What is your opinion about this?

Question

I am a 35 y/o Christian. I am looking at the pro's and con's of staying single for the rest of my life....One pro that I can think of is no man playing games claiming to be the love of your life while he has another woman to the side....any imput is appreciated, and please, smart alecks stay away today, I ain't in the mood.

real cute spun, but I forgot to laugh.
I don't have time to sit in front of a TV watching any of the trash you speak of. I have a job working 70+ hours a week and quite frankly, another reason for me not to need a man in my life...oh but, I think remarks like yours also validate my point as well...another point for being single.

there is someone in my life that I initially thought I could trust, now I am really questioning him...I am not searching out things on him because in truth I trusted him until these little things started to pop up...things that would cause me to really question faithfulness and commitment.

Answer 1

The apostle Paul commended those who are strong enough to stay single...
He said that if you can control your lust, then go for it. Dedicating your life to God and not a man is a good choice. Even though I myself am guilty of being married :-) I think that singleness is a sign of strength and self control. I commend you.

But if you change your mind along the way, then go for getting married. You don't have to stick to being single if you feel differently about it later.

Hope all goes well for you.

Answer 2

I cannot quote the old adage correctly, but it went something like "If you love something, Let it go free, If it returns it's yours, if it doesn't , it never was.
I think it's probably a fault of modern society in general that many people don't know how to have a relationship. I hear often about one partner worried about the others fidelity.
I can only offer my opinion, as I am not a professional, but it seems to me that too many people are getting married for the wrong reason.
Being able to have a great time in the sack is not a good reason to marry someone because what do you do when the sex is over? What do you talk about?
The partners need to LIKE each other. That's something that should be given a lot of thought. If one cannot be a friend then one cannot have a friend.
Common goals and ideology help.
Control, worry, mistrust are all destroyers.
But also, just because marriage is an old custom doesn't mean it's mandatory. Being single is fine, and if you have a fulfilling career, life can be good. You can still have very close friends, and not have the complications caused by intimacy.

Answer 3

My wife and I were older than you when we got married. First and only time for both of us. I do not claim to be a relationship expert, but please do not lump all men together with your statement about "playing games" or "having another woman on the side". We are not all the same. It sounds like you were in a bad relationship, I am sorry. That is not the same thing as saying that all men (fill in the blank). It is difficult to open yourself up in a relationship, because when you do it makes it that much easier to get hurt. It can be terrifying to let yourself be that vulnerable, but it is worth it in my opinion.

I was single for 36 years. I have now been married for almost three years and have a wonderful son. In my opinion, being a husband and a father beats working seventy hours a week.

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Not everyone is meant for marriage. However, Jesus said it is a good for a man to take a wife. The very first story is God's marriage of man and woman. So it is good and a blessing to be married.

All men are not unfaithful. All women are not faithful.

It's what you want out of life. It doesn't affect your spirituality at all. UNLESS, you were to hook up with a non-believer. Then trouble awaits.

I feel that you are asking because maybe you are lonely and really want a mate in your life. a partner to share life with. No one can promise anyone everlasting happiness but you will never know what you can have if you don't at least try.

Good luck!

Answer 5

If you feel that you dont need a man in your life, than that is your choice. But consider these:
A life long friend, a companion, a partner, a soul mate, a teacher, a mentor.

Marriage is such a beautiful blessing in this world. God is a covenant God, and He created marriage as a covenant.
Why not live a part of your life that God has created for us to live?

You say you are a chirtian, ask God to lead your life, to help you find the right person. He will. He will give you that gift.

Love is a beautiful feeling especially when you have God in your relationship. Nothing can ever go wrong if there is God in that relationship, you will only see blessings and more blessings. Blessings of Love and more love.

Why not have your own life to share with your husband, your own little corner, your own children, your own family.

To be able to go to your childs house one day and have a door opended for you.

Dont give up on Love, God is Love. You will meet that person, believe it and ask God to help you, to guide you.

Take the offer that God has given us and live it to the fullest. Love deeply and never lose faith.

Not all guys are players, believe me. The good ones are out there. You dont want to be single and lonely for the rest of your life. You dont.

Thats why God created Eve, becuz Adam needed a friend, a companion, a partner, he was incomplete.

DONT give up. God is beautiful and he loves you. You need to take that chance.God will lead you the way.
Do not be afraid, for God said that he is with you, he will never leave you nor forsake you. He is holding you by your hand.

Trust in him, have Faith in him and Believe in him.

Good luck to you.
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Answer 6

You can truly do whatever you feel is right with your life. But to miss out on marriage, family for fear of being hurt by a man is sad. There are men who can be trusted to truly love you and not cheat on you. But having a man or not having a man in your life does not validate your life, you are still whole and complete being single to live a good life.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with staying single and nothing wrong with getting married.

Some people cannot stand to be alone and some are very content being by themselves and have other interests, or lots of friends.

If you want to have children, and raise them with both parents, then you may want to consider getting married.

There's no need to rush into anything. Your not going to find anyone perfect, but if there are real concerns, sometimes it's best to move on.

I'm single and not really looking and older than you. I'm not going to say that I'll never get married, but I'm happy single and I will not get married just to say I'm married. My sister who is your age is the total opposite of me. She has already been married twice and divorced twice and is ready to get married again???? Maybe one of the reasons I don't rush into anything...

I actually read somewhere that people getting married in their 40's, last longer, fewer divorces. By that age you know who you are and what your looking for. People getting married young, their values and likes often change, which accounts for 50% of marriages ending in divorce.

Answer 8

It is quite possible to form a relationship in which most of your lives are separate but still have that other person there for your needs. Many people do it. It is, of course, up to you.
And if you did do that, the rules must be in place first. That you both want the same things. But it seems from your question that you couldn't accept that anyway so better think about it.

Answer 9

I'm a little (not alot) older than you. I'm single as well. The right person just hasn't come along yet. Your pro is one of mine as well...but if we don't take the chance we never find out. Just try to keep an open mind about it. I think when you aren't worrying or thinking about it, something good will happen. I think we all have the days where it seems easier to just give up, stay single and worry about ourselves. When it happens I just take some time to myself. Do something for you. God has a plan for us, we just don't know what it is yet. It will happen. Take care!

Answer 10

its different for everyone, some people can't live without another person in their lives, others get along fine.

personally despite being very unsociable ( i hide away from the world) the thoguht of going through life alone frightens me to tears, and each day i thank my lucky stars that i've found someone to be with, however i've been fortunate enough to never have had a bad relationship experience, so my view will be biased anyway.