how do i tell my boyfriend he's bad in bed?

Answer 1

if you say "your bad in bed" you'll either crush his fragile ego or piss him off... most men aren't confident enough to take that sort of hit... but here's something to remember... great lovers are made.. not born... help him find what makes you happy.. believe me.. he wants to...

the best way to do this is to give him encouraging noises and signals when he does something right.. moan.. tell him "oh that feels good" .. whatever it takes... and give him discouraging signals when he does something bad or wrong... we aren't mind readers but when it comes to the sack we are pretty good at picking up on hints... and usually very enthusiastic to continue.

and isn't the point to make the whole experience better?...

teach him.. he wants to learn.

Answer 2

Don't tell him anything, that will only make him feel bad. Show him what you want. Show him what you need. Push his hands of head where you want them to go and simulate the motion that does the trick for you. Don't be affraid to talk and tell him your desires, if that's what it takes. If he finishes too soon, the next time, get him off with your hands or mouth first. Then get him up and going again. He'll last longer the next time. Climb on top and ride him like a cowgirl, using the motion and pace that pleases you.

If he refuses to learn what it takes to please you, it's time to move along.

Answer 3

UMMMM YOU DON'T. You find things to enhance your sex life. You tell him what you want in bed, what turns you on. You will never have a good sex life or may lose him if you tell him he's bad. Guys think of that as everything to their male ego.

Answer 4

just remember it takes 2 to have great sex! Instead of telling him he is bad, think of ways to talk to him about trying new things, spice it up, give him ideas, so maybe he'll open up and be more adventurous. Its worth a try to make it better rather than crush him and ruin your relationship if you really love him???????????????????

Answer 5

well, first of all i'd like to know a bit more.. how is it that he's bad? what doesnt he do for you? what do you want/expect? there's a big difference if maybe he's too boring, or too fast, or doesnt pay enough attention to you, or just does it for himself and ignores your needs, etc...

Answer 6

After he is done, tell him to plug in the vibrator on his way out.

Answer 7

instead of hurting his feelings why dont you find another way to help him get better, take control and do what feels good for you, when he sees how you react he'll learn a trick or two.

Answer 8

dont be evil!
YOU take control and while your doing it say do this to me do that to me, i love it when you do this i love it when you do that etc,

DO NOT SAY YOU ARE BAD IN BED!!!!!

Answer 9

stop going to bed with him ..... it's the best message

Answer 10

just tell him straight forward