Is this part of 'God's plan?'?

Question

I've never asked a question, only answered, but here goes...
I just heard that a kid I used to know passed away yesterday. I didn't know him that well, but he was friends with my brother, and our dads used to work together. His bike was struck by a car; he was about 17. I am finding it really hard to cope, almost like I can't believe it. I can still picture in my head this time our families went out to dinner, and how he was entertaining us, and how full of life he was. I am thinking of his baby sister, who is probably too young to understand. His family came to this country (from China and then Sweden) looking for a chance to be happy, and I just can't imagine what they are feeling right now. I've heard people say it's part of "God's plan." I never really believed in God, and now, with this, it's even harder. Where does this fit into God's plan? And how can I accept this?

Answer 1

Sometimes we don't always understand why God allows certain things to happen. I do believe that we become stronger in Him with each event, if we allow ourselves to. Right now you are filled with many mixed emotions, many questions. I suggest writing them all down. Open up a Bible and just start reading. God will show you what you need to see. He will help you understand. Just have a little faith, and remember that it is okay to be upset. It is okay to be sad. God wants to be able to comfort us in times of sadness. You and your family, as well as the boy's family will be in my prayers. I ask God to comfort each and every one of you, that He help you to see the truth. God Bless!

Answer 2

Wow. My sympathies to you and your family, and to your friend's family as well. When something like this happens, it is all the more shocking, the sudden death of a healthy child who had every thing to look forward to. It just happened yesterday, and you are still in shock about it, denial is the first step of the grieving process. It has not yet truly set in that he is gone, and likely won't start to become real for you until the viewing or funeral. It's hard to understand if something is God's plan. It's hard to understand any thing God does. God can see the entire plan all at once, while we can only see a little piece of it, from our own point of view. We can't understand it really until we get there ourselves. It's a very elaborate taperstry where all things here are intertwined. Sometimes a thread needs to be pulled, but when God does that in such a way, it just seems heartless. But then the heart of a God is very different from the heart of a human. I wish I could give you the answer you seek, I am afraid all I can truly offer you today is my sympathy and prayers. As for the grief, you will work through it one day at a time.

These are the five stages associated with grief, it will get better eventually.....we don't always go through all of them, it depends on the situation, but for most people this holds true..
You will work through them in your own time, and your own way...
The stages are:

1. Denial - The initial stage.: "It can't be happening."
2. Anger .: "How dare you do this to me?!" (either referring to God, the deceased, or oneself)
3. Bargaining .: "Just let me live to see my son graduate."
4. Depression .: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"
5. Acceptance .: "I know my son will be in a better place"

Answer 3

Ecclesiastes 9:11-I returned to see under the sun that the swift do not have the race, nor do the mighty ones the, nor do the wise also have the food, nor do the understanding ones also have the riches, nor do even those having knowledge have the favor; because time and unforeseen occurrence befall them all. THE BIBLE GIVES ANSWERS TO ALL OUR QUESTIONS, NO QUESTION IS TO GREAT !!! The Bible clearly states"the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one."-1John 5:19. So you see it was not God's fought but the one behind the wheel and those who cause us to inherit sin.God has a plan that is now in motion, read and study God's word,and it will give you true hope.-All those in the memorial tombs will....come out-John 5:28,29, also read Rev.21:4,Isaiah 33:24,

Answer 4

God does not “take” children from their parents, as some have been told. Although the earth produces ample food, selfish political and commercial elements often hinder its distribution to those most in need, resulting in death due to malnutrition. Some children die in accidents(just like the boy you are talking about), as adults do. But all of us have inherited sin; we are all imperfect. We were born in a system in which everyone—both the good and the bad—eventually dies. (Eccl. 9:5) But God ‘yearns’ to reunite children with their parents by means of the resurrection, and lovingly has made provision to do so.—John 5:28, 29; Job 14:14, 15; compare Jeremiah 31:15, 16; Mark 5:40-42.
A scripture that has helped me to understand why things happen....Ecclesiastes 9:11 says that time and unforeseen things happen to us all.... to good and bad people....plus another Scripture says, For with evil things God cannot be tried nor does he himself try anyone.” On the contrary, from God comes “every good gift and every perfect present”!—James 1:13, 17.
It was not God who made this happen... but an unforeseen thing.... a terrible thing.... but there is hope... the Bible holds it out and if you would like to know just ask
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Answer 5

God's original plan has not changed. He planned to have humans live happily on earth and never die. Satan, Eve and Adam caused sin, disease and death to enter into the world but God has the power over death and he will resurrect those back to life who have died as a result of the disobedience of others. Lovingly, though, he will wait until Jesus has locked Satan away for 1,000 years so that the earth can be a more loving place for the resurrected ones when they awaken. Look to the Bible and see how real this hope for everlasting life and happiness is. You may very well be able to be there to greet those who are resurrected if you start now and apply what you learn.

Answer 6

I believe in God and definitely I know He made a plan. But the plan that I know He made is like an Architect's work. He lay out a house with rooms to fit the Parents, the children and the guest and sometimes a servant's quarter, He put a living room, family room, dining room, kitchen, garage and laundry room. Outside a yard with landscaping at the frontyard, sides and backyard. He designed it for people mentioned above.
After that, he turned it over to the owner and the owner were told of the usages of each room for the family. Now, once they are settled, the architect is no longer there to tell them how to live in the house and how to treat each other at home.
This is in the same manner as God laying out the space for our use. The only difference is that He gave the place for us for free (Only the greed of man started charging payment for a space everyone is entitled to have) and make use of every resources to keep it growing. Other than that, He just told His people to live righteously according to His written Laws and commands. Then He will bless the right things we do and curse the things we do away from His teachings.
He never said to anyone even to His chosen people on a mission on how one will do his works. Just the mission that He expects to be accomplished. Oftentimes there are passages in the Holy Book that says He was angry with HIs people for being so stubborn and obstinate. It only means that people have a choice to do or not to do, do it wrong or do it right. Otherwise, if you will believe that whatever happened to one's life is God's choice, then it already defeats the purpose of Free Will.
The death of your brother's friend is an unavoidable circumstances for being in a place and in a time that it has to happen because other life was there and caused it to happen. God's Plan in that aspect is just a common word for consoling the aggrieved. I do not want to praise God nor blame God for anything that happens to me along the way, I just have to thank Him all the time for the air I breath, the life I have and the happiness I experience and thanks Him for this life no matter how long or short it is. We choose the road by which to travel to our journey through life. Oftentimes, we are never sure how long or short that road will be. The important thing is we enjoy each moment for as long as there is breath in us. We design our own destiny. Our fate may have been shaped by our environment in our early age. But as we mature, we make choice to stay where we are or get away from it and make our own choice. You success or failure depends on your best judgement of the choice you make in life and the result is your destiny. God did not make your destiny, you did.

Answer 7

You need to figure that out on your own.

I'll tell what I think. Nothing that happens in this planet is God's plan.

The bible says that the ruler of this earth is Satan. That is why Satan offered Jesus all the kingdoms of earth if Jesus would offer one act of worship to Satan.

But happen happen to that kid has nothing to do with Satan or God. It has to do with the driver and the kid himself. Sometimes we make mistakes. Maybe the driver was not paying attention or maybe the kid was going to fast, I don't know.

Accidents occur. Suffering goes on in this world because people decided what is right and wrong. They don't want God in their lifes.

God's plan is to restore this planet back to a paradise like it was in the garden of Eden. But time must pass so that all intelligent life can understand that without God's rule and guideness, humans and all life suffers because we are not capable of governing ourself.

Answer 8

we cannot see the end from the beginning and some things are beyond us Life is complex and each person touches many other people and we cannot even begin the guess the impact the young man has had or will have on his friends

There are allot of things I just do not know why God did something, but trust He is good and just and merciful and purposeful.

I would recommend listening to Joni Erickson Tada's talk on suffering which you can listen and freely down load from http://www.desiringgod.org search for the National conference on suffering and the sovereignty of God conference... it was 2005 or 2006... she is well acquainted with suffering and has some good insights to share that may help

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear about that. And that whole part of "God's plan" just doesn't help anything.

What I would recommend is praying about that honestly- be angry with the situation and just let the feelings be fully experienced- after that ask God, "what is this all for?"

God speaks to us in a whisper when we're looking for thunder. Maybe God has a heart for you to mentor 17 year olds- I don't know.

Remember that what man intends for evil God uses for good.

It may have been a way to call that kid away from his suffering on earth and to call you to ministry at the same time.

But please pray about it honestly. After that live in healing not in history!

Answer 10

No matter what anyone wants to believe, there is death in this world, and it is not partial to who takes hold.
If one is religious, they will believe that the child only sleeps, and like when Jesus brought to life those in the new testament, so shall he on his return soon.
If they are not religious, then I would assume they either already know that death is certain, or they deny it, even to themselves.
Know that good and bad things, happy and sad things, happen to everyone.
Be happy for those who now have only to wait, and feel sorrow for those who must yet live before the end comes.