People staring at my daughter's boobs?

Question

My daughter has d cup breasts with sharp protuding nipples which show though her shirt even with bras.Everyone stares at her when she goes outside and the worst part is she is only 10!!!Big boobs are in her genes because my wife has g cups.I was thinking about breast reduction surgery but my wife got furius with me.She is perfectly slim and that is why even mature men stare at her.Once i knocked out this 9th grader because of his staring.What do i do to stop the stares?

Ok "texas an" 1st of all look up the word brag in the dictionary if you actually can that is and for the assult i so f***in powerful that i can get the 9th grader hanged for sexual harassment. "spelling" you are the pedophile otherwise why would you be in this question?And "ZS mom" physics doesnt need to be studied at high school how about at a university where you are trying to get a phd. And i wasnt tring to get the girl i was asking if she liked me or not.

Answer 1

Yes your wife was right, at 10 she is too young for breast reduction surgery. She is not emotionally ready for surgery nor finished growing physically. However, that is definitely something I would consider for her later in life. As I'm sure your wife knows, having a very large chest is quite difficult. On a slim frame, she will tend to put on more weight to hold herself up--which is not health. Also, the back strain is enormous. I have had several friends go through reduction surgery and all said it was the best decision they ever made.

Your wife really should be handling this. She understands what its like to have men stare. And they'd stare even if they were B cups cause well...thats just what boys do. Your wife has to custom order her bras more than likely. Why doesn't she go ahead and start custom ordering for your daughter? She needs one with good support and a good minimizing bra with wide straps should do that for her. Also the minimizing bras help with the nipples as they tend to be much thicker. Otherwise, yes bandaids work but I'd be worried about her self esteem. This is the time that you have noticed men see her as a sexual object. Start explaining frequently to her that her worth is not based on her looks. She is beautiful b/c she is smart, funny, makes good grades, etc, and when she is ready, she should only date guys that recognize her for the princess she is.

Many women with large chests felt that was their beauty--the fact that men were interested. Once the self-worth is depending on recognition from men, she is far far too likely to end up sexually active as a teen. Possibly leading to disease or pregnancy. Lowering her self-esteem and self-worth. Far too common in young girls today. So be careful she doesn't hear you mention negative things about her big breasts. Make sure she hears you mention all the aspects of her personality that make her wonderful.

Answer 2

Unfortunately you can't stop the stares. People probably don't mean to stare, many probably don't realise they're doing it.

To stop the look of protruding nipples, put bandaids over them. I used to do this when I was pregnant. It works! Also, some bra's have more padding than others, this could help.

I don't think you should be knocking out a 9th grader, he's hormonal, probably didn't realise he was "gaping". Also, I'm sure your daughter doesn't want to draw attention to herself, this is what you would be doing by this behaviour. She's probably as embarrassed as you. It must be hard being so developed at such a young age. You need to just encourage her to love her body for what it is. By hating it, or letting her know that it's not the "norm", this is how eating disorders start.

When she's older, she'll know how to handle the stares herself but until then, just help her to dress appropriately for her age, I think that's all you can do. I have 2 daughters myself and if I was in your position I think I'd feel the same way.

Answer 3

wow, your poor daughter! Try getting her a padded bra, that should help with the nipple thing. Other than that people are going to stare, weather they realize it or not, its just weird to see a 10 year old with such large breasts. Maybe the whole reduction thing should be up to her. If this is causing her emotional stress and physical pain (like in the back area) she should get it. Its your daughter who's really going thru all this not your wife, so talk to your daughter and see if that's what she wants. Otherwise, they will continue until people say she old enough for it.

Answer 4

First off IF your 10 yr old has size D breasts with protruding nipples buy her a quality bra not those cheap thin material bra's from kmart or walmart. Secondly I doubt you knocked out a 9th grader and are here on yahoo to run your mouth about it because you'd either be locked up for assult or what Im guessing arent really an adult since adults dont "brag" about things like that

Answer 5

i also had big breasts as a 10 year old and it was a bit uncomfortable for the most part having people look at them. first off buying a good bra is expensive, im sure your wife will know this but a goo done can make them look much smaller. second you cant blame the young boys for looking, punching them is not the answer! theyre young and learning about there bodies and stuff as well! altho if older men are doing it they should know better! also make sure she has good fitting clothes, and mostly just give her confidence and try to ignore it...the boobs arnt going anywhere so both of you might as well get used to it

Answer 6

Don't you hate when you ask questions and instead of getting an answer, people start putting you down or running their mouths. For those of you that can't answer somones question with out being thoughful and considerate, then don't answer them at all. As for your daughter. Teach her to respect her self and to love her self the way she is. If people are staring that is their problem, not hers, but she needs to know that her breast do not make her "HER", and that the size of them shouldn't matter. She is young so when she becomes an adult then "SHE" can decide if she wants a reduction. But it is her choice and by making her get a reduction now,(which at 10 I am not sure she could) she is not learning to be content and happy with her self. It is basically like telling her there is something wrong with her. People stare at others all the time, for different reasons, they are just rude people, and she should know that what other people do, think, or say is not a reflexion on her.

Answer 7

i too developed at an early age and received much unwanted attention. the best thing you can do is to get her a very good supportive bra (playtex 18 hr. are good) and know that you cant control what other people do. you can not stop the staring, and if you continue to make it an issue, your daughter may become very self conscious. i understand where you are coming from, but the only person you can control is yourself. be the parent and do not feed into the childish behavior.

Answer 8

Yikes! and she's only 10. Have you spoken with your daughter, in a fatherly way? Perhaps loose clothing would help but it is only a temporary fix. I'm with you on the breast reduction, however, she will not be fully grown for several more years. whatever path you take, best of luck and I shall be certain to tell my daughter who is a b cup to be grateful.

Answer 9

Are you serious?

A few things, IF you are. She needs to get properly sized bras. Go to Nordstroms or JCPenney and not Victoria Secret (they size totally wrong). There are things that you can get to stop having them protrude, Lilypadz really help.

She really needs to wait till she is 18. If you don't wait till she is done growing you will most likely need another reduction procedure for her.

Answer 10

Who the hell are you? I don't believe for one minute that you even have a 10yr old child let alone a wife after all if you did why are you asking other questions such as what the difference between cute guys and sexy guys are.

Get a life.