look, i have a friend of mine since long time ago. she is very cute and lovely, since my primary school we have been best friends and everyone knows it, people believed that once we grow older then we strait gonna be lovers and without a doubt. then here we are, we have grown now and we are much in a friends but not in love. we like each other and its hard to ask her out. i tried one day and she said its hard coz we are best friends, she said things will change between us so and the way we talk. i didnt believe it and i was upset, i turn around and didnt wanna see her again, then she keeps on texting and calls me almost every week though i don really bother much. i still talk to her jus like all the times (normal) and she never notice any change or how hard it s**ks inside.
everytime she come accross my old mates, they alway ask her "how is your boyfriend? how are you getting along?" she always answer as if we are in it but she don really show up that much. so guyz what should i do?
2007-03-29 12:46:35 · 10 answers · asked by cool... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to her and tell her
2007-03-29 12:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a guy but i would like to help you out. the whole friendship thing is true, you have to realize that the friendship bond you both have will be gone forever if you do date her and it ends wrong. i know from experience. But some girls say that just to get off the hook though, to get the guy to stop asking so this is a trick question in a way. you need to talk to her just you and her, ask her to meet you for coffee or something, and tell her how you really feel and ask her how you would be able to live feeling what your feeling. Let everything in the open and all she can do is understand, or say no. But if she does have a boyfriend it might be tougher cause she has someone. maybe you should wait and be her friend that you always have been and see if their relationship lasts. and be there for her for a shoulder to cry on. But then you also shouldn't wait on her account either cause it could be a long wait. so maybe start looking else where and be friends with that girl you like, and who knows maybe your relationship won't work out around the time hers doesn't and it might lead to a open door for both of you. I hope some of these ideas help you and good luck!!!!
2007-03-29 19:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo if you really like shorty just go up to her and say listen, i kno we've been friends for a long time, but I'm really feeling you. I don't care if things change b/w us, i still wanna be your best friend and by doing so i wanna be your boyfriend. Shareing something so intimate and loveing that i don't care about her past........i wanna be one now.........
2007-03-29 19:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude. this is exactly what happened to my with me and my gf. She even said that it woul make things weird, but i found out how to do it. I asked her out over the internet, and she said yes. She said its cuz she didnt feel pressured at home reaing it. I know it sounds kinda lame but it works, just try it.
2007-03-29 19:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you really want and if she can't go along with it then move on. Maybe you've been friends too long that you both can't change.
2007-03-30 08:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about it form her point of veiw...she loves you but she has this fear...becasue best friends stay toghter forever and couples breakup and never talk again...maybe her fear of losing oyu after a breakup is overwelming her and she'd rather have you as a friend for eternity rather than a boyfirnd for a day...but ask her if you can take it slow pace and keep being friends while it... just talk it throguh..see her point of veiw.. ..Good Luck!
2007-03-29 19:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by DJJDB 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask her out again and tell her no to be scared of things changing. tell her u r scared too, but u really want to be with her. not as friends, but more.
2007-03-29 19:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mystery_gal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take another try at it maybe she just doesn't want ruin your guy's friendship. it seems to me like you and her have are great Friends. plus, it would be sort of awkward to date your best guy or girl friend. no offense.
2007-03-29 19:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by x-c runner♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"DUDE" talk to her for you own sake...
the way i see it, shes not ready for the relationship to grow yet
2007-03-29 19:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by Tai Chan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
same prob
2007-03-29 19:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by mini digger driver 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋