Ok I know this is a wierd question but i'm dateing a guy he's 21 years old and he's a virgan. I am not i have 2 kids. How far is going to far. He's a chirstan guy so with every other girls he's been with he's waiting tell he's married but now that he's dateing be i am a bad infulences. He's going places he's never gone. I keep stoping him before we go to far because i don't wan him to do what he don't want to. But it's hard to know what's ok and what's to far...
2007-03-29 03:03:08 · 20 answers · asked by justasking 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lonnie for your info. He's the one that starts things. I don't cuz i don't know what he is ok with. I've asked him and he said he wants to be with me and do stuff with me. I'm trying to help him not go to far and regrts it later (spelling i know)
2007-03-29 03:12:21 · update #1
It is great that you are willing to accept his beliefs and not want push him to break it.
Also, you say you are a bad influence on him, but can it be said that he is a good influence on you as well?
My opinion, going to far is going is only what both you are willing to do. I think both of you need to talk things out, either faces to face or just go with the moment.
2007-03-29 03:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him his view on sex before marriage and respect his feelings. I am older and believe this should be saved for after marriage. Go only as far as you and he are comfortable with at this point in relation ship as I know times and apparently values have changed.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-29 03:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by Bassman1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a few times and it is really a intricate thing. It's just like a woman's first time. I think you should reonsider because you described yourself in such a way. Are you not going places? If not, then let him go. Let him attempt to find someone Christian and going places, like himself. Maybe this will help you reevaluate things in your life.
2007-03-29 03:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since he has been making the moves so far that obviously means he must want to. So he will choose when he has had enough or if he does not want to do so. Let him take the lead.
2007-03-29 06:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sydney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's serious about waiting and it's based on Christian principals then ANYwhere is too far. It's not just about intercourse, it also includes ANY form of foreplay. Sorry. I have to say way to go to you though for being the one to stop things because you respect him for it.
2007-03-29 03:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is old enough to know what he wants to do. He is not your child and you cannot make him do anything he doesn't want to. He's made all these decisions before you don't you think he's capable of refraining from "too much?" Maybe he wants his first time to be with someone he loves..maybe it's you. Just make sure you are in love with him too. It would suck to be "thee one" and not love him.
2007-03-29 03:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are a tease!!! If he said no, he means NO...Get yourself a life and let this guy go before you make him into your boy toy...
I hope this helps,
Lonnie
2007-03-29 03:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's perfectly alright....it sounds like he just didn't find the right woman.
You give yourself too much credit.....he'll do what he wants to do.....he has so far.
2007-03-29 03:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only he can decide what is too far. you have to respect what he wants to do. he may change his mind because he cares for you but he may not. as long as your ask him what level he is comfortable with it's okay
2007-03-29 03:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by JM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its cool that u respect that he's a virgin, if you guys are get hot and heavy and you feel its going too far, then just stop
2007-03-29 03:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by TheBeautifulMess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋