I'm not saying men are terrible, and I haven't recently been jilted. I just hear so much about guys(husbands, fiances, boyfriends) cheating and wanting to know "what else is out there". It is not just on the internet either. Do any of you look for the real deal, and put your heart into all of your relationships from the get go?
Why Or Why not?
2007-03-29 09:20:08 · 61 answers · asked by prettygirlsmakegraves 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I consider myself a good man. I recently was made a widower. When you do find your"mate" you do not desire anyone else. Honey I am the real deal. when I am having a relationship with a woman that I do love there is not a thing that I would not do for her. I spent many a night at the hospital with my wife. Love or rather a loving relationship is always a two way street.
2007-03-29 09:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by robert s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, something you need to realize is both genders have faults. The difference btwn men and women is this. When i guy cheats they tell the world and eventually it gets out. Women on the other hand will take things like that to the crave. I've got ALOT of friends that are girls and some of them have bf's, finaces, and husbands. TRUST ME, girls are just as bad as guys. There's alot of good guys out there and also great girls. But the problem is people tend to look in the wrong places. I'm 26 and have been in ALOT of relationship and almost every gf cheated on me at some point. Which i didn't find out about in most cases til later. But to answer your question yeah I personally look for the real deal but it tends to not be what i expected.
2007-03-29 09:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by theHOCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I don't put my heart in to the relationship from the get go. I feel that all men are dogs unless they prove themselves otherwise. If you make them work for the relationship without being too hard or easy on them, sometimes you will find a good man. The problem is, the good kind-hearted man usually is in evolved in a relationship with someone else and that makes the seem nonexistant. But they are out there.
2007-03-29 09:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they do, but mostly not from the generation of 30 year olds or under. My dad is one of the "nice guys", but it is rare to find in today's society where cheating and just being out for yourself is the norm. Also, I have found that guys who are friends tend to be much nicer than guys who you are dating, probably because there isn't a relationship commitment that is beyond friendship. Guys can handle friendship, but beyond that gets ify as to whether or not guys want commitment or can even handle it. It depends on how they were raised, what they take from societial standards, and maybe even genetics. At any rate, I know what it's like to put everything into a relationship and have it go wrong. I suffered, but yet I kept on going and eventually found happiness in the most unlikely place (for most people). But I don't know what the answer is...if you want to love and be loved, just be ready for hurt because that can be a possibility.
2007-03-29 09:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by rainbowlicious7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't generalize an entire gender. Not all men are the same.
There are nice guys out there, but you will have to keep looking and wait until you find the right one for you.
If you didn't know, women cheat too, and probably just as much as men do. My last girlfriend cheated on me. I gave her a second chance, but she cheated again. But I didn't go around saying "I hate women, their pigs" (not that you did, but some women do that after a bad relationship).
You can't pick some random guy off the street and expect him to be prince charming. You need to be patient and wait until the right guy comes along.
2007-03-29 09:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are out there but their numbers are dwindling. Blame the members of your sex for it. The good kind hearted guys are always the ones that girls take their revenge out on. They are the ones that get lied to and cheated on for something some other guy did. Part of the reason they are so hard to find is because they dont want to be found anymore.
2007-03-29 09:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by Steveo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think even if we do put our all into a relationship it is never quite so settled as a woman is. Men have a natural tendency to be a bit more adventurous and fast. (its not just humans you can see it even in the behaviour of single celled organisms - males are small and fast and females are big and strong and solid)
So i think men will always be peaking a bit at what's out there, but if the relationship is important enough there won't be anything out there that is good enough to seriously tempt them.
2007-03-29 09:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Eyebright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they do exist. There are creepy men and women out there. It is not smart to jump in with all your heart right off the bat. That usually means that people close their eyes to the flaws they wish not to see. It takes at least a year to TRULY know someone. Infatuation wanes after awhile and if the relationship lasts it will turn in to admiration.
2007-03-29 09:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by ladywildfireok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was brought up to always love and respect your wife and or GF. Im greek so Im sure the culture makes a difference as most men dont care and they seem to prefer a new treat every other day. Unfortunately its not just men, women do the same thing. Im married to the real deal, and im happy. IMHO give your all to the person you care for, if it doesnt work out, then it doesnt, but you shouldnt give half and fear the worst. You should give it your all and welcome the best.
2007-03-29 09:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by Niko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be kind-hearted men out there.
The world would be destroyed if there weren't kind-hearted men out there.
You have to know someone first, so get to know a person.
John Hagee said that a person may appear nice,but the real them is home locked in a closet.
But there are good men are everywhere.
2007-03-29 09:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋