too young to date?

Question

hello, im a 16 yr old girl who is turning 17 in less than 2 months and i was wondering, are my parents wrong to not let me date until im 18? my current boyfriend is willing to wait for me but im just curious as to know if my parents are right or just being overprotective. thnx=)

Answer 1

Hi...I think 16 is a good age to start dating. I don't think girls are ready before that. They have enough other things to worry about at that age. I think your parents might be a little overprotective. Talk to them. Maybe you could have your bf over for dinner and they can meet him and get to know him. Or try asking them if you can go out with a group of people and your bf. You say you have a bf already do your parents know? Good luck to you :)

Answer 2

They could be right AND over-protective. I have a 16 year old daughter and as long as I can remember what was going on when I was that age, as a mother, I have to do whatever I can to keep her from making mistakes. It's so easy to fall for guys and them take advantage of that by persuading you to do things that you really don't want to do or are not ready for. At 18, you have a better chance of having more restraint to the persuasion as well as a more mature mind to make those decisions. If your current boyfriend is willing to wait, that says a lot. He should be willing to wait if he cares about you enough and if he doesn't, what better way to learn! No parent wants to see their kids hurt or make wrong decisions. I had 2 boys and then a girl and trust me when I say, it's not easy being a mother to a girl and it gets harder when they reach the age you are. We know what's out there and the thought of it happening to "our little girl" is what we are trying to prevent. Call it over protective if you want but that's love and one day you will appreciate it. You have plenty of time for life and the real world, it will be there long after you're 18, why rush it! Stay young and innocent as long as you can cuz once you branch out, there's a whole nother world out there to butt heads with!

Answer 3

Well I guess it all depends on how your parents are and what their beliefs are. I my self don't think you are too young, I do think you need an early curfew though like maybe 10:30 or 11pm. But just try and side with them some how, maybe yall can come to an agreement you know meet in the middle somewhere. Just don't be upset with your parents because they are only trying to do what is best for you, you will thank them later. Maybe they are being a little over protective but it's only because you are their little girl that they hate to see grow up. Just don't rush growing up like we all tend to do. It'll all happen soon enough. And it's really wonderful that you have a boyfriend that will wait and that understands, I say he's a keeper. Happy early birthday!

Answer 4

if you already have a boyfriend i guess you're already dating?


whatever you call it, dating isn't too big a deal until you're 18 anyways. i wish every parent had this rule --- of course, i was dating younger than that, but you really don't know enough about anything for it to be meaningful before 18.. also, kids in general are morons, so that's another reason they probably made the rule. if you become pregnant at 18, they have no responsibility to take care of the baby. now that last one is probably much less the reason for the rule -- but basically the point is -- at 18, you are an adult and can make your own decisions and mistakes (as well as deal with whatever consequences result from those decisions).

in today's world, society definitely calls your parents' rule overly-strict, but it's not particularly crazy, if you consider why they actually have the rule. it makes pretty good sense.

that doesn't mean that the rule is "fun" or "easy" to accept for the kid in the situation.
it just is how it is -- you can talk to them about it, but if they're strong willed enough to make that particular rule you're unlikely to get anywhere -- so get ready to just accept it.

but then again, it sounds like you're dating anyways.

Answer 5

i would say they're being over protective, but each family is different. I think you can date at any age...well mostly like 13 or 14+. I'm talking taking it slow you know wat i mean? if your 13 and 14 and going out you'll probably just go on group date. but when your 16+ its more of a serious relationship. I guess it just all depends on how much your parents trust you, if you want to go out with someone and u cant b/c ur not 18 yet...sit your parents down and have a mature talk on why you should be a loud dating. You'll come back during curfew, you care for him a lot, i'll obey your rules...etc. GL!

Answer 6

Well 18 is a good age because at that age you are independent and on your own.

when you are 17 I guess it is ok it has much more chances of becoming a marriage than when you're 16 and younger.

parents probably are being overprotective but for the right reasons. dating can be unhealthy in school and etc.

Answer 7

Parents are protective by nature, no new news about that, and if it was up to them, they would've never let you date just because you will always be their little priness.

However, I think it's the right thing to do, I mean date at 18 years old, because in this age you are a bit mature and know what you want / don't want and can decide for yourself if this thing is right or wrong to do......

Answer 8

I gave my daughter the same rules. You have to know that at this age you should be concentrating on school and enjoying your friends (girls and boys). I told my daughter that after she finishes high school and college she will have all the time in the world to party her A*# off. Yes I told her that. She needs now not to worry about having a boyfriend. They take too much of your time. You will thank your parents later, believe me.

Answer 9

Well, they are genuinely concerned for you. They want you to focus on your future. So many girls your age get caught up in the 'I have to have a boyfriend' issue. If I were you, I would wait also. Focus on school and make a good beginning for yourself in life before you jump into dating. Not saying he is a bad person but my daughter just pissed away her entire future for a guy. She had ONE semester to go be for she got an associates degree in business, he comes here and turns her world upside down promising her this and that, quit her job, quit school, and he promised to stay and make a life with her, lo and behold yesterday he says hes going back to New York and hes not taking her with him. Now she has no job, no money, and the place she staying is kcking her out because the lease is up. Leanr from this and start a solid future for yourself first.

Answer 10

I was allowed to date when I was 16. Of couse, that was a while ago-LOL!
Have you tried talking to your parents, and asking them why they don't want you to date until you are 18? I would! It They may change their minds if you ask them in a mature way.
I don't know if they are right or wrong? I bet they have their reasons-which is why you need to discuss it with them.
Good luck!