Muslim women. it's year 2007! - Back to the year of the prophets right to our grandmother's time.....?

Question

Most women listen to their husbands right to every dust in the corner.

What if now.., you, being a modern muslim woman, would you follow the tradition of the ancestors or will you exercise your right as a rightfully, muslim woman should have?
(Many muslim women chose to waived that right)

Would you get that right in the expense of your children and family?

And Muslim men, would you give them that right or would you rather stick to the old grandmother style?

And Muslim men, would you give them that right or would you rather stick to the old grandmother style?

Answer 1

This is a rule that assumes the husband knows best. If my husband really does know best, sure I'd listen to him. The role of the Muslim man is a huge one. He has a big responsibility as the leader of the house - as the protector, educator, and provider. If my husband is great at all those things of course I would listen to him, but no one is perfect yeah? So I guess it depends on the situation.

Answer 2

A marriage is a partnership between two people,respect is the number one key to success in a marriage.as a Muslim woman,I respect my husband and he respects me back.I'll listen to him as long I'm not disobeying God.And as long as he's looking for my best interest.
As of the second part of the question,I'd take the good things from tradition combined with all my rights.

Would i get that right in the expense of family and children?If a woman fights for her rights that God and society gave her, especially if she's oppressed by her husband ,she gains the respect of her children ,and she would be a great example for other female relatives.It's not an easy task, but is better if she's oppressed and miserable,i don't think so.

Answer 3

Ironically the women that enjoyed being alive at the time of the prophet are the greatest beneficiaries to the rights that God gave women. Even though he had a hell of a time convincing men(even his closest friends/sahaba) the fact that he was right there fighting for them was a great service for them in obtaining those rights. The moment our prophet died(God bless him) is the moment women's rights started declining.....and we;ve been made to suffer ever since. In my opinion, even though women are in most cases the victims of male pride and dominance when it comes to Islam and culture etc...they are only victims if they want to be. Muslim women need to decide that they wont be victims to male pride and cultural baggage even if it causes them grief. The grief they experience now will result in our future daughters enjoying the rights God gave us without having to fight for them or be punished for wanting them in the first place.

Answer 4

i think culture plays a big role here.

i consider myself as a modern muslim woman
and most of us here (cos we live in a modern big city), exercise our rights as a rightfully, muslim woman should have...

that's the way i was brought up, seeing my mother, and my grandmother aswell.

i respect my husband the way that he should be respected, and the same treatment goes for myself...

salam...

Answer 5

i would listen to my husband when he's right. when he's not, or he's not doing what a muslim man should do i would talk to him about that. in turns, i would want him to helpful when it comes to domestic matters. other than that, its my responsibility to take excellent care of him and the children.

Answer 6

Praise be to Allah.

I think you asked about men too.

Personally, in my future family, it makes no difference to me whether it follows the Old or Modern Lifestyle. I only care about one thing which is to make these verses my family's entire lifestyle, as Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“But no, by your Lord, they can have no Faith, until they make you (O Muhammad) judge in all disputes between them, and find in themselves no resistance against your decisions, and accept (them) with full submission

[al-Nisaa’ 4:65]

“Do they then seek the judgement of (the days of) Ignorance? And who is better in judgement than Allaah for a people who have firm Faith.”

[al-Maa’idah 5:50]

“O you who believe! Obey Allaah and obey the Messenger (Muhammad), and those of you (Muslims) who are in authority. (And) if you differ in anything amongst yourselves, refer it to Allaah and His Messenger, if you believe in Allaah and in the Last Day. That is better and more suitable for final determination”

[al-Nisaa’ 4:59]

“And in whatsoever you differ, the decision thereof is with Allaah (He is the ruling Judge)”

[al-Shooraa 42:10]

That's it, As long as I have rights and duties towards my future wife, she also has rights and duties towards me. And each one of us shouldn't ask about his(her) rights before starting to do one's duties.

Answer 7

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Job 5:21, 22 “From the whip of the tongue you will be hidden, And you will not be afraid of despoiling when it comes. At despoiling and hunger you will laugh, And of the wild beast of the earth you will not be afraid.
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