I am dating a girl right now who I really like, but the only thing I don't like about the relationship is that she is very "needy" in that she needs me to call her several times a day to talk on the phone. I am very busy and sometimes can only call her once or twice a day but she still seems unsatisfied with that.
Is there anyway I can show her that I'm interested in her without calling her five or more times a day?
2007-03-29 07:32:10 · 27 answers · asked by Chris C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her not to.
try it
she'll probably get pissed but you should at least try the easiest thing.
good luck :]
2007-03-29 07:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a little insecure. You're doing fine by calling her once or twice a day. If you weren't calling her at all, that would be a problem but you're doing your part. Have you sat down with her and explained your schedule with her and that it's impossible for you to call her five times a day? She needs to understand that you are interested in her or you wouldn't call at all. Ask her if there is something else you could do rather than call so often.
2007-03-29 14:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get your point--that's way too needy. I suggest that you tell her what you related in your question and be firm about it. Tell her that you really like her, but that you have other things you need to accomplish during the day and aren't able to talk with her several times each day. Also tell her that you'd like to think that she is secure enough to know that you value her and the relationship w/o the necessity of repeated daily conversations. If she's not......you may need to reconsider things as you can't hold her hand every minute of the day. She'll either accept it or she won't.
2007-03-29 14:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you like advice from an "old" girl? I used to be that way too, very needy. What may work is to tall her that you think of her often and care about her very, very much, but that you absolutely cannot call her more than you do. Let her know that you call her whenever you can and think of her often. This may work.
2007-03-29 14:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY GOODNESS. this is an unhealthy relationship. this girl is clearly VERY insecure. if you really like her because she is hot or something, you should let her know that you love her and she doesnt need to call all the time. If you really dont need need need her in your life, tell her your relationship is not as healthy as it should be and maybe you guys arent right for each other. BUT BE GENTLE. Girls take it very seriously and dramatically when you break up with them.
2007-03-29 14:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell here the truth. Most relationships end because lack of communication. Take her on a surprises date somewhere and tell her how you fell about her and what's bothering you. Don't flatter her with stuff but just hang out and have a good time.
I hope this works for you!
2007-03-29 14:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by X_x dead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best policy: honesty. Tell her nicely that she seems to want more attention that you can give her. Explain that you care about her and want to keep dating, but that it's impossible for you to meet her demands as they are right now. Maybe she hasn't realized how needy she's been. If she's unwilling to compromise or accuses you of not liking her, then she's probably not the nice, understanding girl you thought.
2007-03-29 14:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simply make it clear that you dig her a lot, but your schedule isn't conducive to frequent phone calls and you don't feel they should be necessary anyway.
You don't need to cater to her. She needs to work on her own issues, to become a better partner. If she doesn't believe you are interested in her, when you say it plainly, but needs several phone calls a day to reassure her of that, are you sure this is someone you want to move forward with?
2007-03-29 14:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
umm well first of all u have 2 tell her u cant call her 5 times a day but when u do call her rly seem like u care and also make her feel loved by when u c her hug her and make her feel special
2007-03-29 14:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzy_bubbles_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you said you are very busy so try to make time for her, have at least one night a week where it's just you and her, do something romantic, girls like that. Spend the whole night with her, and if you can, try to spend the whole day with her. If not, just try a whole night with nothing else but you and her. I know that would keep me satisfied. it might work for her. Just try it.
2007-03-29 14:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by Speed, I Am Speed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes been hurt in the past and is now trying to keep tabs on what your doing at all times.
that will become a huge control issue if it is not stopped.
Explain that you cannot be on the phone with her at all times
point out that you like girls that do not need to be reassured of your attention at all times and that you do not like girls that are high maintance. point out girls on street or at the movies or mall and tell her that your glad shes not so needy.
But Mostly...If you feel overwelmed tell her now before she becomes obbsessive.
2007-03-29 14:41:28 · answer #11 · answered by nobodytotalkabout 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋