I am really upset about this! I am 21 years old, and never had a boyfriend. I think I'm nice and pretty. What is wrong with me? Should I try pursuing guys?
2007-03-28 18:15:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a women like flirted with me or pursued me "are you stalking me......cause that would be awsome!" i would probably ask her to marrry me right there lol.
2007-03-28 18:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Michael W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I were about 21-25 years old, unattached and in contact with you. I'd be very receptive to a young woman like you.
I'm 65 years old, married twice and have a son who is also 21 and not dating (and I'm not trying to fix you guys up.)
I would suggest you try to make friends with males without necessarily seeking a dating relationship. Male relatives can also give you some ideas on how males think and function.
If you are nice and pretty I will guarantee that some men have noticed you. Many men will not approach an attractive woman because they are afraid of rejection.
My suggestion is to relax, not be uptight. Seek the kind of relaxed encounters with males that will put both of you at ease. Don't worry too much about successful dating, because you are so young you have a lot of time.
Go for quality. It is perfectly okay for you to suggest to a man that you might be receptive to spending time with him.
Don't worry about sex. Most of the time it is best to not have it and particularly to reserve it for the truly special person in your life.
Above all, be friendly and interested in men you meet. Each is different, and many are very shy around women, especially nice and pretty ones.
Good luck.
By the way, church single groups are often a good place to meet in a very non-threatening environment.
2007-03-28 18:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, girl. There's nothing wrong with meeting guys and doing things with them; it's when it looks like you're desperate (and no one should be) that guys wonder if there's something wrong with you. My advice is to try doing things that aren't in your regular routine, and meet as many people (not just guys, but also girls) as you can. That way, you will open up more opportunities, and you can learn your way around. It takes patience and forethought, but it'll work a lot better than jumping into something you're not sure about. Okay? Good luck.
2007-03-28 18:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are great and you don't need to tell anyone you are a great catch. Go out and if you find a guy that is interested tell him that you are looking for a real man and see what he says? what can it hurt, you are not going anywhere and he may not be either so lets get together and have dinner. No sweat but it easier than it looks. Its not so bad you figure out what you really want when you get to know the real person. Know what you want and then go for it, we have nothing to loose, take care Heather
2007-03-28 18:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are too pretty and they are afraid of being turned down. Yes you should pursue them. And although you should take it slow and be yourself, remember to not wear Pendletons/combat fatigues - be sexy too and make them know it's not just about friendship, but the whole romance thing too.
2007-03-28 18:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 21 years old , and never had a boyfriend.. well if you are pretty and nice.. then i think you should make more male friends. so you can get to knoe them,and they might have a crush on you..
*just relax you with get one!
2007-03-28 18:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by ppriscilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one men love confidence not insecure sad women do you look sad .do you carry yourself as if your sad, do you value your appearance, are you too nice the things that you notice are wrong maybe the answer to your question so fix those things. once you realiz what it takes to get and keep a man it will be ok after that ...
2007-03-28 18:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by maqwa2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you, but it sounds like you should take some initiative, if you like a guy then be flirty with him and send him signals ur interested, smile and make eye contact
2007-03-28 18:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Chris M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u gotta dress\cute and act friendly. don't wear alot of jewerly. smile n say hi.relax sometimes it takes time,imarried @ 35
2007-03-28 18:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want one. Just don't let them know you think you are pretty.Maybe that's why you don't have one.They may think you're content with yourself, self-absorbed.
2007-03-28 18:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by Morningstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋