Can I still have children after 5 abortions?

Question

I was 16 when I had my first abortion. My mother was never going to talk to me again if I didnt. I felt I had no choice. My choices after this time were completely my fault and my selfishness. I regret the last two and the very first one. I should have told my mom to go to hell. I have gone to counseling for these problems and I now really really want children. I always have. I have made serious mistakes in my life and I understand that GOD may not allow me any more chances. Please dont make me feel any worse than I already do feel and have felt for the last couple of years. I just want to know professionally if I have a chance in having kids. Thank you ahead of time for your advice.

P.S.
I am now 23.

I am adding to my situation for the ppl that are soooo rude. You may have a different way of doing things in your life....BUT you have no idea what my life was or is like. I have 5 nieces and 5 nephews by 3 older sisters. I have learned from them a lot about being a mother. I know I made mistakes and the truth is....it was all for a MAN. That is why I had counseling, I had issues with self worth. I am grown up now and am about to graduate college, I have a wonderful fiance, and we want a family. I know that I WILL BE A GREAT MOTHER....because not a day will go by that I wont think about the children that I could have here with me now. I pray every night for forgiveness...SO PLEASE....dont judge me.

Answer 1

I think everyone is different and it's all depend on your body and how you been taking care of your body after all that abortions.

I totally understand your feeling and everyone have our own reason, story and history behind it.. and I'm sure we never feel happy what we have done.. but no choice.

I personally had taught youth life, and I had several abortions too and still feel guilty about it but I don't regret. But I don't deny that my guilt and nightmare kept on struct me for many years for all the abortions I had and I fear that I may not able to be pregnant again later...

Now i'm 29, married and finally feel so happy, relief and blessed that I am pgregnant! I am 24th week pregnant now and very lucky, thanksful that my baby is growing healthy. I just cross my fingers, hope that she'll born healthy and normal like how she should be. I am going to love her with all my heart, bring full of happiness, and joy to her life, for the life that I couldnt' able to give in the past.

Good luck to you hon, and make sure u do take a good care of yourself!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I am so torn answering this question. A part of me, the part that thinks about those 5 babies wants to say something rude to you...to punish you with my words. The other part of me feels so badly for you. I can't imagine feeling like an abortion was my only alternative, and to think that you've been through that 5 times. It breaks my heart...not just because of your children that aren't here, but for you! Repeated abortions are a form of self-punishment. I suspect a lot has happened to you in your life...perhaps sexual abuse, drugs/alcohol abuse? I suspect that you had(have) a very low self-esteem contributing to your having numerous sexual partners. Not only have you been permiscuous, but you have taken your own life for granted. You've put yourself in danger of contracting various STDs and HIV. One with a high self esteem does not behave this way. Please understand that I am not being judgmental when I say these things.

My suggestion is that you really work on yourself, before you decide if you want and can handle being a mother. You really should be in some kind of on going therapy...to deal with the guilt of having multiple abortions and the reasons that lead you down such a self-destructive path. You can't be a good mother until you deal your past.

As for whether or not you can physically get and maintain a pregnancy...that depends. The research on this is conflicting. Mainly because few studies focus on fertility in women who have had multiple abortions(more than 2). Although there are a growing number of women in the U.S. who have had more than 2 abortions. In fact, in 2000, the Centers for Disease Control reported that 18 percent of abortions were performed on women seeking at least their third pregnancy termination. You are young and I think that is in your favor. You have plenty of time to think about children. Take your time. Heal yourself first. God bless you!

Answer 4

One i can tolorate, two i can sort of understand but five just makes me plain angry, the disrespect for those children you have shown by going on & doing it again over & over. Most people learn from the 1st abortion. If it was such a horrible experience why not use BIRTH CONTROL after the first one. I do not believe 'it was all for a man' a man shouldn't mean more to you than your children ever. Also it is not just the man job to think about protecting yourself. I am sure you will be able to get pregnant again just do not dare to 'change your mind again'

Answer 5

Only your gynecologist can really answer your question. God doesn't have anything to do with it at this point (I don't mean any disrespect. I believe in a gloriously kind God.)

Abortions, when done right, will not make it impossible for you to get pregnant. Otherwise you would've had only that first abortion or maybe the 2nd one. Five? I think chances are pretty good you will be able to have children.

A word of warning though. Make sure you want the next one. Every abortion lessens the chances of having a full-term pregnancy in the future. I don't know the statistics but the incidence of miscarriage and infertility do rise significantly w/ each abortion.

Answer 6

If you didn't have any complications, you should be perfectly able to become pregnant and carry the pregnancy to term. Abortion in an industrialized country is actually the safest medical procedure that you can undergo. In fact, more women are rendered infertile from carrying a pregnancy to term and giving birth than from an abortion.

If you are worried, you should see your doctor for a check up and physical. They can tell you better than we can your chances of conceiving and carrying. Since you're still relatively young, you should have no trouble getting and staying pregnant.

If it takes you a while to conceive, please don't get discouraged. It can take most women up to a full year to become pregnant when they want to be. This can be frustrating for Women who really want to start their families. The standard advice is for you to try on your own for a year before you consult a fertility specialist. I'm sure that once you start trying, you'll be able to conceive in a reasonable amount of time.

Best of luck!
Peace,
Jenn

Answer 7

hun

the only way you can know if the abortions have done any harm it to go and see your Dr and get a check up to make sure every ting it OK

but i am sure you will still be able to have children with out any problems at all

and i am sure you will make a great mother some day good
luck to you


I can not apologize enough for all the people on here that sit so high on there moral high horse that they did not read what you had to say but only responded to the fact that you had abortions and did in not way help you with your problem or answer your question what your life was is not what is has to be i know you will heal and move on from your past and have a loving healthy family

Answer 8

i do not agree with abortion, however i do agree with being able to make your own choices and live by them. i dont have the right to judge you, no one does. but i just dont understand why it got so far as to get to 5 abortions. the first, ok, but why after that if you knew you didnt want kids and you knew your life wasnt perfect why did you continue having unprotected sex? you are by no means a child and you know about contraception so why?

to be honest it sounds slim that you will be able to carry a child, youve already had 5 chances. thats 5 more chances than some people get. i had a miscarriage and i just cant believe that you actively chose to do that 5 times. and who knows, what if you fall pregnant again unexpectedly and decide to go for number 6?

i do have sympathy for people who have 1 abortion for whatever reason and worry about their fertility. but your situation is based on ignorance, selfishness and sheer stupidity. how can you teach children about contraception, responsibility and maturity when you know nothing about it yourself. you are the same age as me and i have been using contraception from the age of 15 till i was 20 so dont tell me you werent aware or the information wasnt available cause its a cop out.

sorry but no sympathy.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

The chances of acutally conciving after so many abortions is slimmer. The abortions actually leave scar tissue in which your embrio cannot attach and grow.. You may be able to concive, but the chance of having the baby full term are slim.. The baby may be born premature, depending on how early is a diffrent story. If too early the baby may have major health problems. But nature has a way of things, and you could have a beautiful healthy baby with no problems. Just when you do get prego, keep up with your doctor appointments and keep up with the tests.. Good luck and god bless..