i need advice please!!!!?

Question

i have a big problem ib have a bf who i care for alot and i have strong feelings for him but the problem is that i still have strong feeling for my ex b.f. now my ex is begging me to come back with him and he came to visit me yesterday and i was so happy to see him i missed him so much, but to be honest am so confused because i feel something for both of them and i love them the same and my ex is begging me to comeback with him but am so confused and its so hard to think who i really want to be with, i need some advice please!! has it ever happen to you guys if it has tell me your experience and what happened

Answer 1

Oh yea, and then there were none! (like in no one) Take a vacation! Call relatives, Friends, anybody anywhere just get away! Go thru those memory banks and remember why he became Mr. X and why this sudden "I gotta have you back" story. Did he hear that you were getting along just fine without him and he just wants to prove he can get you back any time he wants? Aren't you worried about being called "easy" ? R-E-S-P-E-C-T yourself.

Answer 2

Remember why you and your ex broke up. If it was over a big thing (infidelity, no communication, abuse, etc) DO NOT GO BACK because those things never change! If it was over something considerably trivial (schedules didn't allow you to see one another enough, etc) maybe it is worth a shot. If you were totally in love with your current boyfriend, you would not have strong feelings of desire for your ex!

Answer 3

think about how your past relationship with your ex was... you are probably missing what could have been in the relationship or what made you happy and forgetting the things that made you break up. Think of how your current relationship is going. Then if you are still unsure about the feelings you feel think about who is worth your time and who would you truly miss more if they were to be gone forever. Also did you have closure with your ex if you didn't that could be another reason you miss him

Answer 4

Listen, if you love your current boyfriend as much as you say you do, your cheating on him by entertaining thoughts of the ex. And if the ex is so great, why is he your ex. There is a reason you broke up in the first place. My advice, dump them both, move to Alaska, and start a whale watching tour. It doesn't sound like you love either of them enough to stay faithful.

Answer 5

i can understand u having strong feelings for ex and all , but sweetie u have to ask yourself what was wrong with him? why is he ur ex now? why the relationship didn't work out the first time? how do u know if u take him things will change? u don't know that. i will say no to the ex and try to move on with the current one.

Answer 6

An ex is an ex for a reason, there was something wrong in the relationship that caused it to fail. Sometimes it was the fault of one person, sometimes both. But if that reason is still there, then the relationship will just fail again.

Answer 7

You need to find out who you're more comfortable with. You ex, or your current boyfriend? You have to figure this out soon. Because if not, you might be told that your a jerk by your present boyfriend. Think if it's worth going back to your ex-boyfriend in the first place. Why break-up in the first place with your ex if you still have stong feelings for him?

Answer 8

Obviously there is a reason your ex-boyfriend is "ex". Maybe since you have a current boyfriend that is not an ex yet, something is going better with this one. I would say stick with the one you are with. Why put him through getting dumped so you can be with some guy that allready had his chance and lost it?

Answer 9

i have went through that same problem b-4 n 2 tell u the truth it didin't turn out how i thought it would. I went ahead n stayed with my bf u know 2 give him a chance, just like my ex. n things were lot better, but 2 my ex. he went out types of out his league, he was streadin rumors n tryin 2 fight n comes 2 find out he had a gurl n e ways, he was provin that he could get me bac whenever he wanted, but i am glad i didn't go, bcause i wanted 2 so bad.

Answer 10

if he is your ex why is he your ex? you already know what he is about so why not move on to the next guy you have feelings for? unless you see a future with the ex, honestly i wouldn't waste my time on someone i was with before especially considering the circumstances to why we broke up. you miss him when you see him because you guys used to be together that's normal you miss your friends when you don't see them right? girl, move on good luck