My mother has had one heck of a life. She suffered from eating disorders as a child and depression throughout her whole life. When she was 19 years old, she got pregnant with me, which I'm sure did not make her life any easier. My father was on drugs (he died 3 years ago of an OD) and her boyfriend of 15 years (who she married last April) is an abusive jerk. (No longer physically abusive, but very verbally)..
My mom got her dream when she had more children. I have siblings ages 5, 6 and 7. My mom does a lot for our family + her husband (she runs his landscaping business).
We recently found out that my mother has a tumor, its VERY big. Some tests just came back bad (I'm not sure what kind of tests, shes not too clear with me).
My mother has made many sacrifices for me throughout her life, and she always thinks of others. I have been giving her my time - helping with the kids and the house work a lot.. but I want to do something more.
2007-03-29 01:27:09 · 29 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I want to let my mom know how much she means to me, and how much she means to my siblings (they're young, so they dont really know how to show how thankful they are - It's probably the last thing on their mind - they're just kids)
I am 19 years old, so it needs to be something that a 19 year old CAN do.
Any suggestions are welcome
2007-03-29 01:30:44 · update #1
Just tell her you love her, thats the best gift of all!
2007-03-29 01:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by starburstjellybean 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dedicate a song to her on the radio. Or write to Oprah--she's good at making dreams come true! :) or , plan a small party at a local restaurant and invite only people's lives she's touched --make it a surprise "Thank You for Being You" party honoring her. You can have a photo frame that is signable as an "award" from everyone or have a plaque made for her. Since you are only 19, you could ask if everyone could pitch in some donation money for her celebration.
2007-03-29 02:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by nancydeanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think we can ever repay our Moms for all of the love and sacrifices they have made for us. The best thing you can do now is to continue to be there for her and help with the younger kids, be her sounding board when she needs someone to talk to and just love her. Tell her how lucky you feel to have her for a Mom. Let her cry if she needs to, vent when she needs to and just listen sometimes. Your love and support are a great comfort and blessing to her I'm sure.
2007-03-29 02:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, I would like U to know that u are really a sweet girl, I hope my child will grow up to be like you one day...
What I am going to suggest might not be something you can do now at 19... But it will definitely make her life very meaningful...
When you become a mom yourself, do what she has done for you and your siblings. Let the legacy of her love live on.... She might or might not be able to witness the events unfold, ( God knows when it will happen) but she will know...
Take care dear....
2007-03-29 07:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by curlyfries 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you mother has done a lot for you---maybe write her a letter or poem---or you could even write to the home makerover show with ty and maybe he'd love your story as much as i did and build you all a home and have your story on tv
it sounds like you are helping out a lot around the house which is good
i will pray that the tumor is not fatal and thta your mother will be with you for many years to come
keep being a great kid and making your mother proud
2007-03-29 01:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Bailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could sit down with your siblings and ask them all the things they like about your mother (also answer this question yourself) then compile them into a book of sorts. You could have them draw pictures and/or find family photos that show happy times with your family. You could do it in a scrap book or there are companies that will put such books together relatively inexpensively.
2007-03-29 01:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by mec52468 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww! your pullin my heart strings. well actually you cannot ever pay her back, she gave you life. true mothers enjoy being there for their kids, which is reward enough. just letting her know you love her very much and that you appreciate everything she has done should be enough. i my self haven't been the child every parent dreams about. if my mother was sick i would be so mad at myself for doing stuff, and saying stuff. i hope she gets better. -Chloster
2007-03-29 01:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother must be a great mum because she has produced a wonderful, caring and beautiful child - that's you.
I think you should tell her what you've written here, tell her how much you appreciate her, how much you love her, tell her you want to do something for her, something special but you don't know what.....believe me, she will be happy to hear that
2007-03-29 01:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on the right track. You mom is face to face with death. Real or imagined, doesn't matter. This is a very lonely place no matter who is in the room. Be a good friend by allowing her to express herself without judgment.
2007-03-29 01:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like such a sweet girl and very caring, just tell your Mom how much she means to you and be there for her every step of the way.I hope your Mom gets better.
2007-03-29 01:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with half of what you wrote to us as readers except -say it- minus her marital relationship. Keep it limited to mom/daughter relationship and possibly during something you both enjoy doing...we, as readers, don't know what that would be.
2007-03-29 01:40:05 · answer #11 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋