i like this guy, (i'm a girl- just in case) he's a hardcore christian girlfriends have to be christian, no alcohol and has a really scary christian mother. then theres me who doesnt have a religion, drink all the time, i dont care if my boyfriend does believe in religion and really really scared of his mother. so i guess what im asking is ... that is there really any chance?
ps if you're christian id really like your opinion...
2007-03-28 21:17:31 · 9 answers · asked by partigurlpartigurlz 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ok, you're about to get a lot of really nasty answers from both sides of the argument, but hopefully I can help you out with a legitimate answer from a Christian perspective.
First of all, I've got to say that when I was in high school, I dated some non Christian girls, and in retrospect, I have to say that it was a mistake on my part. Not because these weren't very nice awesome girls, but because I attempted to share a part of my life with someone whose core purpose was unequal to my own. Ultimately it was a selfish act on my part. But that's just my personal journey.
Now, down to business...
Scripture says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Cor. 6:14). The idea behind being "yoked" is this idea of two oxen pulling a plow across a field. If the oxen are pulling in different directions, the work will not get done, and the oxen will become tired and useless. The idea is the same in this dating relationship. If you engage in a relationship with this boy, he will likely spend most of his time trying to get you to see things his way, and you will likely do the same. Ultimately you will pull away from each other, and you will both be tired and hurt.
Now, you could of course become a Christian, but to do that merely for the sake of a guy is not the right reason to follow Christ. Seek it out prayerfully on your own.
I would encourage you to understand that this relationship was not meant to be. At least not right now. It sounds like you two are in very different places in your lives. I speak from experience in relationships, and experience in the Christian world.
I hope that was a little bit of a help, even though it might not be what you wanted to hear. :-)
2007-03-28 21:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by apologetickid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, if you have a different belief than someone else, you're probably better off not getting together. Most couples don't consider this issue, until later on when they're married and have children. Then comes arguing and disagreement as to how the children are going to be raised. What's more, if he truly is a Christian, he knows that the bible discourages that type of a relationship with a non-believer. Can you be friends and hang out together? Certainly. But getting together right now is probably not a good idea.
2007-03-28 21:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a Xtian, though I've been in a similar situation.
A guy I was with for about 9 months (this was quite a few yars ago) was hardcore Christian, especially since he was just recovering from chemo. His parents were core & all...
Anyway, the answer lies in whether or not he's willing to bend his ideals for you, like my ex was. If so, you'll probably just have to put on a mask (so to speak) around his mother, & humor him a lot (in other words, be respectful & open minded, while still being yourself & standing by whatever it is you believe in) ;)
2007-03-28 21:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ska Hippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem that you have very different views of what's important in life. He believes in God and following God's teachings. You do not. This is a very important area in life and relationships. It's not something that can be ignored and trying to change to make a relationship work is not a good idea. If your interested in why he believes what he does for your own sake fine otherwise you need to just be friends.
2007-03-28 21:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by kaehya2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A working relationship between two people needs compromise. It cannot work if one partner has to give up his or her lifestyle completely and the other partner does not move one bit. If you think you can move in his direction and he in yours, you have a chance. Otherwise, not.
2007-03-28 21:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by NaturalBornKieler 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if he's into women that get drunk.
I think that it's wither one of two things;
1) He just wants to get laid,
2) He wants to convert you and you think that it's a come on.
2007-03-28 21:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should either find someone else... the only alternative is finding out if this guy can tolerate or love UNCONDITIONALLY a girl who is herself and doesn't change just to be in a relationship.
2007-03-28 21:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Invisible_Flags 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always a chance I sugest you attended church and cut back on the drinking. get to know his mum she may not be so scary after all.
2007-03-28 21:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mim 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Roman Catholic here.
He's not worth it, hun.
Let it go!
ST
2007-03-28 21:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by In Memory of Simon Templar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋