Deep down, guys, do you want to be the provider for your woman, I mean when you...?

Question

...are courting her, for instance, and you go out to dinner for say the 10th date, do you care if she pays or do you insist on paying? Are you the kind of guy that wants to lead financially (dating or married) or does it matter to you?

Answer 1

I'm Filipino and living in the Philippines. It is pretty much a part of our culture (at least that's what i grew up believing) that a man should provide for his family financially.

Culture aside, I personally believe in that. No point in me getting married and wanting to have a family if I can't provide for their needs, if I can't raise them as comfortably and as protected as possible.

Marriage is a two way street though. I equally believe that my wife should (and she definitely does) help me out trying to establish and raise our family and household financially. But the thing is, when all else seems lost, i believe it should be me, the man of the house, who must remain firm and strong for the sake of my wife and son.

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Answer 2

I'm down to pay for her dinners, always, especially at that point. I'd hope that, if we were living together or married she would work and help provide household income... Once I'm rich though, she can quit and just be a trophy wife but she's gotta spend her time socializing to better our reputation, take good care of the kids and work out and keep in shape. So I guess I'm pretty traditional when it comes to that.

Answer 3

I'm a traditional kind of guy. I will open doors and pay at restaurants...No matter what date it is. It's not the feeling of being the leader but being a provider. It's in every male(instincts). Some males have more "instincts" than others but we all have it.

Of course, if the woman is the kind that hates this kind of behaviour, than you find a solution. It's not like I have to pay. I just prefer to pay on a date.

Answer 4

While I don't care if she pays or not, I was raised that I should pay or whoever asked the other one out should pay. It doesn't have anything to do with being a "provider", it is just good manners. If you invite someone, it is your obligation to pay. If you want to go "Dutch Treat" make it clear up front. That is perfectly OK, especially if your are going out as friends or neither of you has much money.

Answer 5

One rule I imposed on my ex-girlfriend is that she will never have to pay anything when she is with me. I believe that a Man should be the provider. Even if its only a date. I guess I am brought up that way. It is not about dominance or anything. I just think it is not polite to have a girl pay for a date or anything. I believe that a Guy should take care of their woman.


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Answer 6

It all depends if they have a lot of $ at this point in their lives. If you know he's going to school, and has a low paying job, offer to pay. If he accepts he'll really respect you for that. But if insists on paying, let him. If you're on your 12th date you should know him well enough to talk about money.

Answer 7

I'm a girl, an I expect the guy to pay for everything on a date!!

Answer 8

For me, yes. However, if she likes to help that's fine with me.

Generally, I feel that it's my responsibility to provide.

I think men really has to provide financially for dating and married life.

Answer 9

I normally want to pay, but it is perfectly ok for her to offer and if she does, let her as it will make her feel good, just as it does you, when you pay. After all if you were to marry her it will always be both of your money, know matter who pays.

Answer 10

If I'm taking a girl out I pay. I would rather pay as it would not be as special for the girl to be taken out and then have to pay.

Yeah I would rather be the provider.