I don't have the money to go to a therapist.See,I become attracted to someone.I start dating them,and then it starts to get tiring for no apparent reason.Do you think I just haven't found the right person yet or am I just having trouble giving someone a full chance?I'm still young,I'm 19(maybe that has something to do with it).I'm not the shallow/immature type either.All my girlfriends have said that I have commitment problems,but maybe they're just being bitter...?If this is true,what am I doing wrong?I can't afford therapy.
2007-03-29 05:51:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are 19 for crying out loud! You don't need therapy for this. Maybe something else, but not about commitment. Be true to yourself, not what other people want you to be. You have years to find someone you want to commit to. Besides who you are at 19 is different from who you will be at 24. Most people need more time to explore themselves and the world around them before they are ready to commit. Your girlfriends should be happy that you are being honest. You should be exploring and considering options about a whole lot of things in your life. Girls at 19 may be more mature, but they have things to learn and explore as well. This may be more than you want to know, but I married at 19. I was committed. He turned out to be completely different from the person I thought I was marrying. Give yourself lots of time. I don't think you will be sorry. If something is real, it will last. Good Luck.
2007-03-29 06:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by DIAN E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thought is that if you asking this question you dont have commitment problems your just too young to be ready to committ. Follow your heart, you'll know when you have met the right person. I got married at 17 was married for 13 years, have been divorced for 12 years, seems like 3 lifetimes, dont be in such a rush there is plenty of time.
2007-03-29 05:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by bornagainbrat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 19, commitment should be the farthest thing from your mind. Date as many men as you like, and have a good time. At this point in your life you should test the waters and get to know what you want as well as what you don't in a relationship.
Forget what your friends say, you don't have commitment issues, you've got the right attitude in my opinion.
2007-03-29 05:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend has commitment problems too.. Well, sort of... He thinks he's all that so he makes his "girlfriend" chase after him, he doesn't pay enough attention. I think you haven't found the right one. There isn't any problem with getting bored in a relationship. You don't need to see a therapist either. Many guys have the same problem as you.
2007-03-29 06:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by heavydeezy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know your right.why at 19 be in a hurry .i got married a t 17 ,loved him dearly,but never got the chance to expierence life as a grown woman,long story short ,iwent looking for love in all the wrong places,and will regret it for the rest of my life.i lost my husband and best friend.we are still friends but i was too much in a hurry to love and be loved.when in fact i had no idea what real love was.now that i do its too late.take your time please..i would not wish my regrets on anyone else.
2007-03-29 06:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by pattialfy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 is awfully young to be considering long-term commitments. Your relationships with these girls are probably getting tiring because they are too focused on these commitments themselves.
2007-03-29 09:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do have commitment problesms. You are afraid that you will be the one to end up hurt and your not giving them a chance to make a real commitment. Loosen up and take down that guard that you have up. You probably passed up on the one true love by not giving the relationship a chance.
2007-03-29 05:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by teri d 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're 19, you have no reason to commit to anyone.
Study hard, get a good job, fulfill your goals. Commitment is something for losers who have no other dreams to chase.
2007-03-29 05:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you just havent met the right person yet. I felt the same way until I met my current b/f. I think you just need to wait it out.
2007-03-29 05:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋