I met a guy in person on the 24th of february and things went great with us. Then on March 11 he basically asked me to be his girlfriend. He lives over an hour away from me and he works everyday. We talk online every night when we are both on and I have to use the computer for a certain reason. I like this guy a lot and he likes me too, he told me that he hoped I would not screw him over and I said I hope he doesnt to me either. I know I won't because I am not like that. The thing is I am kind of shy around him and he knows I like him a lot. I was just wondering what kind of things I could do to let him know how much I like him and let him know I will not hurt him. He told me he does trust me and I trust him too. When we first met we held hands and cuddled but we have not kissed yet cuz I am scared to make the first move. So can someone tell me what I could do to let him know how much I like him and let him know I wont hurt him?
I know I am not in love just have strong feelings 4 him
2007-03-28 20:59:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like a sweet girl! Just be yourself and apply these four rules to your relationship.
Affection- Be sure to display affection whether it be holding hands, smiling or caressing, whatever you are comfortable with.
Acceptance- Let him know you accept him how he is and your desire is not to change him into the person you want.
Appreciation-Always be willing to say thank you and don't take things for granted.
Attention-Be responsive when you two communicate and pay attention to the little things too.
The most important thing is to always be honest.
Good Luck!
2007-03-28 21:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rustb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Bashful. I'm Samantha. I run a group called "Get over your partner, or get under them." Which of course is a medaphor. I'm here to give advice on any relationship problems someone may be having. My advice to you, is to listen to your heart. First of all, an easy way to let him know how you feel, is to tell him. I know it's embarassing, and that your whole problem is that your bashful, but you need to find out whats important in life, and take control of it. If what you said is true, ans you have very strong feelings for this guy, you have to make sure he knows how you feel. Guys are on a totally different page than women unless we tell them exactly whats going on. Which is fine, but at times hard. So call him up/ meet him somewhere, and tell him straight out that you like him alot, and you will not hurt him. Then give him a nice BIG kiss. That will seddle your kissing problem also. Guys like it if your confident. I know you might be scared to do such a thing, but in the end it will be worth it, and your relationship with him will be at a new level. If you have anymore questions, dont hesitate to contact me through my group, the URL is: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/getoverorgetunder/
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2007-03-29 05:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Words will not reassure him. Obviously he has been hurt. Just kiss him lightly on the lips at a very happy moment. If he wants more, he will move in for the passionate one. Buy him a card expressing how happy you are with him. Cook him his favorite food or dessert. Eventually he will get the message. Take it slow, there is no rush.
2007-03-29 04:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what you're doing. You can hint that you want to kiss him by looking into his eyes. It's okay - I couldn't kiss my ex, even after three weeks. Sometimes it takes a month to a few months. But as long as you're continually letting him know how much you care, even just by saying so, he should respect you if you say you're not ready or you want to wait. I'm shy about kissing too, and btw, your situation sounds quite similar to mine, except the guy is already your boyfriend. Keep it up & best wishes to the both of you. =)
2007-03-29 04:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, when you're holding his hand, you could bring his hand to your mouth and kiss him that way. That's always a nice start. When he's talking to you, look him straight in the eyes and smile. Good luck!
2007-03-29 04:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by ~Crystal~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be scared guys like that just go tell him how you feel! so many people hide there feelings you will never know unless you act!
2007-03-29 04:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by Archangel Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure he knows all this already, just reinforce your feelings by ur actions, he's a guy, he'll make a move, don't u worry!
2007-03-29 04:04:42 · answer #7 · answered by lippie_07 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋