dealing with death of my dad?

Question

My dad died 4 years ago but I feel like it was jst yesterday. I've gone to the shirk and talked to my family. It just like I'm stuck in the past what do I do?

Answer 1

Oh hon. I'm so sorry for you and your loss.
Are you stuck in the past because there are things in your past that you didn't clear up with him before he died? That can be SO, SO difficult.
When I lost the only dad I ever knew, one of the things that helped me was to allow myself to understand that he knows everything now.
Another thing -well actually THE "thing" that helped me the most was Jesus. Ask Him to come into your heart - if you haven't already done so. Ask Him to help you through this time of grief...to show you ways to honor your father in your life now that he is not there in person for you.
Bless you - Ill pray for you.

Answer 2

Well You Should Keep Your Self Active All The Time! If You Work It Helps If You Don't Get A Job! If You Go To School and Can't Work Then Help Your Mom Out Around The House It Will Keep Your Mind Busy and You Won't Think About Your Dad So Much! It really Helped Me When I Relized That My Life Was Going No Where! My Dad Didn't Die So I Can't Really Relate But Try It! This Will Help Specialy If You Cant Sleep At Night You'll be To Tired To Think!

Answer 3

my dad died 11 years ago and my mom 10 years ago this year. I still think about them alot especially now that i have a little girl it does get better over time but it will always hurt just not as much as it does now. I talk to my mom and dad alot and let them know whats going on in my like and my child's life. also sometimes when i feel i cant say what is bothering me i will write a letter to them and then tear it up when i am done and throw it away. i tried to do the whole shrink thing to but despite the popular census that's not always the right way to go it doesn't work for everyone. i miss them the most on birthdays and holidays but i promise it does get better the pain will become a dull throb instead of a Sharp stabbing pain...if you want you can contact me at [e-mail]

Answer 4

Both of my parents died in the 80's. My mom's death was ok, as in we were great when she passed, but my dad and I still had issues. A couple years later, I went to where we spread his ashes, just hung out for a bit, then started talking to him. It helped. Another friend of mine keeps a trunk of old family things in his attic. There a bench next to the trunk and sometimes he just goes up there ("it's higher than the rest of the world and it's private") and says whatever.

Overall, like people here are saying, it just takes time. If you take anything away from this it should be to always tell people around you how you feel, no secrets, be open, live free and live happy.

Cheers to you.

Answer 5

I'm right there with you....
My mom passed in August of 2002.
Every day, and I do mean EVERY day is just the same old thing. Me wishing that I was back by her side, spending time with her, letting her know just how much she meant to me. Saying is true, she was my mom, sister, best friend! She knew everything about me and I never hid any thing from her.

I still to this day think that she's going to call me or show up at my door. But deep down I know that she won't.

It's the grieving process, and we all have to deal with it. Some are better then others, but for me, I don't think I'll ever be completely ok with.

I'm so sorry for your loss! Stay strong though ok~

Answer 6

I think you just have to think positive. I lost my mother last August and it was the hardest thing I've had to go through; she was the one person in this world that knew me best and was the one person I would go to for advice. She was only 55 when she passed; she missed the birth of her first grandchild by just a few months... It is hard, and no one but you can tell you how to feel; just think positive and that he is in heaven looking down at you, proud of you, and that life goes on. I also try to rationalize; everyday fathers, mothers, siblings, husbands, children all go onto the next realm; it is a cycle that all of us have to deal with and as we age we will come face to face with more 'death'. If you treat death as a part of our lives (just like, marriage, graduation, birth); we can 'celebrate' it as well (of course in a very different manner). I love to think about my mother and even though it brings tears sometimes (I'm a guy and I hate to admit that I cry); but I always see it in a positive light. It was time and she went peacefully and she left her impact on everyone around, mostly me and I will keep her life, her memories, and pass it on to my children, etc. She is waiting in heaven and everyday that passes is one day closer to when I can be with her again. Smile, he would want you to.

Answer 7

Talk to your dad sweetie, that's what I do. My father has been gone for 11 years now, and I talk to him as if he was still here. It helps me make it through because I was so very close to him. He was my rock and he is why I am here today. It's hard to lose a parent, but keep in mind, that you didn't lose your dad...he is still there with you...look in the mirror, and I bet you see him right there!

Answer 8

you pay more and even deeper attention to your loss. it is the grief that keeps you from moving on. analise why you feel the way you do. usually you can analize yourself what it is that holds you back from moving on. And most of the time it seems there are more unresolved feelings that need attention. I cant say it more clearly than that. I hope you find your own clarity and find the way out of this. give yourself permission to deal with this loss as long as needed. that is truly accepting the fact that you need more time to come to terms with this. just remember... you did right by your dad if the pain of loss is this hard to get over. if the loss is so hard to bear, the joy with him must've been wonderful too... I wish you every strenght to deal with this. :) good luck to you.

Answer 9

Losing a loved one is a very tough thing to get over, i am sorry for your loss. Also, it is ok to feel this way, its typical human behavior. Try some couciling programs and read some inspirational books. Remember, everyone heals at their own speed. It will take some time, but you will get better over time, while still always having a special place in your heart for your dad.

Answer 10

I'm Sorry about your dad.,but you have to move on.,you should find something to think about than the death of your dad.,
You should enjoy living with your other family members while they are still there than thinking of something that's already not there..
It's really hard to admit that you won't see you're dad anymore but still..Don't you think that his in a safe place now?
earth is our temporary home..

(this is from a song-TIMES OF YOUR LIFE)

"Maybe it's unpredictable, but in the end it's right, I hope you had the time of your life.."