My soon to be wife gets mad at me when im not in the mood,
not often but at least once a week i dont really feel like getting intemate, is that so wrong? ladies please help!
2007-03-29 08:33:29 · 30 answers · asked by futuramafan73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oh wow, how I wish my husband would say he's not in the mood once in a while. Nah, its not bad. Once you are married you will have the rest of your lives to do it and then she will be the one saying no. Just wait....
2007-04-02 07:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is by no mean Wrong. She most likely just feels insecure, like you dont think she is sexy or she doesnt turn you on.
And obviously that isn't the case, so you really need to just explain that to her. That is the best you can do. And as long as you have a healthy good sex life otherwise then you will be fine.
Just be sure to inform her that you love her and think she is gorgeous and amazing and it has nothing to do with that, this always helps!
good luck
2007-03-29 09:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by stina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it's alright but it's all in how you tell her no. love, kisses and compliments are a great idea; 'baby you know i think you're amazing but i'm just not in the mood right now'. let her know that she isn't the reason why you're turning her down.
a toy is also fabulous idea, whether alone or together. here's a site http://www.mypleasure.com/ they have how to's and information on which toy is good for her needs. plus it saves on embarassment of buying one in public.
make sure you offer her alone time too so she can tend to her 'needs'. woman need it just as much as men!
or you could always offer a helping hand/some oral pleasure. who knows you might just end up in the mood after all!
good luck! and remember a horney wife left unsatisfied is a bitchy wife lol that comes from personal experinece ask my husband!
2007-03-29 08:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly_in_a_jar 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously it is OK to say no. However what you must consider is that if she is constantly frustrated than that is the biggest red flag. You might need to get creative or see a doctor. Maybe there is a hormone imbalance and then again maybe not either way you need a break and she needs more.....visit an adult entertainment store, it might be just the trick to making both of you happy. Hope I was of help.
2007-03-29 08:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, but women are very sensitive, the fear of rejection is very strong, if a guy says no, they feel rejected, unwanted, not desired etc etc.... Try to be sensible when you say no, give her a kiss and a cuddle and tell her you love her. You do it the right way and instead of being "wrong" you might actually score some points!!! :)
2007-04-01 11:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Nelly82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing at all wrong with that. But, if she's a little insecure you might try just holding her and talking. That's a great time for communicating and learning about each other or to just find out how your day was. It still makes her feel 'special' and you will enjoy it too.
2007-04-01 10:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by KT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No their is nothing wrong with a man saying no once in a while. Your wife needs to respect your feelings just a well as she would like to have hers respected if she says no.
2007-03-29 08:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by shay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Out of the 4 years I have been with my guy he has only told me no twice... I thought that was weird. She might start to think you are rejecting her or don't find her attractive and could lead up to some severe confidence issues. Why don't you try to get it from her at a different part of the day when you are not tired and you may wear her out enough to leave you alone when you are "not in the mood"
2007-03-29 09:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, not at all. She needs to realize that you are allowed to have some time off. You are probably spending a lot of time together and are at the peak of your sex life together. Just as long you explain it to her in a calm, easy way. Don't ever be rude about it, because she may thing you're getting it elsewhere!
2007-03-29 08:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah its ok to say no. If your not in the mood then your not in the mood. The girl should respect your feelings and understand you.
2007-03-29 08:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Tania M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋