Met a guy 2-3 years ago we were seein each other for 8 months, we gelled right from the start, but he wasn't 100% in the frame of mind 4 any commitments, typical commitment phobic & a person who loves freedom. He messed me about in the process with broken promises, 1 minute saying that I am going be future woman etc but it didn't seem to happen. Durin the time we were so close he was even calling me 24/7 from the UK to the US sayin we are goin to b together when i return & that we were going to plan a holiday home as we both hav family in Florida US! Then he would change his mind again about a commitment. Obviously this hurt as I kept thinking that there was hope! I wasn't happy as he was being very self-centred durin the time we were seein each other as he wasnt in the frame of mind. He decided that would should be friends 4 now as it wasn't fair to me. So I gave him 1 last chance to ask him if he was 100% sure Im goin to start seein some1 else & that there was no going back.
2007-03-28 21:28:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now 2 years later I am doing well, so is he. I have just brought a new house aswell and am happy, I find out that he has been trying to contact me for ages, so I decided to meet up for a friendly drink and now 3 years later him 31 and me 26 he has said that he wants to start something serious and settle down! Do I decline even though I gave him an untimatum and said that there was no going back 2-3 years ago?
Thing is when I was seeing him back then, he was very sneaky and use to tell lies. Like about a girl that could be ringing his phone and he would say that it was a work colleague when I hadn't even asked him about it. and then later find out that it is some girl that loves him off and never worked with him! he is a flirt, he use to say that all the girls take thier ticket and wait in line for him he is a gemini typical flirt. So in some ways I feel why the hell should I take him back now on a serious level now he is ready?
2007-03-28 21:31:47 · update #1
The thing that gets me the most as that when he decided to let me go b4 when he didn't want anything he knew that I could be sleeping with someone else etc so he couldn't have really loved me as he would have held on. But now he is really trying to have something serious with me after 3 years!
2007-03-28 21:33:47 · update #2
Dont do it, he will just lie to you and not be fully commited to you. You are doing well now with your new house and are totally over him, so don't let him make you feel bad again. This time tell him off and let him know that he had his chance and blew it!
2007-03-28 21:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I'm just gonna break it down to you girl, leave it alone, he's got some trust issues and if he can't make up his mind don't wait on him to do so, there are more fish in the sea "Don't put your hook out there hoping for a fish to bite", he has to deal with some things let him do that,"alone", don't stop living for him, he either wants you or he don't, don't chase him, you'll be running forever.
2007-03-29 04:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Perkalicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. My mom always said that 30 yrs. old was the magical age. She said that if someone was going to straighten out their lives and get serious that it usually happened around age thirty. I know that was the way it was with me. At age thirty I finally decided to get my head out of my @#$ go to college and make something of myself. Might not hurt to give him a chance and see where it goes. If he starts pulling the same old stuff, you can always tell him where to go.
2007-03-29 04:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mich Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this jerk draw you back into his web. You are happy now. He will have you miserable again in no time. Liars are just that--liars. He made his decision years ago.
When you walk backwards, you generally bump into something. Don't get hurt--move forward.
2007-03-29 04:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would he commit -your free and you cuss to and dont believe in Hell
i was just like you-and him too-but I repented as Jesus said to do and got born again-now Jesus is my best friend and I have integrity and dont cuss anymore -especially about hell punishnment forever for rejecting the greatest love Jesus speaks about knocking on our hearts door and about hell and heaven Revelation 3:19&20 and chapters 19-22
prayin for you either way you decide
2007-03-29 04:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becasue judging from your rambling and over long question he is the only one who will have you
2007-03-29 04:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by JoyDivision 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋