Well i never really cared to have a boyfriend but now i kindof do because its the "in" thing to do. no boy has ever really been interested in me tho since about 6th grade. i dont know why either. how could i have been cute then and not now? my friends all say its abnormal that i dont have a boyfriend and my physciatrist says that my old crush from 5th grade must have screwed my sex life up. i dont even know many boys and the ones that i do seem like there ignoring me all of a sudden. the one guy that i would be willing to date i am friends with on facebook but he dosent even seem like he likes me anymore. when ever i send him messages he will respond but after a while he stops and if i post on his wall he will respond but then deletes it off his wall like hes embaraced that hes talking to me or something. i know this is abnormal to think but i cant even emagine how my first kiss will be since i have no experience. what could i dooo!?
2007-03-29 13:01:02 · 12 answers · asked by niki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some people dont find it too abnormal that ive never had a boyfriend but ive NEVER even been asked out!!
2007-03-29 13:03:17 · update #1
i forgot to mention that i go to a private school- fyi
2007-03-29 13:21:15 · update #2
You are normal some don't even have a 1st kiss until later life. Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder! Everyone has their opinion on what makes you beautiful. Know that beauty starts within yourself and radiates without! Someone will find you beautiful in time. Meantime focus on you - love can come later - you come now! It will happen when it suppose to.A man doesn't make you beautiful EVER!!! Also people are opinionated ignore them you can never make people happy they love to talk and tell you what they think is right!
2007-03-29 13:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by ♕Soulful Dreamer♕ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't push it. Just have fun with what you have. You shouldn't even go on a double date till you are 16. And 18 to go on a single date! You can have co-ed group things, like a sleep over, or party games, or fishing dates. There are tons of things to do without single possession, and for your age it is the best, because everyone is treated equal.
My kids have done some awesome things, and crazy things. They have gotten together as a group of 20-50, and gone to elderly peoples homes and shoveled snow, or raked leaves. Washed windows, and other awesome things. Visited nursing homes, worked on crafts with little kids at the library. Had cookouts, swim outs, travels, and the list goes on. No one was left out as long as they behaved. Let someone start acting up or cursing, they were left out till they promised to uphold all the standards.
Forget about the wall flower that won't speak to you, or takes down you're notes cause he's embarrassed. Get to know each other in a group.
Every young man and woman in there groups graduated high school, and college. There are Doctors, lawyers, engineers, nurses, architects, pilots, military of higher rank, ship pilots, and several very good farmers.
So forget about the single date, or first kiss. Just be your self and enjoy your childhood. You will grow up too soon, and wonder where I wasted my life.
PS: I was 19 before I had my first date!
2007-03-29 20:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by Bigdog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't that you're ugly or that your sex life is screwed up. Maybe you just don't want a boyfriend and other people know that that's true. You might send the message to most guys that you don't want a relationship (remember, guys can be really shy!)
My second point is, why would you want to have a boyfriend just because it's cool? Go buy shoes or other cool stuff. Remember, you can always throw away the shoes when they are out of style, but you could seriously hurt someone pretty bad if you just want a boyfriend to be cool.
2007-03-29 20:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I think it is because you are trying to hard. Sounds crazy but my experiences have taught me that if you just find things to like about yourself and dont care so much about whether or not boys like you that they will show more interest in you and like you too.
Just dont be too awkward or obnoxious acting. Totally laid back and aloof is a good way to be. All of a sudden they will realize you are cool.
It really works but might take some time for you to get the hang of it.
It is a scientific fact that If you are too needy for their attention, they will not be into you.
Guys like girls with self confidence who is are not so needy.
2007-03-29 21:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the same thing with me, but, I'm not really ugly, and I make alot of guy friends easily. At first, I thought there was something wrong with me too, and I thought to myself, who cares if I have a boyfriend or not, just wait until the time is right. Anyways, just be happy with the way you look right now, God made you like this way, and he doesn't want you to change the way you look. And, there is nothing wrong with you, you're just not ready until the right guy is there. Stop chasing after the guys, and let them chase you. Trust me, there's somebody out there for everybody. And my guy friend, I don't like him, but I don't know if he likes me or not. Like yesterday, he asked me if I have a boyfriend, and I said no, and he said Alright,(In an excited way.) And sometimes, I think of thinking of likeing him, and when I do that, something negative happens, and I forget all about it. And, he thinks I like him, but I do this to all my guy friends, and he needs to see that. But sometimes, I think that he likes me, because, he gives me signs. And I don't think he likes me, because, he does this to my best friend too, but, I think he does it to me more. And I catch him staring at me too. Sorry, back to you. Probably, he just doesn't like you that way, or he doesn't want anybody think that y'all are together. And that's what guys do, they make you like them, so you can fall for them. Oh, I just thought of something. You know how you had a crush on somebody in the 5th grade. I didn't have a crush on my guy friend,(People thought that I did) but, he changed me on how I react to guys now. I used to be all shy around them, now I'm not anymore. Thanks to him, I get more guy friends. So,
I hoped I helped
Good Luck!
2007-03-29 20:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by TempoBronze124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to be single im mean if you wth like a year oldyou need yourself a man, but if you are in 8th grade or highschool maybe you just don't care for the boys like me i mean yea i have a crush but i don't think it's enought to ask him out. My advice for you is just to wait maybe you'll get a guy. But if your in 8th grade don't worry in highschool guys drool over almost all the girls so don't worry.
2007-03-29 20:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by hottierecy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you're young teens, it's not so bad. If you're over 20 and still never been kissed or had a bf....well... it's pretty bad. You're going to a psychiatrist about it, so I imagine it might be pretty bad. Are you overweight? Do you have acne or bad teeth or hair problems? It's not too hard for girls to get themselves looking pretty good. Tell us or post a pic and you can get advice about what to do to look cuter.
2007-03-29 20:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out there and talk to people and you will find someone.
Good Luck
2007-03-29 20:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok.
You are beautiful and the right guy will come along.
Just study hard and stop thinking about it.
2007-03-29 20:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by mikey 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you could just not be trying enough, most guys i know are aful online conversationalists, talk to them in school or something, be friendly, ebcome friends first with guys then maybe somehting wil develop
2007-03-29 20:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by takingoverme248 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋