so my "bf" and i havnt talked/seen each other since a little less than a month ago. he all of a sudden started avoiding/ignoring me. we did text some a couple weeks back. but he never called me or answered/replied to my calls. so i gave up. and now we havnt texted/talked since like a couple weeks ago. i want to go to his house asking for an explanation, saying that i know its over. i just want to know why he did that to me and why he never freaking broke up with my initially if he wanted to. should i just let everything go, and avoid it all together, or officially break up with him in person. we were dating for 7 months. and im 18 hes 25.
2007-03-29 03:37:47 · 18 answers · asked by sd_baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, but its over. Your bf or ex is a real spineless miserable person. He didn't have the guts to break up with you in person or even over the phone. When breaking up with someone you owe them the respect of doing it in person, face to face, however, he didn't even do it over the phone, making him dispicable. Don't give him the pleasure of you knocking on his door, and you won't get what you need anyway. He won't come to the door, or will refuse to see you, making you look even more like a fool. Don't give him that. You will have your day in the sunshine when he sees you with someone else and even if you run in to him and your not with someone else, he'll see you happy. Even if you aren't act that way. If he did that to you, he most likely will not change nor will he see the error of his ways as one would hope, but you can consider yourself lucky as you are not with him and do not have to put up with that inconsiderate behavior. I know it may not feel like it now, but eventually you will feel better and see that you are better off not having someone like that in your life.
2007-03-29 03:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun, but it's over. Let it go and get out there and enjoy being 18! Like many other answers, I agree you should be out with friends and enjoying life, not worrying about why a guy 7 years older suddenly drops off your radar. He really should have been more mature than that and have given you an explanation at least for why he broke up with you.... he doesn't deserve your time or concern....
2007-03-29 10:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats some age difference. But avoiding that matter, and seeing the way he ignored you (if not for some connection problem) I dont think he loves you really. First ask an explanation as you said and clear all doubts and then only break up with him if you so desires. Some good guy will hopefully come your way.
2007-03-29 10:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Chaste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend your the 25 year old and he's 18 and show him up! Don't call, text or visit him. Let it go. IT'S OVER. If the man hasn't made contact with you and is IGNORING you...then theres your sign. Keep your dignity and stay away from him. And since he did this to you, if he ever tries to get you back..give him the cold shoulder. He doesn't deserve you.
2007-03-29 10:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may be immature and doesnt know how or have the balls to end the relationship in a normal manner because he's afraid of confrontation.
I had an ex like this. Or it could be he doesnt like to officially break up, so then he could always come running back and by not really telling you....he's leaving that door/option open. Be weary of men like this. Thats just my 2 cents though.
2007-03-29 10:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, in a situation like this, you're both young etc..I would suggest to move on and not wonder why he didn't give you reasons for what he did or how he acted. I've gone through that plenty of times. I end up moving on and doing my own thing. Lot of times they will call back after some time to apologize etc..I accept it but I don't go back with them though. You're young, go out and have fun!!!
2007-03-29 10:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell u something. when people act like that they are usually dealing with someone else. or already was with someone else from the beginning.so my advise to you, if u don't want to be hurt anymore just move on. and if you think that u really need a answer then go, and ask questions but be prepared for the outcome.
2007-03-29 11:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by sparkle7654 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is banging someone else, I would say it is over, if I got the chance of being 18 again, I certainly wouldnt be looking for a relationship, I would be out having fun, seeing some sites, before I even thought about settling down again,
2007-03-29 10:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would go over there; I would try to call him and ask whats up? Let him know how you feel; then let it go ; obviously he doesn't respect you enough to even say goodbye- you deserve better
2007-03-29 10:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ankippia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've had this experience before (although not with the age gap), but it's over. And as much as it sucks, you may never get answers, which will be hard to deal with at first, but it gets easier with time.
2007-03-29 10:55:21 · answer #10 · answered by Susie Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋