my parents are fighting so much and i want them to just divorce because i don't want to here it any more i sick of it but i'm a ffraid that if they do go thorugh with it that my mom won't win the batlle cuz well my mom hasn't finished school but she was going to this fall and it's not like she can support my sis and me so what do i do
2007-03-29 08:03:37 · 10 answers · asked by french_brittany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell the judge that you dont want to be with your dad because he makes you uncomftorble and you dont like being around him because if he does bad things then you can talk about that to the judge but just tell the judge how you really feel about your dad and everything will be okay
2007-03-29 08:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by Natasha C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell the judge which parent you would like to live with, that is taken in to account when he is making a ruling. If you are over age 12 in most states they will let you choose which parent, as long as they are fit to raise you. Alimony will be due to your mom irregardless of whether or not she has custody of you guys. And as long as she's working and making an effort she should be able to get by with child support and her wages. It may not be a palace but a home is where love is. If it's not peaceful and they can't work things out then one of them needs to get out and put the divorce in play. It's not enough to "stay together for the kids sake" any more. They are not doing you any favors by staying together if things are rough and constant fighting is going on in the home.
2007-03-29 18:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by hr4me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are, although it really doesn't matter...it's terrible that you are having to go through this and and worry yourself to death over this when you should be worried about friends and what's going on at school and what you're going to do this weekend! Sweetie, no court is going to take you and your sister away from your mom because she's trying to better herself by getting an education!!! I promise you that! There are programs and ways be means of child support that your dad would have to pay to help her support you and your sister! And by being a single mom and still in school, your mom would qualify for grants and scholarships to help her pay for her school and for childcare for the two of you while she was working or in school! But ultimately, this decision has to be your parents...not yours...you just keep your chin up and know that NO MATTER WHAT happens....that this doesn't involve you and that you are going to be o-kay!!!
2007-03-29 15:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your parent's decision to get a divorce or not, not yours. So in that respect, there is nothing you can do. If that helps, you can talk to each of them separately and investigate if they are considering a divorce. Possibly you can voice your opinion that you think your life would be easier. Depending on your age, the court may ask which parent you want to be with. Your father would have to help financially.
See if you find an helpline for children your age, to talk to a councellor over the phone.
Good luck. My parents fought a lot, and I did not like it, but I have survived this very well.
2007-03-29 16:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts will take your desires into consideration, depending upon your age. Your mom will not lose custody simply because she does not make as much money as your dad. Your dad still needs to support you and your sister. Do you even know that there will be a custody battle? Can you talk to your dad about this and let him know you want to stay with your mom? That may be a good place to start.
2007-03-29 15:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are having to endure this kind of behavior from your parents. But remember they have one thing in common, you kids and they love you regardless. As for a divorce, it would be better example for you kids, if they worked out their problems and stayed together. It's too easy to divorce and put the kids in the middle. It's not fair to the kids. But in most cases, unless there is proof of neglect, the kids are generally better off with the mother, she knows how to nurture and care for them. If they do separate, and you go with your mom, be good, behave yourself, do as well as you can in school and hug your mom everyday. When you're old enough, you could consider a part time job to help mom with the bills. HUGS!
2007-03-29 15:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should but out. it is none of your bussiness. why are you thinking of who will get custody.you dont even have it right. if i mena if they get a divorce it doesnt matter ifthey have graduated from school. it is determined who the child is best fit for. who can support the child and give the child the best living conditions.
just because people argue doesnt mean they dont love each other and divorce is for them.they love each other and just because you want them to have a divorce doesnt mean they will. heres what i say you do. start to focus on you and what is goin on in your life. Band, art, music,cheerleader, soccer ...whatever. make life about you and not what your parents are doing. good luck.
2007-03-29 15:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's all about who's the most fit parent. if your dad would fight for you then she would probably loose especially if she can't put a roof over your heads or food on your table on just alamony and child support. good luck with that one.
2007-03-29 15:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe if they dont stop the fighting they can just get seperated.
2007-03-29 15:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by alex77055 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does your dad make you mind! and your mom let you run wild ? damm could be a problem
2007-03-29 15:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by James k 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋