My sister, 28, has 2 boys--1 and 2. Last August her BF left them. She has always had mental problems like depression etc. After he left she has been so low. She has a full time job and goes to school full time. I watch her children. I have her children on average of 14 hours per day--she is only with them at night and a few hours here and there. The boys are a handful but she is rough on them--yells, spanks, etc, and never just enjoys being with them.
Now, my problem is this: I love these boys like they are mine, but my sister and the baby's father say I have no right to the kids other than just to babysit. So, I need to distance myself from them I think. She has begun lying to me about where she goes and this morning she was suppossed to go to class but her teacher called and said she hoped she feels better--I have no idea where she is. I need a break but if I say something about the lies then she may keep the kids away or be mean to them. I'm so angry wit her. What do I do?
2007-03-29 03:33:45 · 6 answers · asked by jilldaniel_wv 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can understand how your heart would go out to these boys, but your sister is toxic and is taking advantage of you. To a point I'm sure you don't mind as you are doing this for the kids. Stop tip-toeing around your sister and tell her how you feel and what you know. Sisters like these may get mad and keep things from you but I bet she'll be back after her clouds clear... GL.
2007-03-29 03:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you feel your sister is abandoning her children, you can call social services.
i don't know what else to tell you? you are enabling her to do this by keeping the kids.
it seems as if she has anger issues. you said she is mistreating the kids, even though she rarely sees them. it sounds as if she needs help managing her emotions.
this is a rough situation and i dont' blame you for being angry and upset with your sister.
do you have a minister or a close friend or relative you can talk to? maybe if you and one or two other family members confront her with all of this, she will get help and SEE that what she is doing is wrong.
i wish you all the best.
2007-03-29 10:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister and her b/f need to grow up. You are going to have to tell her to start being a real mom or you wiil call social services. If you love these boys as much as you say than you need to get them in a stable environment.
2007-03-29 15:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by h_how2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her and that b/f of hers that unless they straighten out their act, they're going to lose their rights as parents. Stop watching the kids, they need to be the adults and take responsibility for their own children.
2007-03-29 11:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop babysitting her kids. Tell her they are her responsibility and keep your door closed.
2007-03-29 10:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to somebody
2007-03-29 10:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋