i have been dating this girl for about 5 months.. she told me the other night that she just wants to take a break.. i was a little shocked because it came out of know where.. we still talk every day.. and she says she loves me and her feelings are still there but she wants for know to be classified as "dating" and not bf gf.. she said she has never cared so much about somebody but she said its going way to fast and she needs her space.. what should i do?
2007-03-29 02:51:41 · 12 answers · asked by Chris S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You let her date others and you and you do the same.......trust me me met someone else..BUT she still has feelings for you...she wants to see if ths guys is more for her..which is OK...hey..you 2 are not married and you and her have to be with someone you really like so........sorry but truth hurts
2007-03-29 02:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
5-6 months is a milestone in many close, committed relationships because the first 5-6 months is the "Honeymoon Phase" where everything about each of you is "new" and before the general attitude of each you starts to become apparent to one another.
It's generally when one partner begins to think seriously about where the relationship is heading without the thrill of romance heavily coloring everything.
It's also the usual first opportunity for the infamous 'communication breakdown" which is just a nonsense way of saying that one person begins to think about dating others, or has already met somebody else, or doesn't feel the other is committed enough to the relationship and says things like "Let's take a break", and that's a very immature and cruel way to break things off with somebody. It's kinder just to tell them you want to break things off so that you are free to pursue others, but people can be selfish, and in their insecurity they can desire not to burn a bridge (even though that's what happens anyway), and they can even convince themselves that they are being kind to tell you that way instead of being direct and honest. She is disrespecting you by not being clear and honest.
You are better off without her because she didn't even have the integrity to be straight with you, and that's a definite indicator of her being selfish and immature in her romantic relationships. She is only one small notch above a cheater who has even less integrity.
Don't answer her phone calls, emails, etc at least until you really feel and understand you are better off and can respond to her without getting caught up in emotion, and then if she calls to say she made a mistake, tell her "I know you did, but next time somebody cares for you, maybe you will remember how you messed this up. Good luck, and I hope you find somebody who cares for you as much as I used to care for you".
Next. It's gonna take sometime for you to pull yourself back together I expect.
2007-03-29 10:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are not relationship people. They like someone, but they're queasy about being in a relationship since it feels different. It feels like you don't have quite as much independence and that sometimes you're relying too much on your significant other. She just might want to try salvaging her remaining independence, feel like she's not overburdening you, or just wants some personal time. Trust her. She'll come back. She actually sounds like she needs a breather.
2007-03-29 09:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by Emiline 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Watch out boy, she could be serious about you and want to see how you handle the relationship this way. This will let her know if you are sincere about your feelings. However, there are a number of things that could be going through her head, and you may need to move on. Here if you need someone to talk to, you can email.
2007-03-29 10:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sha-Na-Na 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should move on and cut all contact with her. At this point she is probably seeing someone other than you and simply wants you around in case the other thing doesn't work out for her.
2007-03-29 09:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by sassyliz32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her that, but sounds like its because she isn't sure about you, seems like she still wants to scope out other guys and stuff...she enjoys the relationship feeling, but still wants to be single, so she can do whatever she wants, it's weird, we girls are difficult, talk to her and hang with her but just don't invest too much feelings into her, for you might end up hurt
2007-03-29 09:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by TheBeautifulMess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you care for her and still want to be a part of her life you'll have to accept her terms.
Maybe she really cares for you but a relationship is not what she wants right now.
2007-03-29 09:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's interested in someone else and just doesn't know how to tell you. She doesn't want to hurt you - she doesn't realize that she IS hurting you. Break it off ASAP and move on.
Sorry. Good luck! :)
2007-03-29 09:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..she might b scared that she will get heartbroken or hurt or either she wants to make sure that she does love you, by thinking it out and realizing that its more than emotion.
*she could have someone else or thinking about hooking up with someone else....
*she mite not b sure of what she wants out of a relationship...or she might b scared to get into a serious one
2007-03-29 09:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by 2cute2turnaway07 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her space. She obviously needs time to think!
2007-03-29 09:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋