29 13:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, I can't see any reason why you should be involved in HER relationship.
Secondly, even if it was a game, he shouldn't have made out with one of her friends, cheating is cheating not matter what the excuse!
Third, if her being with him is effecting her grades, as a mother you should lay down some ground rules on dating and being out when HW isn't complete and she isn't getting passing grades on the work/tests.
2007-03-29 13:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by lethalseduction85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She (you?) made the right decision in the first place. He sounds like a loser who can be led by the crowd. Not good material for a long term relationship. Your grades come first. Your mother should ground you until you bring them up, with English being a top priority.
2007-03-29 13:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound like much of a boyfriend.
To bypass any responsibility for his actions and blame it on a game is pretty low by all standards.
And why would you be willing to stand by and watch your daughter get hurt over and over again by this guy?
2007-03-29 13:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ehh.... low grades= more money dished out for college... You could but if the grades continue to drop you have to draw the line. She has to be able to maintain everything to some degree.
2007-03-29 13:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by Sagira Tadashi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
obviously she is too caught up. this is not a good thing. most of high school relationships dont last. she needs to be told that no one is more important than education and if she had a problem with him kissing her friend and he knew that . than she she cut both of them off. thats her firend . friends dont do that. but he is a boy. boys are like dogs. if u give him a bone he is going to take it.
2007-03-29 13:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it was a stupid game...she should ask him how he feels, and if he still cares about her. i think it was stupid of him to make out with some other chick- that's kind of trashy. I mean, did he even like her? making out because someone dared you to is stupid. if they still care about each other, they should get past this.
2007-03-29 13:17:53 · answer #11 · answered by Fiona 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋