2007-03-29 01:31:55 · 26 answers · asked by wersler 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd say that would be totally your decision. It would be a nice gesture, but if you can't or don't want to, then, well, don't :)
2007-03-29 01:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends, I have been invited to dozens of wedding this year, and I know I won't be able to attend most of them! I am not sending a gift. I just figured if i am not there and I don't respond or any thing, and I know there having a large wedding the chances of them over looking me not getting them a gift is pretty good. So I am not spending the money they will never notice any way.
2007-03-29 03:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just reading etiquette on this subject yesterday, and no, an invitation is not a bill for a gift due. You are unable to attend, and that's unfortunate. You could send a card wishing them well, if you wish to do that, but no, a gift is not required, and if one is expected simply becasue an invite is extended, the person is just greedy.
If it was a close family member or great friend, I would send one anyway, but then again, if the person was that close to me, I'd make every effort to be present at the wedding anyway.
2007-03-29 02:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you. There have been greedy couples who have sent invitations to people they knew could not attend, just to receive an extra gift. No one can say this has never happened! Etiquette states you don't have to give a gift even if you DO attend! But I would, if I attended.
If I was not attending for whatever reason, work, distance, illness, or just plain not feeling like it, I would send a card. But I would feel no obligation to do anything more, nor should you.
2007-03-29 02:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only send a gift if it is close friend or family.
I usually send a smaller gift if I am not attending, just a thoughtful gesture.
2007-03-29 03:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An invitation to the wedding is not a request for a gift. If you are so inclined to demonstrate your affection for the couple as well as help them with setting up their house, yes.
2007-03-29 02:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Carol D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be nice for you to send a gift with a card that said you would have been glad to attend but you were not able to. That shows them that you care. That's if the people getting married are really nice to you.
2007-03-29 04:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by shayshay01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "need" to send a gift - gifts are optional.
But if you know the couple well and are close to them and feel it would be the right thing to do, then you should send a gift. If they are friends of your aunt's cousin's cousin twice removed, then you could probably skip the gift.
2007-03-29 03:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least send a Gift Card in some sort of greating card for them and have a little note in there apologizing that you couldn't make and that you wish them the best.
2007-03-29 23:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by rebelgrl00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never obligated to send a gift, but it is usually the polite way to go. It depends on how close you are to the couple - if they are distant relatives, I wouldn't send a gift. If they are your best friends, then most definitely send something.
2007-03-29 03:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Wedding gifts are not mandatory.
In fact, a gift is not even mandatory even if you DO attend.
All that is required of you is that you decline the invitation promptly so they can plan properly.
2007-03-29 03:50:03 · answer #11 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋