The girl i'm obsessed with has a boyfriend but we see each other and have sex. I asked her one day when we got into a fight why do you still come and see me if you love him. She said she loves him more than she loves me but i make her feel beautiful and wanted. So i asked her why dont you leave him and come with me and once again i got i love him to much to leave him. Since then i'm refusing to see her while she is still with him . I know i dont love her i'm just obsessed with her but i'm missing her so badly it hurts. and its effecting me to the point where i'm depressed and all i think of is her. Shes everything i want in a girl except the cheating part and lately i feel like i will never meet anyone else.
2007-03-28 18:45:50 · 5 answers · asked by Rodney, j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, I know you might not believe this, but my personal belief is: once a cheater, always a cheater.
If she did it once, and then never did it again, that might not be so bad. But apparently she's cheated on her boyfriend with you several times, which raises the question: even if she left him and got with you, how do you know she wouldn't just go behind your back and cheat right back on you? The answer is that you don't, and so your solution is to just leave her and get over her. You said yourself you're not in love with this girl, so you'll get over it sooner than you think. A cheater is not the kind of person you want to be with.
It's going to be hard to do, but, you know what they say.
The right thing to do is always the hardest thing to do.
2007-03-28 18:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by Remi Hime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a good astrologer to help you. Or study astrology yourself and you'll see the love between you and know why your obsessed. Then you can tell when you will meet another soulmate. Go with the next soulmate to come into your life. I don't ever want a girl like this one you have your mind on.
2007-03-29 14:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ted (Canton,OH) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you are up in the mountains at night, look up into
the sky... you will see Lot's of stars just so beautiful to look at.
My friend , there are just as many beautiful women out there in the world, and the best part of it all is their hearts are free just longing for someone to share their lives ( with one good man). always remember this; if someone can cheat on their mate, theres a great possibility that they will cheat on you. Trust me, you don't need that. Ask God to help you do the right thing. stand tall and pick your head up ......and remember the stars
2007-03-29 02:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by ZO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes one can confuse obsession for love, im having such a problem, but clearly u have nailed it down as obsession.
(how can u tell the difference hey??, id love to know)
Well as far as i know obsession has no cure, indulging in it just increases it, &staying away makes u miss it.....
do u think thats how drug addicts feel like??-just an odd thought.
Best is to stay away, occupy ur time, keep busy, meet other people, &allow time to pull u away from such fruitless indeviours......good luck...(",)
2007-03-29 02:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation. I recommend no contact whatsoever, it takes time but eventually you'll get there.
2007-03-30 12:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by tenno1234 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋