ok me and my babyfather been going back and worth with drama , and i just stopped lettin him see our daughter, because he got a girlfriend that he lied to me about and she's jealous of me and our daughter because we are all that he talks baout around her, so anyway, he left me for her when i was three months pregnant , so i been depressed because i'm in love with him, he broke up with her like 2 weeks ago i guess and my mom put me out so me and our daughter stayed wih him for 1 day, and he told me he love me and i think he hate me but i dont know how he really feels , so dont say he hate me because it's not hate, anyway friday night he got in a car accident and the ***** was in the car with him and somebody had a collapsed lung, and so anyway what does this all mean, and i'm i right for not letting him see our daughter because he chose a jealous lying ***** over us?
2007-03-29 07:13:30 · 8 answers · asked by twiggy_vienna_love 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this has nothing to do with your child. Your exs and your relationship shouldnt have any bearing on whether or not he sees his child, unless its violent. He didn't leave the 2 of you he left you! he should still have contact with his child it is up to you to make sure that your daughter grows up a healthy person and the best way to do that is to make sure she has loving parents whether they are together or not. Don't let your relationship hurt your child.
As for your relationship i think you need to just look at him as your babies dad and not as a romantic interest. even if he does have some love for you he hasnt worked out the issues with his ex. maybe just keep the relaitonship platonic for now and see what happens in the future.
Good Luck
2007-03-29 07:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No as long as he's a good father and taking care of her you shouldn't deny him his child. But if as far as you and him are concerned you can do a lot better. He's played you constantly and you deserve better. But your daughter still deserves her father, but if he's only going to be a sometimes parent and only there when its good for him then sometimes that could hurt more than him not being around at all so you should let him know that. I grew up with a sometimes parent and I still have bad feeling towards him for putting me thru a lot of things I didn't ask to go thru, and I'm 18. So you just really have to talk to him and think a lot of your daughter and how what you and him decided now can affect her future.
2007-03-29 14:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by BaByGuRlTeE07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about him, you got yourself a daughter, it's gonna hurt you to let him go, but i recommend you doing so,i was in the same situation a while back and it hurt me to leave my son's father but i had to for the sake of my son, my son just like your daughter needs some solid ground and only you can give it to her! needless to say about 3 years after i left him i found my one true love whom i married 3 months ago and he cares deeply for me and my son, we feel safe and loved around him, as well as for you you will meet someone in which you will care more about when you realize the most important thing to do is charish your young daughter because they grow up so fast, and don't bother yourself with some scum bag who wants to leave you to move on with someone else, and not worry about the fun times he is missing with his daughter! good luck
2007-03-29 14:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by kuc2215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the drama please. he did not leave the two of you... he left you. He was stringing you along because he was lonely, and now you think that he deserves this type of treatment. You are being spitefully, and being more drama into your lives. I sugguest you move on and let that man see his child
2007-03-29 14:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by danicolegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you he love you because he knew you would have sex with him that way. He doesn't love you, just wants to hit it. You are easy to get into bed, so he will lie to you and you will believe it.
You shouldn't keep his daughter from him regardless of what he does. You are using her to punish him, making you a horrible mother.
2007-03-29 14:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes girl if he cant be a man n take care of his child he doesnt deserve to see her let alone be in her presence
so stay strong
2007-03-29 14:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by AMBER B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIVORCE u deserve more .N ur baby needs d best not a ******* father like this.
2007-03-29 14:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer ur child is suffering in this more than u two
2007-03-29 14:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋