i live at home and go to college but my parents treat me like a baby ex: they freak out and blow up my phone sometimes even when i'm out or in class . how can i give myself more responsiblities unrelated to them so as to show them that i am infact capable of taking care of myself
2007-03-29 07:51:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Move out!! or say listen I pay you some rent ( something you should at least !) have some respect will ya? I am not 16.,Follow their in the house rules..tho. get a mobile phone or tract phone.. say them what is their problem with you growing up and venturing out into your own person? Quite frankly they are trying to stunt you or controil you as they have no control of themselves.. I would move out... with others or go on campus. I had a bf who lied to his folks when he was with me like they wouldnt understand god forbid if he had a life.
2007-03-29 07:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to give yourself more responsibilities is to start working part time either through the college or part time in an office or in maybe a fast food place since they always seem to be hiring. Don't cop out and say you need to study. I had three children and a full time job when I went to college and did my studying on the bus and/or late at night. Unless you begin to take responsibility for your own education and your own living arrangements, etc. you are still a baby in their eyes. My children are still my babies but once they started earning respect as being self-sufficient I treated them as adults. Sometimes the child needs to state their boundaries and share their hopes with their parents instead of quietly or resentfully doing what they have done since they are 5 years old. Just as the child needs to grown-up so does the parent need to grow beyond the roll of being the one in control of the child and let the child take control of their own life. It is a two way street where the child has to show by actions and by words that they are now taking responsibility for their own support and welfare.
2007-03-29 08:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by old_school_granma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel sometimes. You should try to manage your time or better yet reflect on yourself and ask the question "What am I doing wrong?" you may also want to ask you parents why they blow up on you so then maybe you can figure out how to change yourself.
I live with my parents as well and they only start to blow up on me when my friends, from mainland colleges, come home and I stay out late. I usually just ignore them since I know I'm not doing anything wrong. I just want to hang out with a few friends.
2007-03-29 07:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have the responsibility; you just haven't realized it yet I suppose. Do they cook for you, do your laundry, clean your room, etc.? If so, start doing these things for yourself. Sometimes parents may not know how to treat kids who are really adults but live at home. So they continue to treat them like children, and if the kids don't object they will continue to treat them like children. So, make it known that you are an adult and to start treating you like one. But be nice about it, after all, you are living in their house.
2007-03-29 08:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
enable her take you to courtroom. She'll maximum in all probability no longer even get there once she talks to a legal specialist and they tell her she will't do some thing. no matter if she became waiting to get you into courtroom they does no longer grant her any rights. Her son has visitation and they'll tell her to go go on your daughter at the same time as she is at his residing house. she will't do some thing yet waste her personal time and funds.
2016-12-02 23:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and make your own money. Move towards independence and move out of the house. That way if you are footing your own bills they can't tell you where to go and what to do all the time.
2007-03-29 11:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by hr4me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and offer to pay rent.. something small like $100 a month or something.
2007-03-29 07:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by MELLO26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, move out, support yourself, have them over for crabcakes.
2007-03-29 07:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM A PARENT OF 2 BOYS AND I CAN TELL YOU THAT THERE ARE MANY UPS AND DOWNS AS FAR AS MY TRUST WITH THEM.
THE ONE THIN THAT IS VERY IMPORTANT AND STANDS OUT TO ME IS CONSISTENCY!!!
I ONLY WANT TO TRUST AND RELY ON THEM...
I FEEL LIKE I NEED HELP IN MY PARENTING SKILLS...
IT'S NOT EASY BEING THE PARENT....
2007-03-29 07:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by dutchgirllb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GET A JOB!!! SAVE YOUR MONEY , BUY A CAR!!!
2007-03-29 08:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋