I consider her to be all of the following: extremely nice, cute, sexy, funny, appealing, affectionate.
The only problem with our relationship is trust. She lies about little things and big things. Ex: She told me she made plans to hang out with her girlfriend, but I found out she made plans with her ex boyfriend. As an excuse, she told me her girlfriend was supposed to be there too... which wasn't the case. She also has a way of making me feel guilty for reacting negatively toward her caught lies.
So... every other day I break up with her. She cries, I feel bad about it, then I apologize to her. Then I wonder if I'm a monster for breaking up with her or a monster for taking her back when I still don't trust anything she says anymore.
I skipped class this morning to try to break up and get my life in order, but she cried, so I felt terrible. I gave her $20 and told her every time I break up with her I'll give her $20 so I stop. its SICK
WHAT THE HELL DO I DO? Please help
2007-03-29 10:00:57 · 25 answers · asked by fdsafd a 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Can I be your next girlfriend?
2007-03-29 10:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem, say you didnt do this please! No, you are not supposed to fall for her pathetic bull, you need to be strong and when you break it off to teach her a lesson, that there is no need to be lying, so be it, and if she continues to be this way, really she has issues. Is she worth your time, it's only going to get worse, the hell with the looks and all the fake stuff, she's fake.
She's probobly laughing at you, and you want her to have respect for you, tell her how you feel, and why you need to break it off for a couple of months. Spring Break right around the corner, enjoy life not drama. C-mon are you going to become a door mat next...Dont be a push over, and that'll show her not to play games, your game for love.
2007-03-29 23:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by HOPE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop letting her use you. That's what she is doing. Why don't you feel worthy of better treatment???? Are you saying that this is the best thing for you. You need to take off the blind fold. There are plenty of ladies out there who will treat you with respect. She obviously does not. You are like her Daddy Warbucks and hell I would too if you left me and I was still messing with my ex. She has the best of both worlds She don't want to mess that up.
Seriously get out of that relationship you are skipping school over a chick who lies to you and probably spends your money with her ex. I'm gonna need you to get some help with self esteem because you are clearly lacking. Sorry if that sounds rude but it's the truth. Leave that Loser!!!
2007-03-29 17:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Cutie Pie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop taking her back! It seems like you may need some support in this. Emlist a friend to help keep your resolve up. Just remember that you cannot really love a person whom you don't trust. Block her number so she can't call you and then do everything in your power to avoid the girl until you feel stronger. It is not your fault she is hurt. She made her choice when she started lying and sneaking around. She has to live with the consequences.
2007-03-29 17:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a big lesson to learn one is to say NO and that is the hardest word in the dictionary to learn to say with confidence
The second is no to be so sensitive and when you break up walk away and don't look back she is playing emotional games with you and guess who is the sucker.
Stand by your own words
No means no
And
Over means over
Once you get through these two lessons you will gain some personal growth to move on : )
Love & Blessings
Milly
2007-03-29 17:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by milly_1963 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You aren't a monster. Your girlfriend is really manipulative, and really out to play you. Break it off for good, and get into therapy for awhile, to find out why you are so willing to let a girl like that run over you that way, and some coping strategies for dealing with someone like that, and learn to value yourself better so you can attract someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. She's using you for a doormat, sweetie, get out while you can.
2007-03-29 17:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by beatlefan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, youre locked in a vicious cycle. You need to understand something - those tears are fake. Crocodile tears. Girls are masters at that guilt shyte...
Fact is, if she is lying to you, she doesnt deserve you. Period. You arent a monster for breaking up with her, you arent a monster for taking her back. You are confused by her tears. Truth is, you need to go get your $20 back and leave her for good. Tell her to go cry on her ex's shoulder - not yours.
She is having her cake (you) and eating it too (the ex). Not cool. You need to toss this ho-bag.
2007-03-29 17:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! $20 every time you break up with her! I wish my ex's had the same deal going with me. I would be living in Bel Air by now. Sounds like she is a compulsive liar and she manipulates you to believe you are at wrong. she is good, real good.
2007-03-29 17:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by 112 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't trust her, and you still feel bad about breaking up with her...
every healthy relationship is built on trust and communication. if there isn't trust, it isn't a healthy relationship, and for your own sake you're better off single.
giving her money when you break up with her, from the sounds of things, will make her very wealthy - I recommend she invest all that money carefully! or, you could make it easier on both of you, and just give her one more $20 bill and just leave her alone entirely.
2007-03-29 17:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way: if she lies, she must have something to hide. If she has something to hide, does she really deserve you? She could have realized that when she cries, you feel bad and take her back. She could just be manipulating you into staying with her when really, she doesn't deserve you at all. Hope this helps.
2007-03-31 15:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by ilovemychemicalromance_2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, you can break up with me everyday if you keep giving me $20. And I, assuming you are a guy, am not even gay. but am willing "to let you break my heart" everyday for $20.
But, it's better you do this now than later. I have to pay my exwife about $9400 a year to "break up" with her. Not to mention what "the breakup" itself cost.
2007-03-29 17:12:05 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋