(I heard this from him.) She asked him what my faults were, and he told her that I was impatient and likes to get a lot of attention (which I admit are true). Then his mom asked him if he was sure he'd be able to put up with that for the rest of his life, and he said yeah...
Why would she ask a question like that? And do you think she was dismayed by my faults? I think beforehand she thought I was a perfect, patient,and polite young woman-- but now she knows my faults...
2007-03-29 02:37:50 · 10 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IT IS NO BIG DEAL. I DON'T THINK SHE WILL LOOK AT YOU ANY DIFFERENT. SHE WAS PROBABLY TRYING TO FIND OUT IF YOU ARE THE ONE FOR HER SON. IF HE IS WILLING TO BE WITH YOU KNOW MATTER WHAT YOU FAULTS ARE. DON'T STRESS IT.
2007-03-29 02:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't worry that your boyfriend's mom is asking this question. She is just doing what any good mom would naturally do, looking out for her son's heart. Be thankful that your boyfriend has such a caring mom. It will be ok.
So it sounds like you two are very serious, maybe contemplating marriage someday. We all have faults and they get found out by those we become close to, eventually. Yeah, it is cool to wanna look perfect in the eyes of your boyfriend's mom at first, because her fantasy is to see her "little boy" with the best woman in the world. But now that you two have become so serious, reality has set in and she is just wanting to make sure where you stand and where your boyfriend, her son, stands.
Now that the jig is up (haha) and the world knows you are impatient and like alot of attention, don't be afraid to admit it to your boyfriend's mom, yourself. If she admired you beforehand, she will admire you a hundred times over then. And you don't have to make a big speach trying to explain your faults. Just be playful and casual about it, because we all have faults. Sometimes the easiest, most light-hearted way to do this is to make it into a joke about yourself. Next time you act impatiently around her, just say,"Yeah, I can get to impatient sometimes." and kinda cringe and roll your eyes at yourself so you can just blow it off. That lets her know you acknowledge your imperfection and assures her that you want her to see you for who you are, take it or leave it.
Odds are, your boyfriend's mom will draw MUCH closer to you.
2007-03-29 09:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by luckynjoe4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very few people on earth are perfect. There are roughly 6 billion people on the planet and only hundreds get anywhere near perfection, so I'm sure his mother didn't think you were perfect.
She might ask a question like that if you two are planning to get married or move in together, not sure what your age is, but it could be that. I doubt she was dismayed they are hardly unheard of or awful traits.
2007-03-29 09:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by UnTrace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was just trying to gauge how long term this relationship was going to be. It's a good question to ask, if you can live with a person's faults than marriage isn't out of the question. The fact that he only thought of 2 is good and it shows that he isn't obsessed with your faults. Sounds like you might have a keeper on your hands.
2007-03-29 09:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that this was a perfectly normal question any mother would ask their son if he were planning on making a life with someone. you admit he told her truthful thoughts. he didn't say mom told him to break up with you. all women like attention and are inpatient i am sure she was not shocked. do not get an attitude i am sure his mother is still perfect, polite, and patient. when you have children one day you will question them about the person they love too.
2007-03-29 09:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moms ask questions like this because these are their little boys. She'd find out your faults anyway if she became your mother-in-law. He's the one that matters. Don't worry about her.
2007-03-29 09:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you met his mother yet? If you did, she might have saw something that she didn't like and she's just looking out for his son (probably from previous relationship). As long as she doesn't interfere with your relationship with his son you should be ok. Who cares what she thinks it her sons decision as you mention already he's ok with your faults.
2007-03-29 09:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Rusty Shackleford 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO- She isn't asking for her sake, but for his. I think she is just making him realize that ANYone he falls deeply for will have faults, and that he needs to recognize them early on and decide if they are attributes that he can live with for the rest of his life.
2007-03-29 09:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mothers will always ask, and sounds like your man likes that about you. the mother can either be skeptical about you or just trying to have a conversation with the son. but i reckon he will be able to hold it up. dont you worry....
2007-03-29 09:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by ShobeeDarling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it...everyone had faults and she is just trying to look out for her son....you sound really self-centered
2007-03-29 09:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by mrs. justak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋