Grammar problems?

Question

I am a man with only a high school education. I am dating a woman with several college degrees. She always corrects my grammer when I make mistakes and I know she is right 100% of the time. I get frustrated with myself at times because I know she gets mad at me when I make a grammar mistake. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

If she is doing this constantly then the relationship is in jeopardy.

She may be doing it for several reasons.

It could be a long-term habit, and she is not really aware of it.

She may be doing it because she genuinely wants to help you, but does not realize you feel bad about it.

She may be considering you for a longer-term partner, but wants to improve your language so that you will fit with her own sphere of friends.

When you say you are frustrated, you imply that you are willing to do something positive to change the situation.


If you are serious about the relationship then you should seek an opportune moment and discuss your concerns with her.
That means a moment when you are alone, and quiet, but not involved in anything that demands your full attention.

If the relationship has developed to the point where you can express that you care for her, then begin by doing this, and tell her gently that what she is doing is causing you pain and embarrassment.





If you are really determined to improve your skills, then tell your girlfriend of this, and ask her for pointers. Do this after you have told her that her habit is hurting you, not before.

Do not despair about having only a high school education . This need not limit you at all. Vocabulary is only a part of language, but it can be expanded regardless of your age.

The most common reason for people having poor language use derives from personal associations. You tend to copy the speech patterns and language skills of those with whom you most often associate.

Solution: you could find some new friends, go to a school and take a few classes, but the best way of all is to READ.
Get a dictionary, keep it beside you, and READ better books.

This allows you to see how language is used by others to express many different ideas. Pay attention. Read slowly if necessary, and question what they are really saying . This means you look not only at the words used, but how AND where they are placed in the sentence.

Many women like, even love, to have someone read aloud to them. If you can do that well, then do it. If not, work on it when alone, then ask her about it.

You will get some moments when you can share the book, share your thoughts, and you will be sharing your moments together.

Answer 2

First, I would recommend you visit a library or bookstore (in person or online) and purchase a grammar handbook, such as "The Handbook of Grammar and Usage". Read through it to pick up some pointers, then start practicing your newly found wisdom. Secondly, I would suggest you ask your girlfriend to ease up on the grammar corrections. I know I feel embarrassed when other adults correct me on something, and I feel embarrassed as an observer when I witness an adult correcting another adult in a social situation. Good luck with this!

Answer 3

I am also not good in grammar and it makes me feel uncomfortable when my bf correct me all the time. All you have to do is let your woman know that you feel uncomfortable with what she is doing. By letting her know, she will then make the necessary action to completely stop or lessen the grammar correction.

Answer 4

okay first of all if shes constently correcting you she definately thinks shes at a higher level than you and she thinks shes better than you are. if she would really like you she would not try to change you or correct you because its sensitive when someone corrects my grammar all it does is make you look stupid so thats what shes doing. buy yourself a dictionary and read it. get 5 words every week and use them at-least 3 times a day and soon you would be proud of your self. dump her.

Answer 5

You'd be surprised to know how many college educated Americans speak and write poorly. I would tell her it bothers you to be corrected all the time, but also try to improve yourself for you----read books, magazines, whatever. Slowly you'll see a change.

Answer 6

You know... I do that too. Its horrible of me but I do it anyways. I do it because it makes me feel superior to my friends when in reality, it makes me look like a prick. Tell her that its rude and if she wants to do it, be positive about it and have her make it seem like shes doing it because she cares. Maybe she just wants to spare you the embarrasment of saying such things around others so she points them out to you while you are together.

Talk about it.....

Answer 7

You need to explain to her that you dont like it when she corrects your grammar, because it really makes you feel terrible.

Answer 8

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