my girlfriend and i have been together for about 6 months and we have had been together in the past as well. i know that i love her but i want to sleep with other women as well.
i did just that about 3 weeks ago and it didn't feel the way i thought it would feel.
the girl was cool and kind of crazy but i smashed anyway.
while the two of us where doing it my girlfriend called and i ignored the call.
since then my girlfriend has been acting all wierd and doesn't talk to me the same way. like she is disgusted with me.
so the question is should i tell her i cheated or just leave the situation alone?
remember i love her and i dont want to hurt her in any way.
2007-03-29 06:09:58 · 30 answers · asked by Michael F 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i left the other girl alone and i dont want to sleep with othe people any more.
i hurts me too.
and no STD's i had a rubber on
2007-03-29 06:18:47 · update #1
i need more answer and real one that will help me out.
2007-03-29 06:56:11 · update #2
Dearest...you need damage control.
What you should do is NEVER tell her. I know this first hand...I've been cheated on and he told me...and I know girls always say "Oh, I wanna know if the guy cheats on me!" well, it's not true cos in a serious relationship it just hurts too much. If you tell her, you will definitely lose her. And also you will hurt her for no reason. I mean...do you know FOR SURE (like a 110% sure) that your gf can't find out about your little mischief? If there is no way she can find out, then you shouldn't tell her. But if there is even a 10% chance she might find out, then YOU have to tell her. If she hears it from someone else she will be extra mad and while there is a little chance she might forgive you if you are the one to tell her about this, she will most definitely NOT forgive you if she finds out from someone else!
Either way, this is your mistake and you have to live with it. It's not her fault and she doesn't deserve to be hurt, so if there is not a chance in hell she can find out about this from someone else, you shouldn't tell her. And get yourself checked for diseases please - she doesn't deserve to be paying for your mistakes!
2007-03-29 06:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay...you slept with another girl and you "think" you cheated? You ignored her call and but you say you "love your girlfriend and don't want to hurt her in any way". Those are all contradictions in terms. You have already hurt her - telling her about it will only hurt her more. What I think you should do is figure out what you want, quickly, and then do that. Stop stringing the so-called girlfriend along. If you want to sleep with other girls, then don't have a committed relationship.
2007-03-29 06:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So You cheated , and you know that is a fact that will hurt your girl friend. However! Whats love got to do with it? Has anyone told you about a woman's intuition? Allow me, She already suspects that you are cheating , she can sense it in her spirit. How could this be ? I will tell you this much, when you become intimate along with intercourse and invested time you become entwined in a soulish connection and when you cheat she can feel the disconnection, Therefore you either come clean or take your chances until the confrontation, when you cheat know one wins in the end
2007-03-29 06:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're hurting her more by not telling her that you cheated. Yes, she'll be pissed that you cheated on her, and it could end your relationship with her, but if you truly love her and care for her, you'll come clean with what happened. Think how you would feel if the tables were turned. I'm sure you'd want her to tell you, if she messed up. So you need to respect her and tell her what happend.
2007-03-29 06:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Shandra S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they say the truth hurts, but they also say what you don't know wont hurt you. So you be the judge whether to tell her or not. I think you should stop sleeping with other women if you love her as you said you did. I am sure you would hate it if she slept with other men then said she loves you!
2007-03-29 06:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Playful~Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't want to hurt her then you wouldn't have slept with that other slut you idiot. I swear sometimes men can be the dumbest creatures on earth...you being the perfect example. TELL her because more than likely she already knows and she's waiting for you to confess to it. You don't deserve her anyway, so just get it over with you weak, man whore. You disgust decent women like me.
2007-03-29 06:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've hurt her - there is no way around that now. If you want to sleep with other women (and are) then you shouldn't string you're girlfriend along. Tell her the truth, and let her decide if she wants to stay with you.
2007-03-29 06:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already hurt her. even if you never say a word you will always know that if you ever told her she will be hurt. You should tell her so she make a decision weather she wants to stay with you or not.
2007-03-29 06:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Heather N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love her? yet you want to sleep with other women? Let her go, tell her you slept with the other girl and get the hurtin over with. If you really love her, you'd be true to her.
If your whole point is to have sex with as many women as possible, then go for it, but don't portend to love any one of them unless you decide to become true to the woman and to yourself.
2007-03-29 06:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by kb6jra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Fu**'d up! She probably cheated on you also! And I think you did cheat on her, acting like you cant figure it out or not! You 2 need to seriously talk and tell each other the truth.
2007-03-29 06:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋