My friend doesn't drive, so I take her and her child to school daily along with me and my child. She had aquired a small dog who rides along with us. He is very ill-mannered, barks excessively at people, scratches the paint on the exterior of the bed as he hangs over going nuts, he also urinates in the bed of the pickup. Also he rides unrestrained in the cab, and so his hair is everywhere. There have been times I have been distracted as he climbs over my lap, and interferes with my driving. When I expressed my dismay, telling her maybe he needs a shock collar or some kind of training, she has now decided to resume walking her child to school and when I drove by, she didn't acknowledge me and I feel she is mad at me now. So I was hoping for some answers on how to deal with this issue. Was I wrong to feel upset about her dog's behavoir? He has also attacked children in our neighborhood, when he has escaped his tie-out. Would love to get some advice about this. I own a dog, as well.
2007-03-29 06:09:10 · 10 answers · asked by not perfect 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
The dog can't stay home because of it's bad behavoir. It tears things up and barks, and since her brother-in-law works night shift, he doesn't want to be bothered by the noise, even though it is supposedly his and his wife's dog ... so my friend actually babysits her sister's dog for her while she's at work during the day, this is why the dog was coming with us, instead of staying home.
2007-03-29 08:35:20 · update #1
You were perfectly within your rights to comment on the dog's poor behavior. The dog was in your vehicle and, even more significantly, in your lap! The shock-collar comment could have been too strong, however, as many people consider that animal abuse. Coupled with everything else you mentioned, it sounds like this dog is in need of some serious training but the owner is enabling (and perhaps encouraging) its poor behavior. This is unfortunate, but there's nothing you can do about it except tell her you won't put up with it. After that, it's up to her.
2007-03-29 07:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by Carl R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong to comment on the dog's behaviour. He obviously needs training, and how rude of her to allow her dog to run riot in your car, and how dangerous! I do think you could've been more tactful than suggesting a shock collar tho, as some people don't agree with them. There are also more effective methods of training, which your friend needs to investigate.
If I were you I'd just go and have a chat with her. Say you didn't mean to offend, and you're happy to continue rides, but you just can't have her dog leaping about while you drive as it's dangerous. Maybe suggest training classes for the dog. This isn't an unreasonable attitude, so if she can't get by it I would suggest perhaps she wasn't that great a friend in the first place if she can't even take a bit of constructive criticism!
Chalice
2007-03-29 06:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by Chalice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so when I read the question without the details I was ready to defend the friend HOWEVER, I have now changed my position.
While I don't think a shock collar is ever a good idea, I agree with you. This dog needs a lot of training and if your friend isn't willing to do this, then she shouldn't own a dog!
As a person who doesn't drive either, many people have gone out of their way to drive me places in a pinch. I can't possibly imagine doing anything that would inconvenience them! You are doing your "friend," a great service here and she is abusing the situation!
The dog needs to be crate trained! ASAP! As well as other kinds of training!!
2007-03-29 06:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tiff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my first question is. . . why can't the dog stay home? It sounds as if he's a danger to himself and those in the car. Not to mention the dog is ruining the interior and may cause an accident w/ the jumping all around. I think your friend is way off in being mad at you. Sounds like she can't handle criticism and honestly. . . the problem is HERS and not yours. Don't forget you're doing HER the favor. So she should be the one taking the way you feel into consideration over the dog. I had a friend like this and believe me. . not worth worrying over. Some people just don't see any side but their own. They think they're the only ones with feelings. You are 100% right in having concerns over the dogs behavior as it's yours and your child's safety at risk. If she can't see this - she's not a friend. She sounds rather irresponsible to me.
2007-03-29 06:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by misha515 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this person was NOT your friend and was taking advantage of you. She was way over the line as far as the dog is concerned. I can't understand why she needed to take the dog along, particularly if his behavior is so bad. I can't imagine what her house looks like!
You weren't wrong to object to his behavior. If he attacks children in the neighborhood and the owner does nothing about it she's ripe for a lawsuit. Pets are happier when they're trained.
Be glad she's no longer your so-called friend. She wasn't a REAL friend.
2007-03-29 06:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to grow up. If she's willing to end a friendship over a suggestion you made regarding something that's inconviencing you, then she doesn't seem like she's even worth being friends with. Real friends would appreciate what you are doing for them and make an attempt to make things as easy for you as possible. You don't need the stress of someone who is going to be petty.
2007-03-29 06:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by paha4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you were protecting your children and yourself. If you want your friend back maybe you should tell her simply you're sorry but you fear for your children's safety around her dog, and maybe the both of you could take a dog training class together. Tell her she can ride with you as long as she keeps her dog in a crate!
2007-03-29 06:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by lilrnblover86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are perfectly right. If she wants a ride with you, she should leave the dog home. There is no reason why you should have to put up with its bad manners. And dangerous when you are driving.
2007-03-29 06:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it sounds like ur doing everything right. it does sound like they need to do some training ont the dog. i would just let ur friend get over it for a while then talk to her. then if she does do the stuff to change her dog then u can let the dog ride.
2007-03-29 06:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not like he knows what he is doing
he is just being a dog
but as far as friendship if she ends it over that then it wasnt that great of a friendship!
remember dogs act crazy some 24/7 so maybe you should of said from now on keep the dog at the house or i dont want him driving with me.but give it some time it should work out
2007-03-29 06:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by redhotgermangrl 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋