My bf proposed me last week and he gave me this beautiful little saphire stone( my birth stone) with no ring because he said i can always make any ring i want soon with diamond or saphire or whatever. And his mom offered me to wear her ring temporary til i get the real ring. What should i do? Is it okay to wear it? or should i wear it for being polite?
2007-03-28 18:50:06 · 11 answers · asked by Nadia Miller 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That's not her wedding ring, her bf proposed her but she didn't want to marry him but they are still together. I don't know if that ring means a lot to her or she just keeps it to being polite too. I don't know!
2007-03-29 07:54:37 · update #1
Jeez i just know that the other one is from her grandfather.
2007-03-29 10:19:43 · update #2
Ignore Sofie, a ring means nothing!
" If your bf has not presented you with a "genuine ring" with a real diamond in it (or a stone of your choice) that he paid for the entire ring with one month's worth of his salary, then I would suggest that you do "not" consider yourself engaged until he has done this for you" That is a very shallow comment.
You are engaged when you are proposed to. Period. CONGRATS!
2007-03-29 09:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your bf has not presented you with a "genuine ring" with a real diamond in it (or a stone of your choice) that he paid for the entire ring with one month's worth of his salary, then I would suggest that you do "not" consider yourself engaged until he has done this for you. Once he presents you with a ring (as described above) then you can advertise to your family and in the newspaper that you are engaged and can start the wedding plans. Unless your bf spoke to you about marriage plans and babies and such, do "not" consider yourself engaged. He sounds like he's skirting the issue. Sounds to me like he's not sure he wants to get married or not, however if he can't afford a ring for you then how on earth is he going to afford to pay for you in marriage. If you think this stone means a ring for a future and fall for his shortcoming then a baby will next be on the way and he will be giving you an excuse about a wedding ring or maybe even an excuse for a marriage not happening. If his mom offered to you her ring, then tell her kindly "no thank you" and then just wait for your own ring to arrive. It sounds to me like the mother is embarrassed that her son can't afford a ring so is trying to ease over the situation and his faux pas.
2007-03-28 19:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's a wonderful gesture from her that means she is ready to accept you as a part of the family. Be gracious and wear that ring until you are able to have your own made. If you don't want to wear it try to be quick about getting your own ring so you don't have hers for long.
2007-03-29 04:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wear it, even if its just to be nice. No reason to start out the engagement by offending mommy-in-law! Start it off good, wear the ring, and when you get your ring, you can always give it back to her. It will make her feel good that you think it is special enough to wear and it might help her with the thought of losing her little boy as she is helping with things.
2007-03-28 19:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wear the ring from his mother, that way he can still buy a bass boat and go fishing. Don't worry he will pick up fishing like a pro when he finds out what married life is like.
WoW sophieb, I bet you are still single and waiting on your welfare check.
2007-03-28 19:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wear it. Your soon to be mother-in-law is being very thoughtful and you would not want to offend her by not wearing the ring. She might think you don't like it if you do. Plus, this way you get to have ring to show everyone!!
2007-03-28 18:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by munkeefud 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know the exact situation, but it sounds like she is making this offer as a mother to a daughter. Many mothers pass jewelry down to their daughters. It may be her way of telling you that you are like a daughter to her.
Since I don't know the WHOLE story, it's impossible to say, but this may be the best explanation.
The question should be is how important is the relationship between you and her? Do you want her to love you? Is so, listen to her.
2007-03-29 03:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wear it with pride, you have a great mother in law if she's willing to lend you her ring. Remember to write her a note thanking her.
2007-03-28 19:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Laelia 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure, go ahead and wear her ring until you get your own.
2007-03-28 22:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt wear his mother's wedding ring only because that ring symbolises HER wedding, I think you should have your own so you can symbolise YOUR wedding.
2007-03-28 21:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty_Kat119 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋