My bf broke up with me a lot of times in the past. Every time after a breakup, he treated me really badly. But i was stupid enough to go back to him everytime.
Until 3 months ago when he broke up with me, i didnt chase after him. I had no contact with him until a month ago he came back for the first time. We started talking and things were going well and he bought tickets to visit me this week.(we are long distance).
But i broke it off a week ago b/c i thought about all the awful things he did in the past, like kicking me out a sec after he broke up with me. He didnt talk to me after that and cancelled his flight. I apologized to him a million times but he ignored the hell out of me. I'm blaming myself for breaking it off but meanwhile i'm getting really angry at him for being so rude and ignoring all my attempts to make amends.
I think i'll stop all these. I mean, i really tried. do u think he'll come back a second time if i have no contact with him like i did last time?
2007-03-29 07:22:04 · 15 answers · asked by cherbearnew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly im not going to say forget him breaking up all the time is bad, me and my bf did this a lot (luckily it has stoped) anywaz the reason i always came back is because he chased me and proved to me his love i never once had to chase him, he should understand that your hesitant and still be calling you, so what he bought a ticket he needs to do a lot more to make you feel better...i say move on he's not worth it...you sound like your doing good and you'll be able to.
2007-03-29 07:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lovley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He kicked you out just because the two of you broke up? So you were in a city far from home, where you did not know anyone, and he just said get out. Does not sound like a person who cares about anyone but himself. It sounds like a really unhealthy relationship because he breaks up with you and then he gets back together with you. It is like a revolving door and it goes no where.
Think about it if your job were like this. Your boss would fire you and then rehire you over and over. Basically you would never know when you would be fired next and you would always be in limbo. Would you want a job like that? So why would you want a boyfriend like that. Another problem I think is that long distance relationships simply do not work because the two people are not together enough to really get to know each other.
I went through a similar experience like you when I went to spend time with a guy I had only dated once. We ended up becoming involved when I went to see him and it seemed great at the time. However, I really did not know him because I was a visitor in his town and he was taking time off of work. He was stationed far away from his family and friends, so I did not get to see him in a real life setting. Basically we kept breaking up and getting back together on the phone. It was so silly and dysfunctional and this was going nowhere. The last time he basically said we were just going in circles and I told him he was right.
The best thing that ever happened was that I just cut off contact with him completely. This way I was able to meet healthier people and not live in limbo. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-29 14:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself why you want to be with this person if he treats you so bad? Is your self esteem so low that you don't feel you could attract other men? What you did was probably the best thing you could have done. Quit kicking yourself and get on with your life. Do you really think that he felt guilty all those times he did something bad to you? I think not!! What he is doing and has done in the past is wrong. Do not contact this person ever again. And if he calls you tell him he has the wrong number and HANG UP!!! Good Luck
2007-03-29 14:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't back up now. You finally did the right thing. He has repeatedly shown you that he doesn't respect you. You have a lot more going for you than this low life. Do not let him back in. If you look back you will see that you have been the happiest you been for a long time without him. Why in the world do you want him back. Don't do it.
2007-03-29 14:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by not contacting him, he chased you just for the thrill of it. He may value you more now but if all it took for him to start acting stupid was you rejecting him once after all he put you thru then you really don't need him. Just move one with your life and let him go.
2007-03-29 14:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by BaByGuRlTeE07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want him to come back? I don't think you should put yourself through this. MOve on, and find someone who will respect you and not break up with you every 3 months. You're better than that and don't blame yourself. Prove to him that your strong and you can be without him if he's going to treat you this way.
2007-03-29 14:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Beanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, maybe you shouldn't want him back. Long distance relationships are hard enough. Think about the option of moving on. It'll be a lot easier on you emotionally once you get past it. So don't blame yourself, and let it go.
2007-03-29 14:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want someone like that in your life? stop blaming yourself and move on. You have a right to the way that you are treated. His loss not yours. Find someone closer and knows how to treat you with some respect.
2007-03-29 14:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by chazzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You do not need to be in a relationship with a guy that treats you like this. It will never change.
2007-03-29 14:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont blame yourself. if your relationship was just breaking up and you comming back to him it wasnt much of a relationship. just leave it be and start to move on. and if he comes back to you give it a while before you jump right into that relationship again, make him show you that he has changed before you give him your heart.
good luck!
2007-03-29 14:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋