im so unhappy in my life and with myself any advice?

Question

sumthing is really wrong wit me. im always sad and always feel like an outksat. i need God i need advice. i dont like myself and i dont enjoy life, what do i do?

thank yall for u inspiration and i apologize for the othe awholes answering these questions. God is not to be played around with. i pray that u realize that b4 he comes back. i luv u all in jesus name .amen!

Answer 1

I'm not sure God can give you what you need. You need society babe. Find a shoulder to cry on and cry, baby, cry - just not right off the bat, not unless you're paying for it.

Check in with a therapist first...you *might* have depression and there's plenty of good meds for that these days (but they will absolutely send you back out to the real world and insist that you get more exercise).

Answer 2

In my opinion, feelings like this come and go. I've gone through them off and on myself. But what I did when it happened a few times, I went shopping. I bought pretty things like lace underwear or shoes with a matching bag, or an outfit (something sporty) and then I started looking for an activity or a function that I could go to even if I was by myself and I made sure that I looked good so that all eyes were on me. Trust me girlfriend, it makes a girl forget about not liking herself anymore. You even get to smile when people are all of sudden warming up to you. You're the center of attention. Now I'm not saying to look for attention all the time. I'm just saying......do something for yourself that makes you feel special. I don't know if you have a pet like a puppy or kitten. I have 2 cats and 1 kitten, and every time I go home from work, just looking at them makes me smile. Because they depend on me. Another thing you can do. Also Spring is here, do some fun things with people or family members even if it's just to go to the park and sit while watching the ducks in the lake. Use your imagination that fits your personality. And while you're doing something active, it takes your mind off the negative stuff that eating at you. It's not running away from the problems that are bothering you, it's called taking a damn break and enjoying you!

Answer 3

Long term depression has nothing to do with your spiritual state and everything to do with your brainchemistry, which can be corrected. Medical treatment, along with counseling, can alleviate the depression and help you distinguish between aspects of your life that are disatisfying that you wish to change, and generalized feelings of despair, which are typically physical in their causes and should be treated the same as you would treat an ear infection or a fractured arm. Long term depression does not occur because you are sinful or anything like that. Your body may simply be making the wrong neurotransmitters or not making the right ones in the right amounts. It may even be something more serious and immediate like a tumor or other physial problem that if untreated could be life-threatening. Only medical personnel, not pastoral personnel or Yahoo posters, can make this determination, and it is nothing you caused or can make go away with prayer.

Neither you nor anyone else has to go through this. My wife suffered with near suicidal depression years with her Pentecostal mother insisting it was a spiritual problem and dragging her to phony faith healers, prayer meetings, pastoral counseling, etc. It destroyed our marriage, her career, left her divorced, bankrupt and deep in debt.

She finally saw a psychiatrist. Labs test confirmed a serious neurochemical imbalance, and after a few months of working to find the right dosages, diet and exercise, her violent mood swings and constant depression began to let up. By year end she was a happy, productive person, and while she has many regrets, what she regrets most is listening to the religious quacks who thought their Christian voodoo was the answer to everything from depression to a rainy day, and not seeking medical and psychiatric help as everyone but her Pentecostal family had urged her to do for fifteen years.

Don't make the same mistake. What you feel is not normal, just like a bladder infection is not normal. Depression is unfortunately not as simple as a bladder infection. Depression can be life-threatening if not treated, but it is very treatable. You don't have to feel this way. You don't deserve to feel this way. You can feel better, but you have to resort to real-world, science-based medical treatment, not supernatural mumbo jumbo and bead rattling, if you want to feel better.

Good luck for a speedy recovery and the happy life you truly deserve.

Answer 4

Sounds like you're suffering from depression. Been there, and its a constant struggle. Yes, you need God, we all do, but you also need to see a doctor. So I would advise making a doctor's appointment and hitting a nice church on Sunday morning. Believe it or not, it will help. Personally, I take long walks in the woods with my dogs when I get depressed, it helps so much to see all the amazing things God created, to fixate on things like trees and the magic of them all being different. I can spend hours watching the squirrels and birds and how unique they all are. That helps me tremendously, gives me a new perspective on life, but we're all different, so what works for me might not be what works for you. You need to find something that you love, with me its animals, and spend time really enjoying that one thing you have a passion for. I've always felt like an outsider, and I most likely always will with people, but I don't feel like that with animals. They give unconditional love and they accept you for what you are. Find the thing that you feel strongly about, whatever it is, and spend your time with that, instead of feeling dejected because you feel unaccepted. This is an amazing planet, so much beauty, check it out, you'll feel so much better. But do not forget that doctor's appointment. Most depression is clinical, and can be easily treated simply by taking the correct medication.

Answer 5

You can go to www.doersoftheword.org
Click on "Salvation" & there it explains about it & how you can receive it. It is a free gift from God.
You have nothing to lose and only gain...
God is calling you to reach out to Him.

The pastor has a toll free # you can call and can guide & counsel you if you wish. I don't think you need a doctor. Jesus can heal you from depression.

You can also email me if you wish. I will do my best to help you.

I believe in one God, the father, and one Lord, Jesus Christ, and the gift of the Holy Spirit.

Numbers 6:24-26
24 “The LORD bless you and keep you;

25 The LORD make His face shine upon you,
And be gracious to you;

26 The LORD lift up His countenance upon you,
And give you peace.”’

Answer 6

I see several good answers to this question already, but I'll add my note of care and support.

You're not alone. Many people feel depressed at some point in their life. It's already clear from the answers to your question that many people care about you.

I recommend the following:
- make a list of things you're thankful for and review it daily
- write in a journal daily with emphasis on the positive
- poor your heart out to God frequently
- consider learning about the purpose of life at http://www.mormon.org

Answer 7

Stop being so damned pathetic already. Follow my words very carefully:

The loss of all that keeps you happy isn't a problem, but rather a clean slate.... an oppurtunity to rebuild.
It means you have nothing left to lose.... giving you the chance to do things that might otherwise pose a risk.... but that doesn't matter any more. It gives you an unusually high chance of actually succeeding at something, and the world certainly won't expect that dramatic comeback.

And if nothing else you owe it to yourself.
What has the world ever done for you? Apparently it has given you every reason to feel miserable.... The world WANTS you to fail.... It wants you to lose. Like I said before though... you have nothing to lose, and definitely nothing that you will not lose if the world beats you...

Do you deserve that kind of treatment?
Is the world justified in not just handing you crap on a platter but throwing it in your face?
Don't you want to fight back.... for nothing else other than to spite the world that spites you? And what better way than to continue on regardless? What better way than to actually enjoy the crap life throws at you, denying it the satisfaction of a win.


If you die, nobody will care what you were like. This is your chance to direct all your vindictiveness at the world itself .... to do your utmost to enjoy life despite its desire to screw you over.


And perhaps some day... life might not have turned in your favour at all, but as long as you maintain the determination not to give in.... it will never succeed in crushing you, and you will be triumphant.


As Dylan Thomas wrote:
"Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light."

Answer 8

Speak to a a member of the faith community you trust and develop a personal relationship with God. Get a psychological evaluation to determine if you are clinical depressed and get the help you need. Take some time out to do a hobby you used to enjoy, ride a bike, talk a walk in the park, go to a museum, etc,. Try to distance yourself from people who are negative, cynical, and in a bad mood. Change the way you think...try to see the positive in everyday situations. Good Luck.

Answer 9

spend some alone time talkiing to god and realizing what you have to be thankful for, i bet its a lot more than your realize. If possible go sit on the front porch just before sunrise and watch the morning develope right before your eyes, you'll be happy to be a part of something so beautiful as this life! It will bring a lot of stuff into perspective, make you happy that you were given this day to enjoy and make something of.

Answer 10

Pray and give it all to God. Accept Jesus Christ as your savior and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you. Find a bible believing church and become part of the fellowship.

That said, don't neglect the possibility of your being clinically depressed. While God can heal you of it, He certainly helped me, a good psychiatrist may also be part of the solution. But don't be fooled, we are all born with a God sized whole. If you go the psychiatric route without the spiritual route, you will get better but you'll never be completely whole.