my boyfriend and i have just split up because he is leaving for the army soon and that fact has caused major stress on our relationship. he is pulling away and trying to suppress his feelings for me because hes afraid that our relationship might not work out while he's gone. i have faith in it however, and am trying to get him to realize how good a relationship can be for a soldier. there is absolutely no risk of cheating on either part, so what i need is for someone to tell me how to show him that he shouldnt be scared of being with me just because of distance, and why breaking up is only going to cause regret. any suggestions?
2007-03-28 19:11:05 · 7 answers · asked by PBJgeorge 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
ahhhh, I am in almost the exact situation! You see, I am 1200 miles away from a guy in a military academy and we both have strong feelings for each other. We aren't giving up. A relationship can be very good for a soldier, in fact it may help him live through fear of not wanting to hurt you. But you know, he is trying to detach himself from fear of dying and leaving you with less.
Tell him that there is nothing to lose if you are together and If you end up breaking up and he comes back, then you will never know what it could have been like. Just be sure that you are ready for suffering a loss.
You see, even if he doesn't physically die, a little of his old self will die inside himself. The life of a soldier is a complicated thing. The hardship that he faces becomes more real to him when he is away from it (back at home) since he has time to think about it.
When he is in battle, everything becomes instinct: survival
Best of Luck
Just remember that everything happens for a reason, If you two don't get back together, then you were each meant to go down a different path.
2007-03-28 19:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by elemenopee. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay let me just say that if he says this to you, and you are trying to get him to stay with you, then maybe ya'll really shouldn't be together. It would piss me off for someone to do that to me, so i would let them go. The person that says they love you shouldn't have to be CONVINCED that they love you at times like this, but they should realize themselves that they will not be gone away forever, and if they truly love you, waiting should not be hesitant. So walk away if it's just too much trouble.
2007-03-28 19:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by Audrey V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him why hurt yourself now from the thing that 'probably' hurt tomorrow? live life to the fullest... if you were meant to be together he being faraway wont make a difference. but if you were not meant to be together lets do something about it in the future...where there is basis for the breakup apart from distance.
2007-03-28 19:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him discover it on his own. Don't do anything. Maybe some things will occur to him while you're apart.
2007-03-28 19:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving him whatever he wants until he listens to you.
2007-03-28 19:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about your feelings and reasoning.If he won't listen then he might have to discover it on his own.
2007-03-29 15:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by support our troops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.
2007-03-28 19:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by kitty fresh & hissin' crew 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋