Invite people to a baby shower, if they don't know the mother-to-be very well? A friend of mine is expecting her first child, and I'd like to throw her a baby shower. Problem is, she doesn't have any female friends besides a couple of former coworkers of hers (literally, TWO), and me. So I was thinking of inviting people that she's met a couple times, that I know extremely well, but that she isn't well acquainted with.
Would that possibly offend anyone?
2007-03-29 10:29:30 · 16 answers · asked by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I guess I should have added in that we're both military wives living in Germany...so unless her family flies in from the States, there's no chance of them being here.
2007-03-29 14:36:07 · update #1
I would think it was for handouts and I wouldn't attend personally. What about Family, mothers, cousins, sisters aunts. She wasn't hatched out of egg she came from a family somewhere. Good luck. The answer would be yes it would be considered Tacky!
*** Okay well since you mentioned that you are Military Wives then I would look at it differantly, no it would not be tacky. However, I would invite other Military Wives instead of outsiders, because the Military Wives would be understanding". Keep in mind because of your circumstances feel free to invite the husbands as well to join the celebration and make if more memorable for her***
2007-03-29 10:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by pattiof 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with having a small get-together. And she must have family somewhere. Showers shouldn't be all about gifts, they're about the celebration of a new life. But if I were invited to a shower for someone I didn't know very well, I probably wouldn't go just because I don't know the person. Not to mention I might think someone is just trying to accumulate a bunch of gifts.
2007-03-29 10:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, I would say that it would be a huge faux pas to do this, but military wives are a little different.
Because you are friends with other military wives who understand how difficult it is to be uprooted and moved to a location where one knows almost no one, some of the "rules" are slightly relaxed.
I would not send out invitations without checking with them first, so they understand that it is you trying to be kind, not that the lady is trying for a gift grab. Since these ladies have been in the same situation, you may find a few who will attend out of kindness. Just don't expect them to bring her elaborate gifts!
2007-04-02 11:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not a good idea. They'll feel like they're being used for gifts.
If you want to invite acquaintances, make it more of an afternoon party - one last chance for the mother to be to have fun without a baby.
Or have a Jack and Jill shower and invite anyone she's friends with.
2007-03-29 11:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should not throw her a baby shower, maybe just have a very nice dinner, with you, the mom to be and those two former co-workers, because I think she would feel a little uncomfortable celebrating that event with people she barely knows, maybe some other time you can trrow a party of your own and invite her so she can meet some new people
2007-04-03 05:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by united we stand 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would look like a bid for gifts rather than what you intend it to be, a gathering of her friends to celebrate a special time in her life.
Does she have family that would attend a shower? What about her in-laws?
If it is a small gathering, consider having an intimate luncheon or tea rather than calling it a shower. People can still bring gifts, or perhaps all go in together on one big gift such as a stroller.
Best of luck
2007-03-29 13:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The party is not going to be for you, it's for the mom-to-be. Who said that a baby shower can't be small with just a few guests? How would you feel at a party that is supposed to be thrown for you but you hardly knew anyone there? A shower for just four classy ladies sounds better than some jam packed gala full of people she wouldn't know.
2007-04-01 22:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know your good friends better than we do... WOULD they be offended or would they see it as an opportunity to get to know this friend of yours better? It sounds like your mother-to-be friend needs to expand her social circle a bit :)
I would say.. go ahead and ask anyone that she's met, and leave it up to the invitees to decide if they want to come. Baby shower gifts don't have to be expensive and they might be pleased to have an opportunity to get out! But don't take offense if they decline the invitation either.
2007-03-29 11:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by endorable 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, does she have any family or maybe you could ask the fathers friends or family members. DOes she belong to any organizations or a church. What about friends from her past like high school or college even elementary? try those ideas you might come up with a couple of more guest You could also invite her neighbors?
2007-03-29 11:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by bigdraws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone is offended then they will not come. A baby shower is a time to celebrate new life, anyone who does not appreciate that should just stay home. I would suggest that you also invite other women who she may attend church with and women who live in her neighborhood.
2007-03-29 14:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋